What does it mean, he says he needs some space.?

Question

Hi i'm 20 years old and my boyfriend is 24, he comes from slovakia, he is living here in ireland with his other housemates. Recently he just lost his job and ever since, he has become distant, moody, and depressed. I've tried helping him find a job everywhere and i've tried helping him with his cv. I've told him i'll help him out, But still no job. Today, he told me he needs a break and some time to sort his head out, and his life out. he is not sure if he will stay in ireland now because money is scarce. I'm so heartbroken, today i agreed if he needs space to find himself, i'd be fine with it, we had a heart to heart and i started crying. He told me how much he loves me but he feels maybe he just can't love anymore. I just want him to be happy again and I want to be with him. But he said whatever happens happens, theres nothing I can do. I can't stop crying.. Today he said I could go to his house sunday and his house mates and I will have dinner together. I don't know what to do. I'm so unhappy thinking that he is going to go home and i'm going to be so heartbroken. Can somebody advise me what to do?

Answer 1

Simple. If he says he needs space, give it to him. If you dont, you'll just push him away and he'll be less likely to come back once he is over it.

Answer 2

Get over yourself. He is distant, moody and depress because he doesn't have a job or money. This has nothing to do with you and you're making it. Give him his space.

Answer 3

Translated= I need some strange.  

Answer 4

MAYBE BY HIM NOT HAVING A JOB HE'S THINKING THAT HE'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU OR THAT HE CAN'T SUPPORT YOU AND MAYBE FEEL USELESS.  THE ONLY YOU CAN DO IS LET HIM KNOW EVEN THOUGH HE DOESN'T HAVE A JOB YOU'LL BE THERE FOR HIM EVEN THOUGH TIMES MAYBE TOUGH.

Answer 5

well, u can always make him your gigolo - pay his bills and give him pocket money. i bet this is what he is intending to do anyway - all this blah blah about space and yada yada yada. i have a colleague - came here from cuba with wife and daughter. was some sort of engineer. nobody needs cuban engineers in europe. so he want to university, accomplished it during 2 years, got master degree in spanish (which is his mother tongue anyway), learned this language. all that time he was working at pizzeria to provide for wife and kid. after university got teaching job at school first. then at college. then continued studying. then got phd. then got job as a professor at university and wrote several books. this is how real man acts. all those blah blah can't find job is losers and cheap gigolos talk

Answer 6

There's nothing you can do.

The guy has no job and can't find one.

If he needs to return to his homeland, he will.

That's the way life is sometimes.

Sad, heartbreaking.. but you live and learn and mature.

Answer 7

As difficult as it may be, what you need to do is treat him with the respect you would any man. Stop trying to help him find a job. Without knowing you are putting yourself out there to make him stay. He is grown and should be treated as such. It is one thing being supportive, it is another carrying part of the load. If him not finding a job means he needs to return home then so be it. I do not mean to sound as if I do not understand your heartbreak over this, but women need to know that if they want a guy to act like a man then you need to treat him like one. Let him figure things out for himself. You just be loving and supportive by encouraging him and letting him know that what ever he decides to do that you will understand. Stop being the only one that is trying to hold this relationship together. If he truly cares for you then let him be the one to find a way to stay with you. And please do not offer to take him in and support him. If you do, you will set yourself up for him treating you like a mother and the frustrations of picking up after him and getting him to get a job will be something you will regret.  Good luck to you!

Answer 8

To be blunt it means "I haven't got space for a relationship". It's a blokes way of a) avoiding saying you're dumped and b) gives the woman the sense that there might be some hope -despite all the signs to the contrary c) reducing dramatic ending scenes.

Love hurts.  

Answer 9

Let him go...there's nothing you can do.

Let him find his own job like a man.

This may be his way of getting rid of you.

Start thinking of yourself without him and find someone new who appreciates you.