What do you think of this letter i wrote to my dad about lip piercings?

Question

First off, I want you to realize that I am 16, seventeen in 6 months. I am a junior in high school. I know you know all of this, but I just wanted to point it out so that you keep it in the back of your mind, as you read this, that I am not a child.

Second, I want you to know that I have been thinking about this for months now and that this is not a random impulsive decision. Lip rings are a big responsibility, and I am more than ready to take that on.

Third, I want you to know that if you do not let me get a lip ring now, I will respect your decision, although I will disagree with it. I will get a lip ring once I turn 18, because I won’t need your permission, and I am sure that I will still want one. However, I really want you to support me and trust me enough to let me get one now, because I want to express my style in high school, and not wait until college

Also, lip rings are not permanent! When I decide that I don’t want it anymore, I can take it out, and the tiny hole heals over easily without leaving a scar. I have researched this and have seen many personal experiences that tell me that the hole is too small to cause any real tissue damage.

I am not asking you for a tattoo (which I have seen on many kids in my grade at school), or to dye my hair blue (which I have also seen countless times). I am asking you for a simple piece of jewelry. This is just like any earring except that it’s in a less common place. You always told me to be a leader and think for myself, and this is me doing so. I do not want to look like everyone else. I want to stand out and be different. However, lip rings are not so uncommon in teenagers that I would be thought down upon for having one. Also, I have seen many people at Etowah with facial piercings, including nose, eyebrows, tongue, and lip, so I know that the school does not have a rule against these things.

Unlike a tattoo or funky hair color, I can take out my lip ring (after the initial healing process of about two weeks) when I go to formal occasions or any place where it wouldn’t be considered “appropriate.”

I know that you only hesitate on saying yes because either 1) you are afraid of the safety and health issues, 2) you think I will regret doing this when I am older, or 3) you think it looks unattractive.

To reply to those:

1) If you take me to a professional body piercing parlor, there is a VERY low risk of any complications. While lip rings are not as common as other piercings, they are still common enough that the professional has had much experience in doing them. Lip rings are one of the fastest healing piercings. They are much less likely to get infected than most other piercings, including ears. Plus, surprisingly, I have heard from friends and read that lip piercings do not hurt nearly as bad as you think they would. It feels about like biting your lip. There is the initial pinch, but then it is over with.

2) As I said, when I decide that I need to get rid of the lip ring, I can do so easily simply by taking it out and allowing the hole to heal. There are no scars and there really is nothing to regret. I have no regrets in my life so far because I think you should live every day to the fullest. There is no point in trying to please any one else or fit in with other people’s standards because they should not matter to you.

3) I’m sorry if you don’t think lip rings are attractive, but I love them. They are a great way to express my style without doing anything permanent or irremovable. I don’t understand how you could tell me to be a leader and then not let me get a simple piercing just because you don’t like how it looks.

Lastly, lip rings are not very expensive. At tattoo and body piercing parlors, they generally cost between $30 and $50. I am more than willing to do housework or other chores to earn this money and pay for it myself.

Thank you for considering this. I wrote this in a letter because I feel that if I just asked you, you wouldn’t give me time to explain all of this or let you know that this isn’t an impulsive decision on my part. I have thought about this a lot and I know that I would be much happier and more comfortable with myself as a person if I knew that how I looked was a reflection of my character and not just a clone of other teenage girls.

Answer 1

you should also put in there how much pleasure your boyfriend wil get when it rubs against his c**k....goooooooooo 4 gold!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

i dont think it was necessary to wrie a letter i just think you should of done it and delt with it later

Answer 3

i think they letter is very good and you have a good chance of impressing/convincing your dad. i think you should tone down on the sophisticated language though.  he'll think your trying to be fake to get something you want. :-) hope i helped

Answer 4

Um i didn't read what u wrote but who cares be a rebel and get one.

Answer 5

Well put. :) You listed many good points and I think he'll understand.

Answer 6

through writing this you're clearly responsible enough to make up your own mind about getting a piercing, but getting your fathers permission is very good of you. if he reads and still doesnt let you,then he clearly doesnt realise you're grown up enough to make your decisions. good job

i got my eyebrow pierced at 16 without my dads permission and he was not happy, he told me to take it out, and i told him i didnt just pay 70 bucks to take it out an hour later and get and infection, and that was that!

good luck!

Answer 7

Okay... so the letter itself is a plea/beg although you do get your point across....  

Now, My opinion of lip rings...  although the rings themselves are not permanent, the scar that they leave behind is.  Also, they do not look nice and often put across the image of trashiness.  If I were your parent (let me say that I am not old), I would ask you to wait and think about getting one for two years.  Also, I went to school with a girl who had a facial piercing that got infected (even though she took care of it) and she ended up with a horrible scar that she now has to live with for the rest of her life.  Please reconsider your decision.

