What does it mean when he tells i'm falling for you? but i'm really scared to trust him b/c i was hurt before?

Question

This guy and I are 23 years old. We've had our share of painful relationships in the past, but this time, we feel like it's so different. It's incredible. We've been only talking to each other for 2 weeks and we already have a strong connection. I know 2 weeks is short, but the connection we have cannot be explained. It feels like we've known each other for ever. We talk to each other every single day for hours and hours especially b/c it's long distance. We know long distance relationships doesnt work out and there will be a lot of issues involved, but we are aware of this yet we are so willing to try. Yesterday he tells me he's crazy about me, and asks me if i think it's weird since it's been only a short period of time. He tells me he's falling for me and feels like fate brought us together b/c God always has a reason. He says he feels like we're meant to be etc..and hopes I feel the same way and if I don't I should tell him. He says he's going to try to overcome this long distance and will show it through actions. We;re also both students so he said he's going to try his best so he can go to graduate school near me. He said he's never been happier. He tells me not to go away and he promises me he wont ever hurt me. What does it clearly mean if he says he's falling for me? I know it's not love yet, but what is it...?

he also says he knows that i'm going to be the mother of his children later meaning he's going to marry me (NO, HE DOESNT HAVE CHILDREN RIGHT NOW, NEVER MARRIED). i tell him isn't it too fast that he's thinking all this, but he says if he knows he knows, and i'm one in a billion, he doesnt want to ever lose me...

I LOVE HEARING ALL THIS, AND IT MAKES ME HAPPY BUT I AM SCARED TO TRUST HIM. I WAS HURT AND BETRAYED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND AND I KNOW I SHOULD TRUST AGAIN BECAUSE THIS GUY IS A NEW GUY, BUT I CAN'T HELP BUT THINK IF THIS NEW GUY IS LYING TO ME TOO. I KNOW I SHOULDNT THINK LIKE THIS. I SHOULD COMPLETELY TRUST HIM AND DONT LET WHAT MY EX BOYFRIEND DID TO ME HURT NEW RELATIONSHIPS, BUT IT SOUNDS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE THAT HE'S SAYING ALL THIS. SINCE WE ARE LONG DISTANCE WE ARE MEETING IN DECEMBER SO WE ARE WAITING UNTIL THEN AND JUST TALKING ON THE PHONE SO IT DOESNT SEEM TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE RIGHT? HOW CAN I REALLY TRUST...I'M SCARED...

Answer 1

If you don't know what "I'm falling for you" means, you aren't ready for anything other than junior high school.

Answer 2

ok well you being hurt before has no reflection on the rest of the world

as in you have been hurt before but in another relationship you have exactly the same chance if being hurt as everyone else does

the only difference now is that you are aware of how it feels and so now you're scared of it it doesn't change your fate or anything

it's like ghosts if you had never heard of them you wouldn't be scared of them (but if they do exist) even if you don't know what they are it doesn't make it any less dangerous

but like I say you have the same overall chance in a relationship as anyone else

Answer 3

If you’re scared - listen to that!

Listen listen listen to that.

I don’t know how you two met - if you’ve ever met in real life (as they say) and if you’ve ever even seen this guy in person.

You’re setting yourself up for a whole lot of heart ache and maybe something really dangerous!

And when he tells you you’re going to be the mother of his children?

It just sounds gawd awful creepy!

Something here is very wrong.

He’s bringing God into it, and kids, and trying to control you and get control on you - something is just too weird here!

Get out of this!

Please - be safe and just get out of this.

It *feels good* because you want to hear this stuff, and he KNOWS THAT.

Just cause it makes you feel good, doesn't mean it's real.

A lot of people *fall* for each other over the internet.

Because it's safe - because it's a fantasy - because you don't have real life that gets in and interrupts and hurt relationships.

But beyond that - something here in my gut tells me you best just run...hard and fast from this guy.

Good Luck, be safe, and PROMISE you will NEVER MEET UP WITH THIS GUY FOR THE FIRST TIME ALONE!!!

:)