What do you think of the term 'private parts'?

Question

At my step daughter's school, she got in trouble for saying "v****a" Shes 7 and in the 1st grade. The teacher had a chat with her mom and said " that is not an appropriate word for school, she must say private part" She was calling it the correct name!! I don't get it!!!

Answer 1

It is good that she is comfortable calling her body parts by their correct name.  

But...  She should also be taught to be polite & considerate of other people's feelings of discomfort.  

I certainly don't think she should be punished for using the proper words to describe her body parts.  But, a good lesson for her to learn right now would be "It is not polite to talk about the parts of your body that you use to go to the bathroom, when you're in a public place.  Many people are uncomfortable talking about those parts of the body and it is not polite to make other people feel uncomfortable when it is not necessary."

Answer 2

That teacher sounds like she has something stuck in her "private part" Your daughter is 7 not 3 and honestly all the other kids probably know what it's called you're daughter was just caught saying it. Explain to your daughter that she needs to say private parts instead of v****a so she wont get into any trouble at school but you're doing a good job in educating your daughter.

Answer 3

kids these days cant say what they want to say, let her say v****a, its not a bad word, and disregard what her teacher says. v****a is a scientific word for it, and its not a slang term like p*ussy or cl*it

Answer 4

My kids know the correct terms.

I guess I would find out how she was using the word v****a. Maybe it has more to do with the context in which she used it. If not I would want to meet with the school to straighten it out.

Answer 5

u do not have a name called a "private part" u either say it or u dont.

Answer 6

The term "private parts" is applying to most part of the body that was covered with clothes...(and i hate to think that there are private and public parts..lol!)

Giving the right name to a body part is not improper she should be punished when saying it.  My daughter knows exactly what to be called of hers at the age of 4.  But we also taught her of substitutes; that whenever she is conversing with people outside our family, she must be using the substitute word.

When we speak of etiquette, the word v****a sounds so vulgar that it causes discomfort to the one hearing it, spoken of a child.  But there is nothing to be embarrassed teaching a child of the right word, regardless how coarse it would be sounding.

There is no harm in following the "school rules"; our role as parents is to keep them from ignorance...they should be taught of precise word to distinguish things, provide them also the thought of "what made a word becomes improper to use" at a time, or place...

remember:  PARENTING IS NOT FOR THE COWARD!

Answer 7

your step daughter shouldn't be punished for using the proper name nor should she be made to feel that it's a "bad" word.  

At the same time, other parents may be more conservative and not want their children learning and using the word v****a at that age

The teacher is trying to keep the peace.  

Perhaps you can teach your step daughter that we use "private parts" at school, but "v****a" elsewhere.

there are going to be times throughout her life where the rules of etiquette are going to vary, so it won't hurt her to get used to that now, as long as she understands that she didn't do anything wrong, it's just a "school rule."

Answer 8

i dont think they should say "priat parts" cause i dot make my kids cause i know that they ill learn it soonerr or later like my daughter is 6 and she says v****a, d**k, poosy, and more...

Answer 9

I don't think much of it. . .

Answer 10

that teacher has a stick up her butt, it feels,if you say private part how do they know you mean butt,boobies,p***s,or v****a.its the proper name so why cant she use it?talk to the teach bout it

if she said it in a bad way thats different because then i have no idea

Answer 11

i would tell the teacher that she's behind the times. it is always better to be precise.

Answer 12

Kids at this age don't know much about their "stuff" and thats probably why she got in trouble. plus if it got a laugh from the class, then she could possibly end up doing it again. just have a chat with her explaining to her the situation. tell that she was correct on using the word but not correct on the appropriate time and place.

Answer 13

Well, I applaud you and her parents for teaching your daughter correctly.  Most of the kids I see (I'm a teacher) don't know the right terminology mainly because their parents are too scared/embarrassed to talk to their kids.  I have found, in my community, that these are the kids that end up getting pregnant at a really young age. I think s*x education is important to keep our kids safe.   A lot of people may say that it makes kids premiscuous, but it really doesn't.  

Now, the whole "private parts" thing.... If it is school policy, then you can't really do much about it.  They might be just doing that for liability issues.  I would much rather them say "private parts", though, than having a nickname for it or having a slang term for it.  I guess I'm kinda split on this since I see both sides.... .:)

Answer 14

That is strange. I suppose you could make the argument that it's not PC, but I don't agree.

If I were in your position, I would tell your step daughter that it's perfectly fine to use that word at home, but people at her school may not be comfortable with it, so she should respect that.