What does it mean when your husband watches p**n?

Question

I hate p**n and my husband know it but he still does it but he hides sometime i will catch him watching it when i come in the room. Is this normal? What does this mean? Does he find me un attractive?

Answer 1

He's a guy that's what they do. It has little or nothing really to do with you.  Try watching it with him and if you just can't do that tell him he can watch it, your okay with it and it wont be as fascinated with it.

But I would try doing it with him.  You might like it really.  If you are uptight about it.  have a few drinks first.....

Answer 2

Yeah its normal. Men are very visual. And they have fantacies about other things. Doesn't mean he doesn't love you or find you attractive anymore. He may be a little bored with the usual routine (if you tend to do it missionary all the time, etc). Maybe you could try to spice up your s*x life a little. Have a Passions Party, talk to him and see if he'd be interested in ordering some toys together to introduce in your s*x lives, get some s**y lingerie and suprise him. Its not dirty for you to try something new... its actually healthy! It will bring the two of you closer. But don't get your feelings hurt or feel insecure about your relationship, like he doesn't find you attractive anymore. Its super common for guys to watch p**n. No biggie. This may sound crazy, (i was once just like you, hated p**n, thought it was dirty, etc.) but if you have ever watched one, they are soooo cheesy and unrealistic. Nothing to be jealous of. Plus, if you did watch it (here's the crazy soudning part) you might find a way to change up a position or how to look a little more s**y while in the act... You guys should be more open about your s*x lives. I used to be a hermit when it came to talking about it, until I met my fiance, and he is very open with talking about it and Im glad cuz now we know what the other likes, turn ons, etc. I am still not a vixon under the covers or anything... but I know what he likes and vice versa.

A really good book to read is "how to make love like a p**n star" by Jenna Jameson. She's a famous p**n star. Its kind of a autobiography (the title is misleading) but it gives you a lot of insight to how men think, what turns them on, etc. She's had a very interesting life. I couldn't put it down. But it made me realize that men are just different than us girls. I dunno. Maybe all this was too much info for ya. But hey, I guess this is why we ask questions on here, right?

Answer 3

It doesn't have a thing to do with you one way or the other.  Guys watch p**n.  Be thankful he's watching p**n and not out with some other woman.  Just leave it be.  

Answer 4

I doubt he finds you unattractive! Him watching p**n is normal I think. My boyfriend of 2 years does it too... I joke about it with him. MANY men do it actually... as long as it's not an obsession (that is, as long as he doesn't watch it 24/7), then there's nothing to worry about...that is, if you trust your husband.

Have more confidence in yourself. You have to know that him watching p**n takes nothing away from how wonderful you are.    

Answer 5

It's normal.  Finding you attractive has nothing to do with it.  Just be secure in yourself.

You can try watching it with him.  Guys seem to like that.  That's what I did, and it wasn't AS bad as I thought.

Answer 6

He is immature and selfish.  It has nothing to do with finding you unattractive.  If you don't like it, he should respect your wishes and refrain from watching p**n.  Watching sleezy people have s*x for money is nasty.  Tell him to get a life.

Answer 7

Means he likes p**n and you should not feel unattractive because he does.  Let him be.  Actually, tell him after he's done he better be ready for you.  Walk by him as he's watching in a nice nitey and tell him you got something his p**n can't give him.  As long as it is not chid p**n it's just something some men (and women) like.  

Answer 8

No. Men watch p**n because they are visually stimulated. Women are more likely to think sexual thoughts while masturbating, but men are more likely to want to see them.

It has nothing to do with you, and it's very common.

Answer 9

Of course it's normal. In this day and age, it would be odd if he didn't.

The fact that you "hate p**n" instead of having an indifferent attitude towards that particular form of entertainment leads me to believe you are a huge prude, and that's probably a big reason why your husband looks at p**n in the first place.

People have to suppress their natural urges in this society for fear of rejection and not conforming with the pre-made mold designed for us by the church, government and corporations. This leads people to seek out whatever gratification they can get through all sorts of alternate sources. p**n is one of those.

I would say get a life and don't make a big deal out of something so minor. People are starving.

