What does it means to be "just the baby's mama".?

Question

Ok, after asking a question (on yesterday) about how should I handle my unborn child's father, I have new questions. My unborn baby's father is not supportive of me through this pregnancy. Please go back a reference my previous question for more details. The moment that he discovered that I was pregnant he became very cold and mean toward me. Earlier today, I called him to ask him about the money that I loaned him. He is aware that I had to resign from my previous job due to medical reasons. I am now working only part-time and need him to repay the money. I am always praying that God touches his heart and that he become interested in the baby at least. Because of this, I called him from the hospital to tell him that I had acquired an Ultra Sound Photo. He did not appear to be interested. He only asked me about the gender and whether it was one or two babies. He once again mentioned to me that I am not his wife or girlfriend, but just the baby mama. I am not familiar with certain terms and do not understand what he is telling me. What does "just the baby mama" means. What should I expect of him? Should I seek his support during the pregnancy? Is it wrong for me to ask him to attend doctor's appointments with me? Is it wrong to ask him to help me with purchasing the baby items? Does this mean that he now has a change of heart and now desires to take care of his baby? Is it wrong for me to feel hurt because he has other women? Does “just the baby mama” means that I am totally worthless to him? Please help me out once again.

Answer 1

He sounds completely (and very coldly) unwilling to do any of those things you mentioned ie., go to Dr. appts with you.

You will be better off with such a cold hearted little boy-- he is DEFINITELY NOT A MAN.

What a pathetic person to not at least have concern for his own child.  And the way he is treating you it is disgusting and unforgivable.  RUN away from him fassst, but don't forget to get child support.  Maybe take him to small claims for the loan you gave him.

WHAT A DIRT BAG!

GOOD LUCK

YOU DON'T need him, only his money-- the perfect revenge for you and the support your child needs and deserves!

Answer 2

No relationship, just a child in common.

Sorry, he's not interested in being with you by the sounds of it.  You can require him to pay support, but that's all you can really expect from him.

Answer 3

Baby mama means that you are just that - the mama of his baby. Not his girlfriend, not his wife, but a woman he got pregnant.

Don't lose your time on this guy. Find someone who is more caring and supportive. If he doesn't want to be involved in your child's life, don't waste any time or energy on him because it will hurt you and the baby to spend energy on something that will not return anything to either of you.

Now once the baby is born you can put the father on the birth certificate and go through the court system to get him to pay child support. The court will make him do this even if he doesn't want to (once paternity is established) but many man run from it. If he doesn't pay, and you complain, the state may even make his employer send part of his check to you every month, but many man get around this by not getting a "real" job and just working for cash and stuff like that.

So, it looks like you and your baby are on your own. The sooner to focus on the welfare of your baby and yourself and get rid of this loser, the better both of you will be. Good luck, and look for state assistance if you need it so you can pay your bills and have food for your baby. Get on WIC (Women Infants and Children program) and research the services for single moms in your state. There is help if you look for it.  

Answer 4

He sounds like an awful human being...Why you would want him in your child's life is beyond me. If its compensation that you seek, look to the government/court system to wrestle it out of him--doesn't look like he's going cough up any assistance.