What do you think of this unique situation? Baby's Momma Drama to the MAX!?

Question

I (20 y/o) started dating my boyfriend (23 y/o) about 4/mths ago.

He had just broken up with this other girl (23 y/o) he dated for about 3/mths who had 2 kids from 2 different fathers, one of which she does not have custody of.

3 or 4 weeks after he and i got together he gets a phone call from this girl saying she is about 2 months pregnant with his child.

My BF was devistated and was afraid to tell me but he did and i have chosen to stay with him despite this other girl (I shared with my BF that i had had an abortion about 1 1/2 years before with an ex-BF (28 y/o) of 3 years and he had 3 kids from another woman (36 y/o) who had 6 kids total with 3 different guys)

She has chosen not to have an abortion or give it up for adoption but raise it herself. She does not get child support for the other 2 kids and said she would not persue him for support.

He does not plan on having anything to do with her even after the child is born.

I support his choice 100% and plan to stay with him.

Answer 1

What do I think of it?

I'd need to understand it before I could form an opinion.

Answer 2

There are no words to describe the pity I have for all those children.  Your boyfriend should be ashamed of himself, for denying his own child, and you should be ashamed of yourself for supporting him.  If he were a real man, he would do everything in his power to take care of his child.

Answer 3

Please don't ever breed.  Get an education and pull your head out of your bf's ***.  You sound like you are jockeying to be on Jerry Springer or some equally trashy show.

Answer 4

Maury would have a field day with this, I hope you know that. As long as she stays out of your way completely, things should be fine.

Answer 5

The minute she starts collecting welfare checks for that kid she'll have to come after him for child support, she won't have a choice.  Oh and she will have to go on welfare if he's not supporting her and she has two other kids.  If you want to stay with him that is your choice but just because she says she's staying out of his life now doesn't mean it will happen.  And I don't see how much respect you can have for a man who doesn't support his children.

Answer 6

honestly, do you really want to be with someone who wants nothing to do with his child? If he can do it to her, he can do it to you.

Answer 7

"Baby's Momma Drama to the MAX!?"  

Not really.  It's actually pitifully common.  (In more than one sense of the word.)

But why do you sound PROUD of all this destructive-to-children nonsense?

If you plan on trying to get on Springer, I believe the female in such situations is generally referred to as the "babymomma."

Drop the guy and go back to school, before you're calling him your "babydaddy."

Answer 8

You sound like a great couple, do you plan on having children?

Answer 9

It really depends on the man, but I have found that most men will not abandon their offspring no matter what.

Answer 10

So whats the drama exactly. He's not going to be in the picture and you are ok with that. She dont want support so thats another thing you dont have to deal with.

Do you have an actual problem? Cuz I don't see one.

*edit* I agree with tracy too. You dont seem to have a real problem except you are a little to much like springers guests only difference no one is strip fighting and doing there parents.

Answer 11

Do yourself and the world a favor. Drop him, get an education, and pull yourself out of the Jerry Springer lifestyle rut. Seriously.

Answer 12

C-O-N-T-R-A-C-E-P-T-I-O-N

Answer 13

Absolutely nothing. This situation has nothing 2 with you. Staying with him totally your choice, and just because he is going to have a child. He also deserves to have a relationship with the person he wants as long as the other person wants one as well. Now not having anything to do with her after the child is born mean that he is not going to support it. Because if is going to support it he has to have something to do with her. And if he is taking her up on the offer on not supporting the child. You as a woman need to look at that from all situations. Because if he chose not take care of his child, he might do the same thing if it was you who was pregnant

Supporting him 100% is fine, but if he is not going to be a man in that situation then he wont be a man in your own situation which is as your BF