What does it mean when an ex girlfriend sends you an invitation to her wedding? I haven't seen her in 3 years

Question

Do you think she's trying to show off or or prove to me that someone else wanted her or just can't get anyone else to come? Would you invite your ex? Do you think your fiance would mind?

Answer 1

That seems strange to me.  I think she is just trying to shove this in your face.  It'd be different if the two of you were friendly and spoke to each other on a regular basis, but if you haven't even seen her in three years...well, she's pathetic.

To answer your other questions, I did not even think of inviting my ex to my wedding.  And my husband wanted to invite his ex, but I was against it so she didn't come.  Unless the relationship was short and ended because the two people were better as friends, I think it's inappropriate to invite ex bf/gf to weddings.

Answer 2

Since you are her ex I'm guessing you were, at one point, close to her.  She obviously wants you to share the day and be happy for her.  Don't be so cynical, not everything comes with an ulterior motive.

Answer 3

The ONLY reason that I would invite an ex that I hadn't talked to in 3 years would be to rub it in his face that I'm marrying someone else!  Girls can be sneaky...I have a suspicion that she just wants you to see what you "missed" out on.  Don't go, it will only satisfy her ego:)

Answer 4

fiance would def mind. nd i guess its her way of saying that she still considers you to be a good friend.  thats woman... they always try to be friendly with you after the relationship is over. its so wierd and confusing. i am going through that right now.  my ex is trying to get me to hang out with her again with her new bf. i kept telling her no but she insists and starts crying about it. its ridiculous. but in this case, we are talking about wedding.  to be frank and honest, i would imagine that she is thinking about her husband and not you.  so i think it was just out of courtesy to invite you.  so i wouldn't see the need to go since she wouldn't know that you are there or not.  but then again, it might be a great chance for you to meet someone else attractive.  lol. who knows?

Answer 5

Well i got married 3 month ago. It was a secret so my fiance didnt have the chance to invite his ex but we invited her to out wedding du. Then a couple of weeks later we were invited to hers. We could not make it but we went to the night time du. Nothing wrong in it. I find it wierd as you havent seen her in years but you never know. she might be being genuin. If she is being funny then make a point of going, even if its for an hour or so. Will be even better if you can get a little hotty to tag along with ya eh

Answer 6

She wants presents. People invite everyone they've ever known in order to get gifts and presents. It probably has nothing to do with you at all. If it's been three years and she's getting married she's over you...you should move on too.

Answer 7

It depends on how you broke up..

If it was a screaming dish throwing stalk out of the house break up, It's "I'm getting married" Gloating   If you go.. take the most super-model-georgeous woman you know as a date...

If you parted ways friendly,because the spark wasn't there anymore, she may be letting you know what's going on in her life,

Aknowledge the invite, send her a Mikasa Cristal vase as a wedding present, and offer best wishes for a happy future.....

Answer 8

If you have not talked to her in 3 years then it came mean a couple of things.

1. She wants to get over you still and seeing you on her wedding day would help that (UNTRUE but it happens a lot)

2. Her soon to be hubby is threatened by you and he wants to prove a point that she no longer has feelings for you so he told her to invite you to prove that

3. She really just wants to put the past behind and move on and wants to be your friend.

Whatever the reason maybe if YOU feel comfortable then go and take a smokin' hot date.  I might be available.  lol!  Jk!

~GoodLuck~

Answer 9

I think you answered your own question.  Who know what goes through a woman mind.

Answer 10

only reason why she invited you is because she was in love with you like a mental case for 3 years and she wanted you to see she moved on or she just wants to show you that now that she broke up with you she has a better life now  

Answer 11

a friend of mine invited ALL of her ex's to her wedding but none of them came.   It was a mix of several reason.

1. She was diluted in her own self importance- why won't you want to come.

2. She wanted 300 people there (45 showed by the way).

3. She wanted more gifts.

It might not even be about "you" per say- it's all about HER!

Why would you invite anyone you haven't talk to in 3 years.... GREED.

Answer 12

Maybe she's from a culture where they're expected to throw a huge wedding (or is just throwing a huge wedding anyhow) and is inviting everyone to whom she was/is close, regardless of how long it's been since she was in contact.

If her fiance would mind then why is he marrying her? If she's not still carrying a torch for you why would it matter, and if she is then she oughtn't be getting married.

Answer 13

1. She is trying to make you jealous.

2. She hasnt forgotten you.

3. She is trying to tell you how happy she is.

4. She definitely doesn't want to see you.

Answer 14

Either it means that she's still not over you and wants to prove to you that she's happy with out you, or it means that she wants to make you jealous.  It could also just mean that she's inviting everyone in her address book so she can get more presents.  I wouldn't invite my ex to my wedding unless we were still friends or something, and I also wouldn't ever go to my ex's wedding because it would just be too weird.  

Answer 15

I guess it depends on how the relationship ended. Both my and my fiance's exes ended badly, so, neither of us will be inviting our exes to the wedding. If it ended badly, I could see her inviting out of spite, or to rub it in, but if it ended amicably enough, then maybe she does just want to let you know how her life is going, and maybe she does consider you a friend. Good luck.  

Answer 16

mybe she considers you still a freind and she wants you to share her speical moment!

Answer 17

I think it means that she appreciates you as just a friend, despite the fact that it was not meant to last as a lasting relationship.She wants to let you know, that she's found her "partner in life", and as someone who was once close to her, she would like to share that special joy of hers with you. But you can always choose not to go, if you don't want to.

Enjoy your life, and don't sweat it. If it upsets you then just drop it. But if you feel you'd like to attend the wedding as a friend. then take it a step further and go.

If my fiance would mind or not really depends on the unique personality of who my fiance is. I'm sure that she ran it by her fiance, before sending you the invite.

Answer 18

If she's doing it to gloat, it's kind of stupid, since you could show up, possibly with someone younger and better looking than her.

My guess is that she still sort of considers you a friend, or at least she feels like she owes it to you to let you know she's getting married.  I doubt her fiance minds, after all, she'll hardly get the chance to see you during the wedding.

It's up to you if you go or not.

Answer 19

boosting her guest list -> more gifts

i wouldnt bothered

Answer 20

She is just trying to show you what you are missing. Just ignore it. Honestly, how comfortable would it be to be there? No, I would never invite an ex to my wedding. And that would also make her Fiance uncomfortable, unless he is involved in the "Prank".

Answer 21

Sounds like she is showing off or wants to flaunt something. You havent seen each other in 3 years, and shes an ex... personally, I have better things to do with my time. Her inviting you is just silly.