What does it mean if someone dreams about doing something sexually inappropriate to their 3-year-old child?

Question

A friend of mine just had this dream. Never had it before yet in the dream felt he had done it previously. The friend does have a problem changing dirty diapers if that helps at all. Can't stand the labia. P.S. He's a father of 3. Changing his son's diaper is no problem. It's the daughter that disturbs him.

Answer 1

They should talk to someone qualified to help them before this becomes a reality.  

I have had some weird dreams and never once dreamed of that

Answer 2

This dream is a tough one because it can mean several things. For a father to dream that he has s*x with his daughter can mean that he has some fear about his own sexual desires (worrying that he will lose the sexual attraction to his wife or that he may have unusual thoughts concerning sexual things) or problems relating to adult women (expecially conflicting feelings between the women).

However, because you said he is uncomfortable changing his newborn daughter's diaper, particular cleaning the intricate parts, he may be developing a fear that he may do or think something inappropriate. He may even be wondering what direction his relationship with his daughter will be in the future. Since he already has sons (or a son), he is comfortable with that territory, but a daughter is the unknown to him.

Also, his dreams could be the result of childhood/teenage teachings from his own family. Maybe he is uncomfortable changing his daughter's diaper (and thus his dream) because his parent's, particularly his mother, feels that this is not something he should be doing. Many grandparents have definite feelings about the role they believe that their sons should have in caring for babies, especially female babies.There may be some conflict between the role his own mother wants him  to have and the role that his wife wants him to have in caring for the daughter.

If he could relax and let his fears go, he would probably stop having this dream. If the feelings get worse, maybe he should see a counselor.

Answer 3

it does NOT mean that he's sick, but he does have issues with female sexuality perhaps.  even children can be very sexual creatures - ever seen a 3-year-old play with him/herself?  he has to come to terms with this reality in order to avoid shaming his kids and be able to teach them that playing with themselves is natural, OK and a private matter to be kept in their room behind closed doors.  

I think he's simply making a natural connection between her labia and that of a mature woman, and it will help him avoid inappropriate behavior if he recognizes it vs. feeling like a pervert.

Answer 4

Depends on whether or not you want to, or have acted on any of them.  

If not, dont worry, it was just a dream and people have weird as h**l ones all the time.  If it bothers you anyway, talk to someone you trust-a counselor-or religious servant--they'll give you advice and listen without judging.

If you do have the desire, or have acted...get help because its a criminal action that scars a child for their entire life.

After reading your additional details...Encourage your friend to get help.  While it doesnt sound dangerous...I think he could stand to work a few issues out.

Answer 5

that you are sick. very, very sick.

Answer 6

Your dreams are not pay-per-view, On Demand, willingly-downloaded pedo p**n.

It means nothing.

The only thing that means something is if you act out your dream!

Answer 7

That they probably won't want to go back to sleep for a long time. Maybe they fear they are causing harm to their child, maybe not in that horrible context but maybe not enough attention or food, its most likely in their subconscious. Scary dream I would feel disgusting if I ever dreamed like that, but on the other hand when my son was a toddler I dreamed he died, he is now seven and I still feel guilty for dreaming it.

Answer 8

I'm sure it means nothing.  But I still wouldn't go around telling people about it.

Answer 9

it doesnt mean anything. dont believe the ppl that say "YOURE SICK" or that its not a good thing. dreams are normal. dreams can cause you to dream the weirdest, craaziest, dumbest, & innapropriate things. You dreaming this is not BAD  like people think. Dreams have a lot of meanings. example: if you dream that you get raped, it doesnt mean you're going to get raped. sometimes that dream can mean that ur not secure about ur own self.

i hope you understand what  i mean. dont take these dreams in a perverted ugly way.

Answer 10

It might mean merely that fear you will not be a good father, that your own imperfections will damage her as she grows (a common fear among new parents).  I do not believe it necessarily means you have some unconscious fantasies.  You may have noticed how pretty she is becoming, and you are dealing with some guilt related to the fact that noticing that a female is pretty has always been related to your libido until now, and you are trying to sort-out this conflict.

Answer 11

UHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

seek help

Answer 12

sicko

Answer 13

Not good.