What do you think of someone who calls a 7 yr old girl "a messy little b'i't'ch"?

Question

it was my bf mum who called my daughter lauren that

Answer 1

TWO WORDS: CHILD ABUSE

emotionally abusing a child at ANY age is wrong.

that would be the last time that lady saw MY kid!!! I hope you said something to the mother. I can't believe she would talk to a 7 year old that way.

keep your child away from her!!! does your bf show signs of treating your child this way ever? if not, watch him closely-if he was raised around a mother who talked that way, he may think it's ok for him to do this as well-not healthy for your daughter.

poor baby-that's SO awful.

I ended my 15 year relationship w/my best friend when she started being nasty towards my 3 daughters (my oldest in particular who was 8 at the time). My oldest is very timid and shy by nature and my friend had the audacity to call my daughter a "loser" and a "baby" b/c of her shyness. I told her off, kicked her out of my house and we no longer speak-nobody abuses my kid in ANY way

tell your bf that if he wants to visit his mom then he'll do it alone b/c you and your child are NEVER seeing her again!!

Answer 2

And what did you say to your bf's mother? I would of let her know my child is not the *****! Kids are kids and they do make messes. That's life! She should of just asked her to pick up her mess nicely. I personally would not let my children around someone that. What type of attitude would that adult teach my child and how will that affect my child's self esteem sooner or later?

Answer 3

I would make it perfectly clear to her that that kind of talk will not be allowed around yourself or your daughter.  Let her know that if she wants a relationship with your daughter that she will have to change how she treats your daughter, period.  You are her mother and it is you duty to protect your daughter from these sort of behavior.

Answer 4

Reading this topic...I was simply shocked and astonished - talking to a child in any manner but a positive one will only lead to a stuggling future.  The younger years of a child are meant to be consumed with confidence-building, not swearing.  I would hope that the average 7-year old would never say, nor experience words like the one in your topic.  To answer your question, what do i think of someone.  If it wasn't to the child's face, it really depends on the person (and i don't know them, you do) - were they angry? upset?  You have to consider the factors of a situation, and like many say, look at the perspective of others.  But if this woman said that to your daughter to her face, this is not someone you should associate your daughter with.  Curse words are the epiphony of downfalls in this country - next thing you know, you'll be seeing your precious daughter saying these exact words to someone at school...or even you.  Besides everything I've said, looking at the woman, judge her not by simple actions, but the steps that lead to these actions.  For your child, these early years are precious - make your she is happy and innocent (like she should be).

Answer 5

Anyone who belittles a child is ignorant and should not be around kids.

Answer 6

That you bf's mom is a loser.  Plain and simple.  If she can't get over a 7 year old girl leaving a couple of books around, maybe you shouldn't go there anymore.

Answer 7

i would definately think that she was immature and setting a bad example for your child. You should say something to her.

Answer 8

I think that women should be slapped , no one has the right to call a little girl that , its just wrong

Answer 9

I'd think that person probably has a pretty good sense of humour.

Answer 10

i think that person is rude and has no class and is jealous o f the 7 year old.the 7 year old should laugh at tell them that there rude and that the 7 year old is smarter and s better

Answer 11

That was a very nasty word to call a child, shame on her.

Answer 12

Whether or not your child is a little messy first of all she's SEVEN!!!!  And second your bf's mom has no right to talk to your daughter that way.  Either she stops or you need to kick the guy to the curb cause do you really want a mother or better put monster-in-law like that?  If your bf is okay with his mothers lack luster behavior the he also has to go.  Sorry to sound a little blunt, but as a single parent myself no guy is worth my childs self esteem or emotional security.  EVER!

Answer 13

That would be the absolutely last time my daughter would be near that women!  There is no reason that an adult would call a 7 year old little girl that....that is horrible!

Answer 14

Oh My God!

Are you sure you want a guy who had a mom like that?

I am answering this from personal experience, if you decide to marry him, you really do marry his family as well.

My son has been in therapy for over a year because of my inlaws.  His auntie, when he was trying to write his name in kindergarten and learn to tie his shoes, said "What's the matter with you, you don't know how to write your name--you can't even tie your shoes, what are you retarded.?"   My son has an IQ of 150, not that I believe in that sort of thing.

I avoid her like the plague!  If she insults my son again, however, I will confront the playground bully, and it will not be pretty!

Good Luck to you!   Tell your daughter she does not have to see the ***** again!

Answer 15

I don't think anything of someone who calls a 7 year old that.

If someone said that to my daughter they would get cussed out. Your bf should have spoken up as well. That is truly disrespectful.

