My fiance and I have a friend that we have known for about 4 yrs. The two of us worked together, which is how my fiance and him got to be friends. They hang out more than me and this friend do, but then again, it would be weird for him and I to hang out seeing as I am engaged. When he is at our house he will, every once in awhile, say things along the lines of "yeah we're gonna go inside and we'll be back when we're done." If he isn't doing that, he is being a complete gentlemen (which he always has been with me even though he is not so good with relationships). When he texts me he says things like, "have you told him you are gonna leave him for me yet?" My fiance has said twice that he thinks this friend has a "crush" on me. The second time, I believe he used "thing" for me instead of crush. This friend had been having some issues with depression. He suggested going out so we were all for it. He ended up drinking quite a bit and then attempted to hang all over me for a better portion of the night. He made some comments, i.e. that we were the ones getting married and that my fiance was the best man, that my fiance had the #1 girl, and then, as I said, spent a better portion of the night at my side trying to keep his arm around me. Of course my fiance got a little upset, and I couldn't avoid him, despite my efforts. When my fiance and I left that night, he asked me if I thought this friend had proved his (my fiance's) point about the him having a "crush." Now, this friend apologized to me the next day (by text), but not my fiance. In fact, he told my fiance that he didn't remember much. While we were out that night, he made some comments about feeling lonely, stupid, and "everything was difficult." I got a hold of him 2 days later to see if he was okay, and what was up. After I did that, he was a little weirded out I think (and also said again that he didn't remember much), but he called me 2 days after that and we talked about it and are now cool. This friend has also been telling me that he thinks I look good (I've been trying to lose some weight) and he can tell a difference, even though I "didn't need to lose it to begin with." He is horrible with relationships, and whenever he is involved w/someone or close to it at least, I always end up getting pulled into their issues. The girl usually corners me and starts talking "c**p" about this friend. The last time this happened, this friend got really mad at his girlfriend and asked her what she was trying to do b/c apparently I am one of few people he can honestly talk to. He was worried that she had changed my opinion of him. There is a girl that he works with now, that works at the bar I mentioned earlier in this story, and he is constantly pointing out that they are only coworkers, and I was hoping maybe he'd hang on her the night we were out, but he did only once before he was glued to my side. Then, a couple of weekends ago, my fiance and a friend of ours left to go do some jeep 4wheeling in the mountains. I couldn't go with them, and our friend knew I had decided not to go. He called me a few hours after they'd left to see if they had actually hit the road yet. When I said yes, he asked if I wanted to go and if I did, he could swing by the house and pick me up. Lastly, my fiance and one of his other friends don't really bother to call this friend as much anymore. My fiance is always making comments about how he is untrustworthy and independable. Then, he turns around and tells me to call this friend and ask him out to lunch, when I am around where he works, and I have the kids I babysit with me. One thing you have to understand about my fiance is that he can be furious with someone one day, and be their best friend the next. He is very passive and nonconfrontational. So, I am sorry this is so long. I guess my question is what do you think of this situation? I put so many examples in in order to give you a better idea of what is going on. Help??
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