What do you think of this relationship? will it make it in the long run?

Question

i met my bf when we were neighbors and started to have feelings for him. i know his wife and kids. stayed a secret until his wife found out about us. we both took off. he left his wife and kids behind. we are now living together. i work the weekend shifts so i don't see him. he works two jobs m-f and i go to school. he has the kids every other weekends. we are on the phone constantly when not together. i need to know where he is at and what he is doing. in the past he has told me that he wants to go back to his wife and kids. the wife has forgiven him and is will to work things out. am i paranoid? does he love me?

sorry so long

thank you

Answer 1

Once a cheater always a cheater

Answer 2

your a a rebound chick and it won't last sorry  

Answer 3

He is not your boyfriend.  He is her husband.  He belongs to them...His family until and IF he ever gets a divorce.  You have a lot to be paranoid about.  She will probably win in the long run.  You should also be ashamed of yourself.

Answer 4

na, he will do the same to you as he did her. dont get too attached!

Answer 5

if he wants to be with his family then you should let him. it doesn't sound like he loves you more like he is infatuated with you and is confused about some other issues. i don't think that this relationship will last due to the way it started. if you start out as a secret then its not going to last long at all.

Answer 6

This is why I stay away from married women.  I'm guilty of breaking up a marriage with a woman several years ago.  She cheated on her husband to be with me....and ended up divorcing him over me.  I felt like scum but all is fair in love and war.

However....there's one saying that rings true for me and it's been proven to me over and over...and this girl who cheated on her husband for me is no acception....

"Once a cheater, always a cheater."  And yes...she cheated on me and that's why we are no longer together.

Answer 7

He cheated on his wife hmmm HELLO that right there shows you that he cannot be trusted.  You deserve everything that is coming to you and if they go back to one another that would be halarious.  You should know better he was a married man with children.  You broke those childrens heart and the wifes too.  He did this to himself as well.  He is a loser.  Change your ways and find a single guy.

Answer 8

No, this "relationship" won't last.

He betrayed a holy vow to love honor and protect his WIFE.

And he gave her up for some easy girl next door. How do you expect he'll treat you? You think he'll honor his word to you? You'd better hope both your neighbors are ugly.

And of course he wants to go back to his wife. He knows what terrible crimes he's committed with you. Can't you see that? Can't you see how you are a guilty accompliss to hurting an innocent wife and some very innocent children?

And how, pray, can you live with yourself, knowing the pain you've inflicted upon this family? How can you get up in the morning and call yourself a decent person with this terrible crime on your hands?

I would imagine you of all people would be hastening him to do the right thing and return home.

I think greed, stupidity, and self indulgence have wounded these children forever. I think they very well might be scarred for life.

And I think you are to blame for it.

Now tell these childrens' father to pack and get back to his home.

And you need to leave that family alone!  

Answer 9

Lets say it wont last,  cuz sooner or later he will realise his family comes first...

Answer 10

I think this is sure to end up in a heartbreaking mess. You                                                  , his poor kids his wife are all going to be hurt.Thing is if he stays with you he will end up doing this to you once a cheat always a cheat i hope you find someone who loves only you. Take care

Answer 11

He cheated on her, you think he'll do it again and he probably will. Better to let him go and find a guy with an ounce of morals. Will it make it in the long run? My guess is no.  

Answer 12

Never going to last. You have built-in trust issues, because you are proven cheaters!

If he doesn't go back to wifey, he'll leave you for the next amoral broad who sleeps with him. Either way, you made a really bad decision, and you'll have to suffer the consequences.

Karma is a real bltch, huh?

Answer 13

Never going to work. If it was easy for him to cheat on his wife what do you think he will do to you if something better comes along.  And really do you want to spend your life struggling to pay his child support come on.

Answer 14

No he doesn't love you dingbat!  He was getting free p*ssy from you...

Answer 15

For one if he cheated with you what makes you think he won't cheat on you?

Second he left his wife and kids and WANTS to go back.  And she wants him back.  He's probably going to be gone very very soon.

Men don't lie when they tell you negative things.  If they tell you they want to leave, or that they can't be with you, or that they're not right for you, they mean it.  Don't expect it to be different than it is.

Let him go, move on, and don't be the other woman anymore.  Gain some self respect!

Answer 16

most if not all of the previous answers are from women.. I'm a guy.  From my perspective I would have to thought long and hard about the decision I was making. If I cheat there is no going back to the way it was.  Physically and emotionally it just won't happen, especially if the wife knows about it.  If the wife knows, she will be hurt and unforgiving.  If they do work it out she will always hold that over his head.  It will be a cloud over his head and a leash around his neck FOREVER.  Not me If I am Going to cheat I am going down that road and not looking back because going forward you have half a chance to be happy.  going back you are asking for a life of guilt trips, hang ups, relentless questions. Where have you been? Who have you been talking to? Why did you delete this message or that message, what did you spend your money on? Why does it take you so long to do this or that? I don't care what counselor puts you two back together again it is never the same. Women say they forgive, but they don't forget.  As an example, ask you mother "what was the first piece of furniture or household item that I broke as a child."  Trust me she will remember, and that is nothing compared to an affair.  I'm a guy, I'll tell you straight, goin back is the last thing I would do.