What do you think should I do?

Question

I’ve fallen in love with my friend who is still in love with his ex and is trying to get her back. I don’t know what to do. Should I stand back and let him decide? Should I stand up for my beliefs and let him know getting back with her might cause him more pain (and that secretly I don’t want him to go back with her)? Should I tell him it’s best to be friends? Or should I try to win over his heart?

Answer 1

If you love him. Do care him. One day he will decide not to go with ex. All need care in love.

Answer 2

i think you should let him select between you and his ex. This will be fair for all parties. Sometimes love is unfathomable and hard to decide, you should get advice from your friends on their advices before deciding whether to win his heart back.

Answer 3

It is important to let him know you want to be with him and think he is a great guy. You also want to let him know you understand what he is going through. Therefore, you are willing to be a friend for the time being, and will be supportive of whatever he decides to do. You must give him some time to figure this out. Pressuring him will likely end in disaster. He needs a friend to support him through his breakup more than anything. The best way to show him that you care for him is to support him through this time as his friend. If he asks you what you think about his ex-girlfriend, don’t lie to him, tell him how you feel. Just be careful not to pressure him or make him feel uncomfortable. If some time passes and he still cannot make up his mind, you may need to put your dreams on hold or move on.

Answer 4

If you like him and he is single, try to win over his heart

Answer 5

You will win his heart by just being his friend, he may not know that but in do time, it will come to him. The whole thing with his ex, let him decide. If things don't work out for the two so be it and if he ends up with her it might work out. You never know, time will tell and after some time you'll know what to do.

Answer 6

why were you stupid and let yourself do that?...tard...

Answer 7

tell him that trying to get her back might hurt even more... let him cool down and after a while tell him how you feel.

Answer 8

don't try, find urself another bf

Answer 9

If you are sincerely love him, let him decide for himself.  Just show him that you care and honest. Let him make the choice but you must make he  knows your feeling for him.  

Answer 10

Just tell him how you feel... but if he's not over his ex.. maybe it's bets to wait a bit as you do not want to be a rebound or a tweener

Answer 11

First make sure the ex is not interested coz otherwise a number of rumours arguments etc will start! Then tell your friend that he should stop going after his ex and that you know a girl that really likes him. If he stops going after his ex and becomes interested in 'the girl' then tell him the truth. But remeber if you do go out with him or ask him out and he says no that things may never go back to how they were before.

Lara xx