What do you think of this girl, who was asked to be a bridesmaid?

Question

My cousin is getting married and she asked a college friend to be a bridesmaid. I overheard this girl say to someone "Why would she ask me, I haven't talked to her in years! I feel like she must not have any friends better to ask." My cousin is in her late 20s and really doesn't have a lot of friends. I feel sorry for her. I feel like telling her to take back her offer.

Answer 1

i would tell her. weddings are supposed to be fun for everyone and if this girl didn't want to be a bridesmaid she might make the wedding miserable

Answer 2

Tell her what you overheard and let her make her own decision!

Answer 3

Tell your cousin about this woman's comments, and let the bride decide whether or not she still wants the person in her wedding or not.  I certainly would not want a person in my wedding that made such a comment, but I would like to know about it before the wedding is ruined by gossip or other comments that are rude and hurtful.

Answer 4

You should just tell your cousin what you heard the girl say.. then your cousin should make up her own mind but I agree, I would not want someone like that as my bridesmaid but the final decision should be that of your cousin... x*x just tell her what this girl said.. or woman... and if I was your cousin I would tell her.. .that I had changed my mind but it's up to your cousin.. you just tell her what this other person said.. she should not be a bridesmaid... xx

Answer 5

She should withdraw the offer and someone should tell the b*tch off...it is such an honor to be a bridesmaid...only a terrible person would say something like that girl did...you deffinately need to tell your cousin to withdraw the offer, but let her know gently what happened.  This idiot girl will ruin the wedding if she is a bridesmaid...

Answer 6

tell her to withdraw the offer.

Answer 7

That's a tough situation. Maybe the girl was simply commenting on that fact, and you said it was true, so it doesn't sound like she was saying it just to be mean. If she didn't mean to be mean and really does want to be in the wedding and she likes your cousin, telling something to the bride might hurt her feelings and she probably already has enough stress without feeling hurt about her choice. I don't think it would hurt to have someone like this in her wedding, if the bridesmaid really didn't want to do it she could have said no. If you feel like it's your place to tell your cousin, though, then go ahead, because you might regret not doing it later. Just some things to think about.