What does it mean if I have a hard time looking into peoples eyes when I talk to them?

Question

Just recently, I notice that when I am having a conversation with someone, no matter who it is, I can't seem to look at them when I'm talking. My eyes tend to wander everywhere. Can anyone tell me what this might mean?

Answer 1

My guess is either habit or low self esteem but whatever it is you need to get over it.  People don't trust people who won't look them in the eye.  It's something that will hold you back socially and professionally.  Most people won't hire someone who won't look them in the eye during an interview.  In fact, eye contact is hugely important in almost any social setting - from romance to your job.  

Answer 2

it probably means that either you are intimidated by them or that you are lying or if you are talking to a guy that you like their eyes that happens to me alot

Answer 3

It could simply be that you lack confindence.

But it could also be one of several things. Look deeper at the situation.

Pay attention to who you are talking with. Do you do it throughout the converstation or only when you are talking. Perhaps it is an uncomfortable topic? Maybe you would rather be somewhere else/with someone else.

Pay attention to those details and then decide.

Is it avoidance ( are you trying to avoid getting deeper on a topic)?

Is it the relationship is unintersting and boring( who are you talking with?)

Are you in a busy environment and too busy looking at other things and people.

Answer 4

It is said that when you lie you cannot look someone in the eyes, maybe your not lying, but unsure of something. This might not even relate to the matter of what your talking about.

Also you may feel intimidated by people or insecure, there are many reasons we all know if we are a little shy, even if its hard to admit.  

Answer 5

I had the same problem and I learned a trick.Instead of looking directly into their eyes,focus on their nose or forehead.They can't tell the difference.Not being able to look into someones eyes when you are having a conversation means that your not very confident in your self.

Answer 6

Do you condider yourself shy. If so that is probably why.

Answer 7

Sound like a self esteem issue to me.

Answer 8

It means that you are shy,and you have a hard time looking at people in the eyes when you talk to them. I am a very shy person myself,and I don't look people in the eyes when I talk to them either. Now some people may think that it is rude to do that,but if you are shy and you tell people that you are shy,they will understand trust me! :-)

Answer 9

Well, I know a lot of people say you do that when you are lying, but I don't look into peoples eyes when I talk to them because I am uncomfortable.  It can mean that you are shy or are awkward in social situations or maybe that you have low self-esteem.