What do you think of teenage girls and birth control?

Question

my step-daughter is 13yr old and she lives with her father and I she only visits her mother maybe twice a month. she isnt a very good mother. we have sole costody of her. her mother isists we put her on birth control. her dad is completly against it. i dont know what to think. she is absoluty beautiful and has a really outgoing personality. we know what she is doing at all times when she is here and she never stays all night with anyone. i was thinkin that maybe her mother lets her do stuff there that we would not and thats why she thinks we should

Answer 1

maybe its for her period cramps or something . i think her mom is trying to prevent her from getting preganant.

Answer 2

I think you should put her on it, but only if SHE wants to as well.  I don't know about you, but I had plenty of opportunities to get into trouble when my parents knew exactly where I was and what (almost) I was doing.  Unfortunately kids are having s*x more and more these days and if you read enough on here you will know they are not well informed about protection and STDs. There is an underlying part to your question, and that is there isn't trust that the mother is doing her part to make sure your step-daughter stays out of trouble. That is hard, and something I have no advice for.  I lost my virginity at 14 (oh that's awful my niece is almost that age) and I did not use protection, although I knew the consequences and I have thanked God many times for that one.  I say better safe then sorry, and it seems a little unrealistic to think that most kids are going to wait.  

Good luck and I hope this helped.

Answer 3

I think if the 13 year old agrees to it,you should put her on birth control,just to be safe.

Answer 4

First and foremost, you need to speak with the 13 year old directly about her body and her s*x life (or lack thereof).  She is the one who is doing it or not doing it.  Secondly, IMHO, there's absolutely nothing wrong with a teenager taking birth control.  It's not a guarantee that she'll have s*x, but if she happens to at least she's on BC.  It's the responsible thing to do, regardless of how you and your husband feel about teen s*x.

Answer 5

Maybe if they're on birth control they think, "Well I'm protected so I can do anything I want"....Not saying everyone's like that at all, just my opinion, but it's sad, they're still kids!!!

Answer 6

If you feel that is what is best for her then I say go for it. what is something was going on that should not be. Her dad just does not want to agree that she is growing up.

Answer 7

birth control helps with:

less acne,

no cramps,

shorter period time,

not to mention not getting pregnant,

I think that mother is smarter then you!

wouldn't you want her to be on the pill and not having s*x then having s*x and getting pregnant?

Just put the kid on the pill and tell her  to abuse it.