Answer 10

its more normal than we like to admit,,,but dontturn it into a negative ordeal,maybe he wants to express himself more and wants you to be more open minded in bed too...it can have  a positive side to it

Answer 11

That he into s*x like every man out there. Look watch one with him sometime he should not have to hid it from you your married. Maybe he uses it to get more into the mood for you.  Experiment a little with him ask him if you wants to try something they are doing in the movie be adventures and spice things up a bit.  I doubt  he finds you unattractive he married you didn't he.  Have fun with each other be a freak in the sheets lol.. HAVE FUN

Answer 12

Some guys just like p**n more than others. I have guy friends who are always talking about p**n seriously, guy friends who are always talking about the weirdest p**n they can find, and guy friends who think p**n is disgusting. It all depends on the person. Some guys just love p**n. I don't see why when they can have the real thing (if they're dating someone)! My friend found out about two years ago that her boyfriend had a serious p**n addiction, he needed it like, every day to survive. But she dumped him after that.

He doesn't find you unattractive. p**n was just part of his life before he married you! So it's still in his life. And maybe he's a very sexual guy so he masturbates more. Maybe if you want him to cool it down a bit offer him a ******** randomly. That would be a happy surprise for him. So, yes this is normal. I wouldn't be worried unless he says something. And since you're married, don't be scared to talk to your husband about this!  

Answer 13

Try talking about it... don't get into a screaming match. Most importantly, make sure he knows how you're feeling... not just hears it. Hear what he has to say also. I personally think that p**n is gross and so does my husband. But, it's a matter of the person and the environment they were in when they were younger and even now. It's a matter of your relationship and communication.

Answer 14

it is normal and it doesn't mean that he finds you unattractive.its just a married mans way of seeing someone else having s*x. its not like he is cheating on you or that he finds you sexually unattractive its just that he likes to see others having s*x. you should try to watch some with him and talk to him about it. ask him if you see a new move that you haven't done if he would like to try it. lots of people watch p**n it is normal and there is nothing wrong with it.  

Answer 15

It means that he is still breathing.  His interest is the 3rd strongest drive in the male of the species right after breathing and eating.  It has existed in some form since the first 2 cells differentiated.  You and every other women on this planet that doesn't like need to come to grips with it.  It will be there until the end of time.

Answer 16

Well.. he probably hides because he knows you hate it and don't want to do it out in the open so you can nag him about it.

p**n stimulates man (and woman) sexual appetite in a different way, many times they use it to spice things up in the bedroom,, to be uptodate with sexual techniques and vocabulary, to watch other girls, or just for fantasy,etc.

They are curious, they are visual,they crave variety and you have to accept that because wether they tell you or not,,they all do it,, your dad your brother, your male child will do it.

I rather have him home watching p**n then him running around with prostitutes or having affairs.

It doesn't mean you are unattractive or he doesn't love you.

I know my bf watches every now and then.

If he is open about it and it backlashes then you are teaching him to be secretive.

Tell him to get a soft p**n movie one of this days and join him, he might end up rocking your world and you his.

Answer 17

Few possibilities:

1. He might be trying to find new ways of making love.

2. He's just plain bored and watch for fun.

3. There might be something lacking in your s*x life that he resorts into p**n.

4. He's trying to be a jerk :p

Answer 18

This is perfectly normal. Unless, he watches it everyday, occasional p**n is fine. I don't really know what it mean. I don't think he finds you unattractive.

Answer 19

It means that he's looking for sexual gratification elsewhere.

If you want him to stop watching pornography - give him something more realistic to do - like you.

Some guys are driven to watch pornography, others are plain dirty minded and addicted.

You'll have to find out which it is.  I have seen many marriages end up in divorce because the woman looses respect for her man for watching pornography, the man looses interest in s*x with his wife, the woman resents the man for getting off to pornography, the man becomes accustomed to watching pornography to climax and does not climax with his own wife during s*x.  The sexual life of the marriage suffers and it messes up the rest of the relationship and ends in divorce.

Some men have confessed that they watch p**n because they don't get enough s*x, ask your husband if this is the case.  Then decide if you'd rather he have s*x with you more often, or he watches pornography - but either way, if you don't give in to s*x more often, or if he doesn't stop, YOUR MARRIAGE will suffer in the end.

Each of you have something to give up.

Answer 20

When your husband watches p**n, it means he is not sexually satisfied.  It may or may not be related to you, but it is probably related to s*x.

If you do the following there is an 80% chance he will stop looking at p**n:

1.  Start an aggressive exercise routine and stick with it.  Eat a TON of vegetables, especially green ones.

2.  Get a tan and/or put on a good body lotion every evening

3.  Don't wear underwear to bed

4.  Don't reject any of his advances

5.  Say to him "i've been working on my inner thigh muscles.." then just look at him and smile.

20% chance it is something else.  