Answer 16

JUST FOR LEAVING HER BOOKS ON THE FLOOR! You should 6itch-slap that old <unt! No joke, especially if she said it directly to your kid and not just to your face. |>amn old people think they can treat todays youth with no |=ucking repsect just cause they are already almost dead, |=uckin 6itches should be givin mad respect to our future.

Answer 17

Oh man if it where my daughter, you can be sure she'd never call her that again!  I don't care who it was!  Besides what kind of adult calls a 7 year old child a *********?  She must be a real prize!  I hope your daughter didn't hear her.  Poor thing!

Answer 18

If it was my kid, she would get a slap in the chops,a horrible word to use to a child,or anyone for that matter

Answer 19

i think if i was there i would have kicked his  ********  a ss

o i thought it was a guy "bf" but i think u need a new friend she sounds like a ******

Answer 20

You can't call a little kid that. I could see if your daughter was 10 or something and even then she's a child. Children's mind jump around randomly and sometimes they forget to clean up a toy after playing with it. Your daughter is going to make messes because it's her job too. Not saying that she shouldn't clean them up but out all my years baby-sitting and my own children they are going to make a mess. Don't listen to her and tell her to stop calling your daughter that before she trains your daughter to have low self-esteem. Stand up for what you know, and say your daughter is a kid and she's going make a mess that's life.

Answer 21

i think she is a frustrated person who was probably treated like that when she was younger....and i think you should definitely confront her about it and let your daughter know that its not okay for people to talk to her that way.

good luck!

Answer 22

tell ur bfs mum to get lost and tell her s***w u i dont want to marry ur son and find a new husband

Answer 23

YOUR  BF MOM???... oh no put ur foot down speak up and tell her not to to refer to ur daughter with those words... remind her of ur daughters birth name...and if the bf doesnt back u, dump the whole bunch...

Answer 24

I can't speak for everyone out there, but, ALL kids are untidy; ALL kids misbehave; ALL kids have bad manners/eating habits, at times, and it's whether and/or how they are corrected/told off/shown the correct manner in which to conduct themselves in various situations, that hopefully enables them to grow up into polite young people and adults.

As parents, we may all say and do things that maybe we shouldn't; we may even call our children names we shouldn't, in the heat of the moment.  BUT, right or wrong, they are OUR children.  Right or wrong, "I" can call my daughter what "I" like - (mind you, she's 21 now and will put me in my place if I overstep the mark!!!!!).  BUT, NO-ONE, and I do mean NO-ONE else can, or does!

She can be corrected.  She can be told off.  She can be told she is untidy, bad-mannered etc., etc., but she CANNOT be called names by someone else.  Well, not in my presence!

Have a word with your b/f's Mum, but not in the presence of your daughter - it gives way to them thinking that they can get away with things - you know the "ha ha, I'm telling Mummy, and she'll tell you off......" kind of situation, but tell her she can "ask" your daughter to pick her books up, tidy her room, help her etc., but she DOES NOT CALL HER NAMES!

I'm sorry, but if my daughter called me or someone else a "*****" at 7yrs. old, (or swore), I would have put a bar of soap in her mouth - I would be telling my b/f's Mum that if she called my daughter names again, she would get the same treatment!  Who the h**l does she think she is?????

And I apologise to all of those people out there who may disagree with my methods, but, my daughter only ever swore at me once as a child!!! She only bit me once also - she found out that it hurt!!!

Answer 25

I think that you need to sit down and tell your bf that if your daughter hears any more swear words, or takes any more abuse his mother will be unwelcome.

If the child is in her care, I think it time to look for another carer.

Answer 26

was she saying it to YOU or your daughter? if she said B* to you its to hurt YOU and has nothing to do with your daughter.

Answer 27

I think they should think before they speak, something most mothers nag us about. Practice before you preach!

Answer 28

sounds like the lady is just a bitter old messy bit*h herself...i mean, who calls alittle girl a "messy *****"???? shes a child for christ sakes...we can all be alittle messy when we are kids...i'd say that person has a personal problem regarding you and/or your child..watch out for this woman....i would...

Answer 29

IF SHE CALLED YOUR DAUGHTER THAT MAYBE YOU SHOULD SIT DOWN WITH HER AND HAVE A TALK ABOUT HER ACTIONS BECAUSE THATS VERY DISRESPECTFUL TO CALL A CHILD SOMETHING LIKE THAT

Answer 30

she is not someone I would choose to have my doughter aroudn again period

new b/f time

is she psycho?

issues

no reason for a grown woman to call a  y/o that to her face

Answer 31

depends, ive seen alot of little spoiled girls around that age and thought to myself.. what a spoiled little S**t. i dont know about saying it out loud though