What does it mean if I dream that I am cheating on my husband?

Question

I would never ever cheat on my husband, but lately I have had a couple of dreams in which I am spending time with other men and it leads to sexual encounters with them. Sometimes these men are people I know in real life (work colleagues etc), and sometimes they are random people. In the dream I am enjoying the attention from the other men (flirting with them and having guilt free s*x with them as though it is acceptable), although the men and I both know that I am happily married and once I am finished I will be going home to see my husband. We almost act as though my husband knows that it is going on and that it is perfectly normal. In one dream, my husband even came and picked me up from one of these other guys house!

Answer 1

I don't know why excitement is elevated in dreams. I know because i have had dreams like yours. I guess that is where the term "Dream Girl" comes from. I have had dreams of doing things with people that in real life I would not. Remember also that fear is also elevated in dreams to. The thing I am trying to say is, if you are happily married, don't ruin it. It may go down as sweet as honey to cheat but later it will become bitter as wormwood.  

Answer 2

Your innermost desires that you can't even admit to yourself and coming out in your dreams. This is what you want to happen.

Answer 3

As you already know (I'm making a calculated guess), if you ask 100 people -from the so-called experts to the novices- you will receive differing opinions regarding your dreams as well as the symbolic possibilities regarding i) infidelity, ii) friends and acquaintances, iii) random strangers, and some of the other elements contained in your dreams.

It's reasonable that in many circumstances, the more obvious symbolism suffices and some comfort may result from the "that-makes-sense" clarity that comes with such explanations. At the same time, you may receive opinion/advice regarding dream symbols that you not only disagree with it but you find it troubling or disturbing (and begin to question yourself -unnecessarily).

In my view, the dreamer is always in the best position to sift through the discontinuity, allegory, quasi-hallucinatory aspects of dreams and, as such, with some patience, insight, and reflection is likely to arrive at answers closer to her/his circumstances than what another may project ... of course, that's just my opinion.

At the same time, please know that there's a body of evidence (academic and scientific) that speaks to "universal symbols" (also known as archetypal or primal) that are posited to be a part of the "collective unconscious of the human species" (for more on this see Carl Jung); and there are cultural symbols (biased toward the values and beliefs of the particular culture of the dreamer) and finally, personal symbols which most likely only have meaning to the dreamer and her/his life experiences.

I mention all that in view of the possibility you may indeed want to know more about these recurring dreams and you may want to deliberate on the possibilities on your own (from your unique perspective). To encourage you to move in that direction, I've included a couple of web link belows -one is an Index of Dream Symbol Categories ... I believe you will find it useful, fascinating, and [hopefully], enlightening enough to give some form and meaning to your dreams.

At a minimum -whether or not this is directly related to your dreams- all couples are continually engaged in the nuances of a "relationship."  Because the components of any relationship are not static (or should not be static), changes occur -and not only when both prefer the changes to happen.  As such, "relationships" are always a sensible first place to begin assessing and analyzing considerations that my be unwittingly effecting your unconscious mind to the point that your mind is primed to attend to such issues within your dream state.

Although the issue of infidelity -real or perceived- is most difficult to speak about with our spouse or lover, it may be (depending on your comfort level and your perception of your husbands level of tolerance for such an issue) that an open, candid discussion between you and your husband is warranted.

At the same time, if you believe that discussing this with your husband is a recipe for disaster, then by no means open this issue up for a dialogue.  Instead, try to enjoy your dreams for what they are -as there certainly is a refreshing (as opposed to disturbing) quality to being found sexually attractive to others and enjoying some dream state sexual activity -without all the guilt and remorse we'd face in our "real life."

I hope this was somewhat helpful ....