What do you think of this moms?

Question

so i have been a nanny for the same kids for almost 3 years. i first started working with them when they were 6 months and 2.5 years old now they are almost 3 and almost 5.

for the first year i was with them full time and then it went to part time and then it went to occasional and then the parents jobs changed and they didnt need childcare at all. so i got a new job. and around may the mom(of the 3 and 5 year old) begged me to come back and watch them for the summer. so i quit my job to work with them. and today she said that shes "concerned with how this are going" and i was like what do you mean she said well they are acting different when i come home they are always whining and fussing and act different. yesterday the mom was home and the 3 year old kept whining every time the mom came in the room and then she would laugh with her brother after her mom left... she said that they liked to take naps and now they fight it and scream when its nap time all of a sudden ever since i came

Answer 1

Sit down and talk to her about it, and tell her it's really hard to take care of them when she is home and in the room occasionally.  If she works at home, ask her to set up an area off limits to the kids and she only comes out where the kids are during lunch or something.

I used to be a nanny and that's what one mom I nannied for did.  She worked at home, but set up an office in the basement and stayed there so it wasn't so hard for the kids.

Answer 2

I think she wouldn't be having a problem if she was raising her own kids! Considering that would eliminate your work, I guess tell her to set up nanny cams if she isn't happy with your services.

Answer 3

The problem is her's.

She has chosen to have her children minded & so the nanny becomes the main carer while the Mum is at work.

If the Mum comes home, then she is the disruptive one & the child will play up in a way that they wouldn't if they were with either the Mum or the carer without the other being present.

Don't allow her to apportion blame but encourage her to read up on these matters where she will find that her children are displaying normal behaviour.

Do not let her off load her guilt onto you by allowing her to criticise you when the children whine.