Answer 21

It haves nothing to do with you. It is entertainment. Don't let him watching p**n destroy your relationship, it's not that serious. He isn't doing anything harmful. Since he is going to do it regardless you should join in and watch it with him. Don't knock it until you try it. You might enjoy the reaction he gives you or you give him.

Answer 22

This can be a very serious problem for your mariage. Men are stumulated thur their eyes and this is fore play for him. If this goes on long enough you will not be able to satisfy his sexual desires. He is visualizing these pictures as he is making love to you and this is cheating you in your marriage. I hope you can get him to start working on this pronto. Good for you for asking.

Answer 23

I CANNOT believe people are answering your question by saying it's YOUR fault.  How dare them!!!  So because her husband can't get his mind out of his pants it's HER fault??  When will men grow up enough to realize that their p***s is NOT the most important thing in the world.  

p**n is obviously distasteful to you and you need to tell your husband.  If he has ANY respect for you he will make changes in HIS behavior.  Why is the woman ALWAYS expected to change HER behavior to suit a man???

Answer 24

YOu can't change someone. I watch p**n sometimes but that doesn't make me a perv. You have to understand where he is coming from. At least he isn't doing it in your face.  

Answer 25

I would have a problem with this. Perhaps you are not arousing him enough, or what have you. He obviously doesn't care that it bothers you, but he wants to be visually aroused. I hope he isn't some sort of closet pervert. Try turning him on so that he turns the p**n off!

Answer 26

Men are simply more visual by nature.It does not mean you are not attractive.He may be using the p**n to simply rev up his s*x drive for you.If it truly bothers you talk to him about it.

Answer 27

He's just stimulating himself visually. That's one of the biggest reasons guys watch it because we like to see it as to where women like the emotional part of s*x.

It doesn't mean he doesn't like you because let's face the facts. Girls in p**n are hot for the most part and not one of them would give some dude behind a computer a real chance to hit it.

Some people just grow out of it, I have no interest in it. When I was a teen yeah but teenage hormones are out of hand. I could careless for it now.

You should just ask him why he likes to watch it and ask him if there's anything you can do to stimulate him so he doesn't have to find other means but if he asks for too much, shut him down.  

Answer 28

It means he likes p**n. Some guys just like to watch, and in case you did not notice, they can't really watch themselves. It has nothing to do with how much he is attracted to you, which I am sure is a lot.  

Answer 29

Guys are guys and some of us are more visual than others, I like to watch it because I can get a better visual of positions performed than when the actual actions of fornication are being duplicated. It is attractive to see it from all different angles, I dont think your hubby finds you unattractive,, I suggest spicing things up with him in the kitchen, or living room, or the bedroom if you have children just be on the look out, talk with him as well, Men have a hard time asking what they want in bed from there spouse, because as men we honor the female that we are with, and find it dishonorable when we treat our spouse that way in bed, believe it or not, our there fantasies that you want to experience and havent told him communication key!!!

Answer 30

As a person has already said, us men are creatures who are stimulated visually.  I don't think it's anything for you to worry about, unless it becomes to consume him.  If he'd rather look at p**n online than be intimate with you, then I'd say he has a problem.  If he's sneaking out of bed in the middle of the night to look at p**n, then I'd say he has a problem.  If he gets fired from work because his boss found him with staring at b***s on the company computer, then I'd say he has a problem.  Other than that.  He's just being a normal horny man.  Not all men look at p**n, but a lot of us do.

Why not ask him what it is about p**n that he enjoys so much.  But be sure you ask him in a non-judgemental tone.  Maybe you can try to look at some of the p**n sites he accesses and ask which images he finds arousing.  Who knows, you may end up ravishing each other right there on top of the keyboard!!

Answer 31

Very normal of the Male species.  We are "visual" and we need that as a sexual release in life.  Now, the issue I want to bring up and seems to be very common in marriages today is, why does he feel he needs to be looking at p**n so often?  Are you not having s*x that often?  Maybe its time that both of you sit down (in private) and discuss your desires/needs (not just his, yours too).  

I'm sure he doesn't find you un-attractive, but you have to understand, men like variety and looking at naked women is a normal activity.  The day you become ok with it and just accept it, is the day he might start opening up and sharing his desires with you.