Answer 8

why would you get a lip ring? Don't ruin yourself...unless you are into Good Charlotte or any other really bad music.

also, you are going way too far...go get your ear pierced or some new earrings.  

Answer 9

"I will get a lip ring once I turn 18, because I won’t need your permission,"

replace this with "i will wait until i am 18" if you say i don't need your permission that may be taken the wrong way and seem like you are being mean

"(which I have seen on many kids in my grade at school)" and "(which I have also seen countless times)" take out, this can be also taken the wrong way and he may say the line "if the other kids jump off the bridge would you?" and that can lead to a fight.

"I wrote this in a letter because I feel that if I just asked you, you wouldn’t give me time to explain all of this or let you know that this isn’t an impulsive decision on my part." i would put this in the beginning and he may put more attention into what you write.

these are just suggestions, i don't know your father and i am just going by what i think would be best but do what you think is best and other than that its good ^_^ good luck!

Answer 10

It's perfect,it uses common sense instead of winging and it's written in a mature way,I think you've done a great job,hope your dad agrees

best of luck!

Answer 11

I like it, but the closing sentence sounds a little childish.

Answer 12

this is great

can u write me one about how i should be allowed to get a small tattoo??   plz lol

Answer 13

s***w your dad and do what you want

Answer 14

too long to read

Answer 15

sounds fanatastic.

if you were my daughter, i would let you get one after reading that letter.

Answer 16

This is almost as good as the Hello Kitty Tattoo question.  I bet school wouldn't even let you wear it there.

Answer 17

i think its good hopefully your dad will understand

Answer 18

This just might work on your dad. I won't guarantee it, but it seems to cover enough to the point where he might consider it for a good amount of time. I know that I would. Good luck earning that money.

Answer 19

that's a pretty good argument. i would let you get one if i was ur parent. good job.

Answer 20

it's nice that you wrote him a letter and will respect his decision until you are old enough to go on your own. but you may want to shorten it just a tad, too long. and i want to point something out:

When I decide that I don’t want it anymore, I can take it out, and the tiny hole heals over easily without leaving a scar."

they will most likely leave a tiny scar, i've had my monroe done and theres a tiny scar there, you can't see it if you're just looking at me but you can see it if i tell you. and my boyfriend had snake bites and took one of his lip piercings out and he has a small sacr from where it healed over. just thought i'd let you know, not trying to scare you or change your decision, just giving you some info :]

Answer 21

I think it is a good letter well written, and I know you don't want to hear it because I didn't either when I was your age. But your not as old at 16 as you think you are. I did a lot of things then that I look back on now and realize how immature I really was. You shouldn't need material things to make you stand out....be yourself then you'll really stand out. I see piercings and think desperate for attention not different. And lastly judging from your avatar pic you appear to be an attractive girl so you shouldn't need piercings, tattoo, etc, to get peoples attention. You will see things differently as you get older trust that, and you will be old very soon, so enjoy your youth.

Good luck either way, and please trust your parents, they care about you more than you know.

Answer 22

You make some good points in your letter.

However, if he already told you no, you need to let this go.

You're a minor. His house - his rules.

If you want one so badly, you'll still want it when you're 18.  Waiting two years is nothing.

Answer 23

I think it's long but looking at your avatar I think you're hot. You shouldn't get a lip piercing, that would ruin your awesomeness.

Answer 24

I'm convinced :)

Answer 25

Man you really want this. If I were your dad I would say.. lets go!

Answer 26

i read the whole thing and i think its pretty good. i think your  dad will let you have one until your 18 not right now though. so just be patient.

Answer 27

ewww..just get a magnet and express yourself that way.  Don't put another hole in your body.  

This is so funny that this seems to be the most important thing in your life right now.  In 2 years when you are 18 you will probably have forgotten all about it..but you should def save this letter to look back on and read when you have your own teenagers.

Answer 28

Thats really good! Accurate too! (however initial healing isnt two weeks, you really shouldnt chop and change jewerelly after two weeks cause you will cause tissue damage) But i think thats a very mature letter, and you explain yourself perfectly so POWER TO YOU =)

Good luck with this, im rooting for ya

Let me know how this goes?

Answer 29

good and its nice you wrote a letter, it shows maturity. Rewrite the first sentence. It sounds like the start of a childish debate, which is the exact opposite of the message you are trying to send across. Sat "Dad, I'm 16 and even though you may see me as still your little girl I feel that I am becoming woman".  dont put appropiate in quotes, it sounds slightly mocking.

Answer 30

Well he would probably take one look at it and say" I'm the parent so no". So I would say make it a little shorter, other than that it sounds really good and convincing.

Good luck

Answer 31

its long, but thats better to show ur dad, its great, you cover about everything

good luck getting it :]