What does it make you think about me knowing the following?

Question

im a guy , im 18 but i feel old before my time , i have a dark past , high school felt more like a jail cell to me , all i thort was i cant wait to leave stuff will be better then , i spent too much time thinking this way and not enough time thinking what i want to do with my future , that explains partly why im currently unemployed and hobbyless , i have no clue what i want to do with my life , i dont seem to have interests and the things i am interested in doing its either already too late or not a realistic possibliity my life changed to me at the age of 15 after i got a serious virus and became ill drained of energy , it took me a full year to recover to the point of reasonable quality of life  and 2 yeers later i still am in the recovery process , i will make full recovery , i have to build myself up again totally , this had delayed my life and happened at a crutial age in my life with exams , jobs , carrers and basicly i hate to say it but ruined my start to life what advice would you give me , the above is the truth about me and what my life has ended up like , im sick of going no where!!!!

Answer 1

You may need to put pen to paper and write down the things you want in life, a house a car a good job, a wife and kids.

Think of your lifes jurney like looking at a snakes and ladders game bourd (without the snakes) (only ladders) you can only go up from this day on, why do i say that ? becouse unlike others who lay around in bed all day waiting for the day they die, you have asked for help, and help is what you will get if you ask, and forward you will go with your head held high and a confident ora around you.

at the end of a day you should be able to sit down and ask yourself what did i do today to insure a beter future for myself, and tick that >YES BOX< and take another step on the bourd of life.

If you had a realy good day you can go up the ladder which leads you to your altimate goal in life.

Well done by you for asking for help, you never know how many others wanted to ask and can now benifit from your question and the answers they see come up.  

Answer 2

You are 18 years old.

The future is TOTALLY before you.

Nothing is too late, you muest recover, of course, but start thinkin what seems interesting to you, maybe see someone that will help you focus your embitions, and find out what you are good at.

But first of all, you must get rid of this attitude.

Everything's within reach, it's NOT too late.

Take care.

Answer 3

I'm not going to parrot every self help book and say 'soldier on' 'you can do it'.

The reality is, it is going to be hard work, its gonna suck and at times its going to geel like its not worth it. The reality is tough, but from what you write so are you.....

ahhh stuff it I am gonna parrot.. You CAN do it, Its not too late.

Answer 4

I think you're actually very intune to yourself, and life in general. You have the determination to fully recover and move on with your life, and you have the insight it takes to know it will take time and a lot of work. It sounds like you have it in you to do whatever is required, you're just not sure where to start. I suggest talking to a career or guidance counselor at your local community college, and consider continuing with your education, first and foremost. I don't think you just gave up on school... I think it was just too much of a struggle for you at the time. If you can attend at your own pace and study what you're interested in, I think you'll find out that you can actually get a lot out of it, and enjoy it. A career/guidance counselor can be very helpful in determining where your talents and interests, and possibly even your "gifts" lie, and can assist with pointing you in the right direction with not only your course of studies, but your career options. From what you have said, I believe you are a very strong person and all you really need is a little guidance and support from your friends and family. You've come this far... you don't sound like a quitter to me!

Louisse has some very good advice... I agree!

Answer 5

nt sure

Answer 6

i know that it's hard to forget, to move on and to make a new beginning but we should learn to let go of our nightmares and face the present... come out from your shell and help yourself to appreciate again the beauty of life. you are not alone, may be there is someone out there who also suffered much from life's misery yet still manage to go on struggling with life's challenges. don't lose hope, have faith and trust yourself... you succeeded fighting against that "virus", so i'm sure you can also deal with your life this time. you are still young so enjoy life... cherish each moment you have than wasting it torturing yourself. remember that life won't give you something that you can't carry... be optimist,and try to look at the positive side for there must be some reason behind this thing. rebuild your dreams and do your things to achieve them... hang out with your friends, socialize with others and verbalize your concerns and feelings to trusted people whom you think are of helpful to you... try to relax and give your self a break from those desperations, frustrations, and miseries...  live life to the fullest because we only come in this world once so treasure each second we have.... goodluck friend!;)

Answer 7

A good thing is that you realise that you are not happy with your life. Use this motivation to do what you want.

It would be a good idea to talk to a therapist because it will be so much more difficult to deal with these type of emotions. If you can't afford one there are helplines you can call or simply talking to an adult you trust and feel could help.

Feeling like this is unlikely to go away unless you get the feelings out in the open and start to deal with them.

You could go and take some summer courses or night classes to get qualifications you think you deserve. If you feel like going to university maybe just take it slow and only take one paper as you don't want to over stress yourself.

I don't exactly know which option you should chose, because it would depend on living situation and the price of college where you are.

What is important is to get help about how you are feeling. Just because you didn't get your ideal start to life doesn't mean that your life is over. Once you come to terms with how you feel about this illness, the other things should happen much easier.

Good Luck