What do you think of weddings where the bride and groom don't invite people?

Question

When I get married that's what I want my wedding to be like. Also, what would be a good way to tell my boyfriend this? I don't think he would be mad.

Answer 1

smart

richer than those who spend huge sums having a huge wedding

I had a large expensive wedding and if I could go back it is one of the things I would change  

Answer 2

I think that's fine.  Remember, your wedding is for you and your partner, but bear in mind that those that love you really want to witness such a special event in your life!

My husband and I had a very intimate wedding ceremony with only our parents, siblings, grandparents and attendants present.  It was at a cozy wedding chapel in an old village in the city.  This was followed by a small reception of about 65 people at a formal restaurant on the shores of Lake Erie.  The restaurant was happy to close off their main dining room to hold our wedding reception.  We didn't have a dance or anything, but were able to share our day with our families (i.e. Aunts, Uncles, cousins) and friends.

This was far less stressful than my sisters' formal church wedding of nearly 300 people, followed by a full catered banquet, dance, and midnight buffet.  Topping that off, she got married on New Year's eve, and at the stroke of midnight there was a champagne toast, ballon drop, and full out New Year's celebration.  While the party was fun, it was very hectic.

Answer 3

It's usually called an elopement. And some people simply don't want to turn what should be a private and special time, into a public show. There's also the little matter of cost - some weddings cost about the same as the down payment on a house or condo. That's a no-brainer for most young couples in my books.  

Answer 4

he will think wierd cuz he will want his family to see him get married

Answer 5

What do I think ... ?

Well I think it is YOUR day and you should be able to plan it however you want ... BUT .. and If I were your family .. I'd understand completely

I'm not your family who have loved and cared for you for all your life... so I do think that you're asking the wrong people...

Answer 6

I think it is totally up to the couple.

Marriage is between the bride and groom.

It is intended for SOMEONE to witness, however, so I would hope that you would include your parents and siblings.  Other than that I don't think you owe a wedding celebration to anyone.

If you and your bf decide to throw a party later that day or at another time in order to celebrate with friends that is great.  If not, that's great, too.

I would send out announcements to friends and relatives so people don't feel that they were left out of your special day.

Answer 7

It's your wedding, it's your day, it's your families...do what you want.    His family traditions may interfere with your plans, be prepared.  Don't assume that he won't be mad, make sure you discuss this and be open minded to his suggestions of what he wants.  You don't want to start out on the wrong foot.  Good luck.

Answer 8

The man and the woman want to marry discreetly and maybe spend less so they marry in private.

Answer 9

Alot of people do it like this! Its totally fine. Worrying about your boyfriends reaction to this should worry yourself. If you're thinking about marrying him, it shouldn't be that difficult for you to talk about little things like this..

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong with not wanting a bid wedding. If and when he asks you to marry him you ask him how he wants to do it because you would like to.... He might completely agree. If he does not and wants his parents to go they can go to the justice of the peace or the court house with you.  

Answer 11

I think it's smart. much more affordable.

Simply sit him down and explain what you want and why. tell him your plans. If he wants something else be willing to compromise.

who knows? you could have a huge wedding and no reception, or a private wedding and a huge reception.

And maybe

he'll want the same thing you want.

Answer 12

I am not understanding what sort of wedding it is you want.  If the Bride and Groom don't invite people then who goes to the wedding and what is the point of even having a wedding?  Does that mean that you want to elope?  I thought the whole idea of a wedding was to share the day with as many family and friends as possible, share the fun with a reception, get lots of gifts and then fly off into the sunset for a great couple of weeks to start the rest of your lives together.........