What do you think of quiet people?

Question

I think of myself as a very quiet person, even aloof and standoffish at times, but at the same time, I am very polite, formal, professional, dependable, etc. People may not get close to me but in time I earn their respect and they seem to acknowledge that I'm a decent person.

I get mixed reactions to this. I read something the other day that made a good point, in Eastern cultures in general they like that kind of person, but in Western cultures that person is looked down on.

Answer 1

I like quiet people, as long as they are *quietly confident*.

I like people who only talk when they actually have something to say.

I can't stand people who talk simply because they feel the need to fill the silence.

But I also don't like shy people who don't speak even when they *do* have something they want to say.

Answer 2

Some people assume that quiet people are stuck up, feel superior, or don't like the people they're with.  But being a quiet person myself, I know that's usually not the case.  When I encounter a quiet person, I figure they're either shy, don't like making idle conversation, or just prefer to observe and contemplate what's going on around them.  But quiet people usually have a lot more to say (that's worth listening to) than talkative people.  So I always hope I'll get a chance to know them better.

Answer 3

A quiet person is always better than someone who is mouthy or opinionated.  The Bible says that a fool who keeps his mouth shut is considered wise.

Answer 4

I'm very quiet too. But I can be very out going sometimes.

Some people might think your anti-social. Or a little weird.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with being a quiet type.. but you should never ever give the appearance of aloofness or standoffishness because that gives other people the impressio you believe you are better than them and that would not be nice at all that would be conceited and narrow minded but to be quiet .. and still polite and reliable that is good.. professional at work is good... but you should also try to join in a little bit to lose that image of being aloof.. because that's not a nice character trait.. and most people who are quiet are not aloof so try to work on that and get rid of this weakness irf you can ..  don't appear aloof and standoffish also don't be too formal all the time.. relax a little bit.. that will make you appear more approachable..  less standoffish also at work you can show respect and professionalism and reliability.. without being a very formal person.. that seems a person whom it is hard to approach.. if that person can't relax a little bit.. be a bit more open minded and you are going to be ok...  Quiet is fine but be open minded. and not standoffish and not aloof..  we are all equals..  that will make people keep their distance from you .. not the fact that you are quiet.. xx

Answer 6

I tend to be like this, too.  I used to be very shy.  In some ways, I still am, but nowhere near as much as I used to be.  Anymore now, I'm just more prone to keeping to myself.  I often don't join or start conversations unless someone speaks to me first.

I think some people probably see us as s****..  Others may just think that we don't want to talk.  Still yet, some people may just not know how to interpret our behavior.  At a previous job, this girl I worked with was always trying to get me to "be more social."  So yeah, I guess some people probably think we should change.

Answer 7

yea im totally the same way

i guess you just feel kinda awkward & shy but people can get past this but it is sometimes hard to make good friends on it becuz no one realizes what a great person you are bcuz you dont present yourself that way which is fine in your own personal boundaries & how comfortable you are

but sometimes its nice to say nothing then to make a fool out of yourself being loud to get attention

& in western colonies,like the U.S. where we live, i guess we are expected to portray a certain "style" or personality & that we are supposed to feel comfortable around new people & feel great enough to speak our minds

but thats really unfair becuz after all,most of us are normal & not robots  lol

so its quite normal & just be yourself & speak up when the time is right

:)

Answer 8

I am like that sometimes in public. But, real family and friends know that I am really smart and fun to be with! So, being shy I can understand. Try being more outgoing in public. Make it a practice, and you may overcome it someday. I am trying.

Answer 9

I'm  basically  a  quiet  person,  but  at  the  same  time  I  am  easy  to  be  with  'n  easy  to  talk  to.  The  worst  thing  about  being  quiet  tho,  imo,  is  that  other  ppl  always  want  to  seek  me  out  to  confide  intimate  and  personal  things  to  me...  most  of  the  time  I  don't  really  want  to  hear  it,  even  tho,  I  am  a  caring  person.  And  often,  if  I  offer  advice/counsel,  it  is  not  acted  upon  or  taken  seriously.  I  never  betray  a  confidence  tho.

Answer 10

Im a quiet person but once you get to know me people begin to really like me. Once in a while I put myself out there to be the first person to say hi or to start a conversation but most times I don't. Sometimes I feel like nothing needs to be said and that's it. I don't try to force conversation because then I just feel awkward. I always say silence is never a bad thing. lol

Being quiet and to myself is who I am and I have friends and family who appreciate that and that's all that counts.

Answer 11

Yes. I'm quiet and polite too. I'm decent too.

Some people respect me. There are nasty/rude people who allways try to annoy me to the best they can and/or disrespect me for no reason.

A lot of people doesn't seem to appreciate when others are quiet, as people nowadays is noisy.

There is nothing bad in being quiet.