What does Islam say about dating?

Question

I'm a muslim and 15, but my mum is strictly against me dating, even in controlled group situations. I know a muslim egyptian guy who lives in England, the same age as me, and he has a girlfriend. Are there any teen muslims who date?

Answer 1

Thumbs up for MEEKAL!!! I agree with him! May Allah help us all to control our desires...Ameen

Wassalaam

Answer 2

it will eventually lead to s*x, which is haram.

Answer 3

Well i think the 2 people need to get to know each other before marriage.....but with a chaperon.....either 1 of the parents.  

But thats is not dating.    First date might just be a dinner....second date will atleast involve kissing and groping.....but s*x is not uncommon.  

Answer 4

Pre-marital relationship (Dating) is strictly forbidden in Islam, for all the right reasons. As sin is not harmful because it is forbidden, but forbidden because it is harmful, and satan flows in a man like blood flows in him. There are negative risks both spiritually and physically.

When you're dating (As a Muslim) Satan will no doubt make you believe you will end up together (married) but that is being presumptuous. So then you don't feel so bad sexually fondeling eachother, even going the whole distance. Some people have the most absurd mentality, they say "We will date but not fornicate" but the fornication of the eyes is to look at something that is unlawful to you, the fornication of the hands is to touch something that is unlawful to you, and the fornication of the heart is to desire something that is unlawful to you - This is infact Hadith in Sahih Muslim.

Some may have good, or right intentions (Want to get to know them and marry), but as I said before, Satan flows in a man like blood flows in him. They may initially say, we'll kiss and nothing else, but then that initial kiss will lead onto french kissing, and so on ....

You will rarely get a (Muslim) couple who "date", and haven't physically engaged in any sexual activities, and can I just say kissing (in the eyes of Islam) is a sexual activity.  

Answer 5

islam totally rejects dating...it is not allowed...and the muslims who do date are piling up sins in their left shoulder.

Answer 6

Dating is haram in Islam.  Muslim girls is never allowed to be with a

male alone.  She can only talk to male of equal age with persmission of parents and acompanying with a family member in her own home, in public restaurant  if the male wants to see and talk to her with

intenion to marry her.  She is not to go out with guys for any other

purpose.  It is job of parents of girls  and boys to find who are the best boys and girls for their children for marriages in their own social gatherings.  A girl can start liking a charming but fool boy. Same way a boy can start liking a beautiful  girl without knowing  he moral character. .because they don't have enough experience of life to

recognize good from bad personalities. Parents do much better job for the boys and girls.  

Answer 7

Dating is actually haram in Islam.  When you're married you can go out on dates with your husband.

Answer 8

Haven't dated, don't intend to

Answer 9

well dating is haram

i am a teen, but i never dated and i wont ever EVER date!

Answer 10

Well, if I'm not wrong, dating is a collection of almost all prohibited acts in Islam and nothing less (but more). I mean, the two people look at each other, they have strong sexual feelings about each other, the would probably kiss, after all, and eventually do the last act possible.

Anyways, the Qur'an clearly tells believers (both men and women) to lower their gazes (sights) and guard their modesty (see verses 24:30-31). And it also tells believers that they should not even come close to adultery. It doesn't just say "Don't commit" but it says "Don't come close to" adultery (see verse 17:32).

Now, if there is a different definition of dating which doesn't include any of the aforementioned then I might add more details according to the new definition.

Answer 11

i agree with evrything sarah said.

Answer 12

I think for Muslims to date, it's supposed to be within the same religion.

Answer 13

The guideline of Islam is that one should guard his/her chastity and maintain morality.

As long as the two principles are NOT violated, everything should be OK.

However, the term dating always goes beyond the boundaries of morality. It is a relationship which is NOT a legal relationship like Marriage.

Even ENGAGEMENT or ENGAGED has no value. It is not a binding. It does not involve any legality or contract.

Just put yourself in the shoes of a man. And imagine how would you feel, if you find out that your WIFE had been dating another guy before. I think you won't feel comfortable with the idea ...

On the other hand let us assume that you are a man, and you are married to a woman who has been either a widow or a divorcee. In both the cases I think you will be comfortable, because your character depicts a person, who has well defined moral boundaries.

Therefore, as long as you just chat to know each other, without crossing the grounds of morality, it should be O.K. But I don't know if you can call it "Dating" or not. If you can call it "Dating", then I guess this form of dating is O.K.

Answer 14

Islam have not mentioned the word 'dating' but guidelines on how to be wit opposite s*x is clearly stated. If ur referring to liking someone then its halal. Prophet had love marriage. But they were very respectful and unlike our generation who roams bout freely in the name of dating and do sins.

Dating is more like culture. It has more negative influence than positive. Doesnt mean others drink u have to rite. Better to look at good example even if he s kafir than following muslim whose doing sin. So forget bout egyptian guy dating.

If u like a guy ur free to express ur likings but just know ur boundaries.