What do you think of the birthday gift he gave me for my birthday?

Question

He gave me a knife set on he got for free after watching an infomercial on TV. It was one of those buy one...get one free things. I guess he got one of the knife sets and decided to give me the free one.

I was totally disappointed in the gift even before I knew he got it free.

Now I am thinking he is being a total cheapskate and I dont know whether or not to tell him I know he got me a freebee for my birthday.

He isnt poor. He works a full time job which is very lucrative and makes more than me, you and everyone else I know. I cannot believe he had the gall to do this.

How would you respond to his cheapness?

Answer 1

Okay so he isn't your husband and your 'dating', he felt a practical gift would work with you.

Many gals on this site complain that their guyfriend forgot their birthdays completely at least he remembered!

It sounds like he doesn't gives you much at all, so why do you date him?

Answer 2

I know some guys are bad at picking out gifts, but that is just crazy bad.  I would definitely bring it up to him.  I know it is not really the gift, it is the thought that counts, but that is really sad. If bringing it up to him does not work, then I would give him the same kind of gifts for his birthday and stuff. Maybe if he gets it then he will understand. Or break up with him, cause that is just crazy.  

Answer 3

I know I would be disappointed and hurt. Who is he? Is he your husband/boyfriend/friend? Either way it doesn't matter. He gave you a thoughtless gift and should have put more effort into. Even if it was free or not, it should have been something that you would have appreciated.  

Answer 4

For me, gifts are about thought, not value. so the fact that it was free wouldn't matter to me... but did you even want a knife set? Did he get it thinking you would like the free perk or did he just try to plug the freebee as a birthday present so he wouldn't have to go out and buy one?

If you were dissappointed with the gift before finding out it was free it's because it wasn't a very thoughtful gift. People can make mistakes on presents, and some people just don't have much talent for it. But if his reputation precedes him, he may just be someone who doesn't put any thought or effort into presents and doesn't want to share or give anything other than to get credit for the gesture.

My response would be to give him back the present and tell him to recycle it on his next girlfriend.

Answer 5

You didn't define your relationship, but I'll assume you're his GF or wife. That being the case, I'd give him something cheap and thoughtless for his birthday or Christmas or whatever the next gift-giving holiday is -- maybe a collection of free shampoo samples. ;)

Answer 6

I would respond graciously with a "thank you" and not pass judgment on him for giving me something that he supposedly got for free. He didn't really get it for free, ya know. When you buy things like he did, you actually pay a little more than if you had bought something comparable in a retail store. Perhaps he gave you the one he paid for and kept the free set for himself.

Any way you look at it, you shouldn't question WHAT he got you for your birthday. The important thing is that he thought enough of you to actually give you something for your birthday.  

Answer 7

Give him a 6 pack for his birthday. See how he like it.

Answer 8

Being cheap isn't that bad but if he purchases cheap and unfitting gifts its time for a change. Make sure that next time he knows items that are affordable and items that you would actually like. Thank him for it this time and ignore it. I buy low priced items for gifts too but they are always items that the recipient would like or needs. Be thankful and give him a thoughtful gift on his birthday because that is what I would do.

Answer 9

Well you knew it 7 yrs ago and you think he is going to change?  Wake up and smell the coffee kiddo the man is cheap and has no shame so either suck it up or move on!

Answer 10

I'd say "Well, thanks for the free do-it-yourself-divorce-kit. Now let's go out and get me a REAL gift!"