What does it feel like to be in love with a guy?

Question

I currently have this bestfriend of mine and I know hes straight, which I do know guys that it wouldn't work. He currently lives 15 miles from me because we met at college doing our A Levels, but everytime we are not near each other I feel lonely ect. Is this Love? and if so how do I get over my feeling for him, because I know I shouldn't be in love with him because hes straight. Am I the only one that has experienced this or does it happen all the time to people. Please help!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Hi Nick,

What you’re feeling might be love, or it might be a crush, but the fact that you know it will never work with this guy because he’s straight, might be causing the sense of loss you feel when you’re not near him. You’re definitely not the only person who feels like this, falling for friends is a common occurrence! You can read an article on TheSite.org about being in love with your best friend here:

http://www.thesite.org.uk/sexandrelation...

You can’t fall out of love with someone over night, so only time can help get what you’re feeling into perspective. There’s no right or wrong way to deal with how you feel for your friend, but you might find it helps to talk the issue over with another friend, or with a helpline such as the London L*****n and g*y Switchboard (Tel: [phone]).

What about getting to know some more g*y people? Making contact with other g*y and bisexual people is usually easier than you think, and before you know it, you could be in love with someone who feels the same way about you!

Even though it can seem daunting to work out where to go, most large towns and cities have pubs and clubs that have specific g*y nights. This doesn't mean your straight friends can't come too, it just gives you more of a chance to meet other g*y people. There are many L*****n, g*y, bisexual and transgendered (LGBT) youth groups run locally and if you're at uni, you'll probably find they have a LGBT group, as well. You might like to search g*y Youth UK to find a group near you: www.gayyouthuk.net

All the best.

Answer 2

You will just have to get over him because he is straight. You might can go to some clubs and have fun, You might actually meet someone that one like and likes you back

Answer 3

Well, I'm g*y too and have a boyfriend who I am in love with.

When you are in love with someone you associate almost everything you see/hear/etc. with him.  You think about that person 24/7 and you want to be with that person all the time.  Thinking about him makes you smile, and you can't help but miss them even if they are gone for a few minutes.

If you feel this way about him, then you might be in love with him, but usually to be in love with someone requires that person's love for you too, so it might just be another emotion that you can't quite explain.