What does jealousy for your partner means?

Question

My partner is very jealous of me, but I am not jealous of him. He says that he is jealous because he loves me and he thinks that I do not love him because I am not jealous of him. But I interpret this as he does not trust me and I do trust him. What does jealousy means for you? Who is correct between my boyfried and me?

Answer 1

i think you shouldnt be jealous if you truly love eachother. love means honesty and loyalty. so if its true love then neither one of you should be jealous. seems to me like you are mostly in the right. hes probably pretty insecure.

Answer 2

My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 yrs. and at the beginning he was just the same way. He always accused me but I wasn't doing nothing wrong. I always trusted him regardless of his insecurity. But later in our relationship we had a argument that open our eyes and made us stronger now and the argument was because he kept being so jealous. So when we had our argument I asked him why he did what he does if we do live happy but when it comes for to me to go out with my sister he feels so jealous. Well he told me that I was too pretty and some guy might sweep me off my feet and take me away from him. I felt like "OMG" he thinks I'm going to leave him if some guy comes and ask me out. I told him that there is no reason for him to act or think this way. I'm in love with him and I wouldn't think of being with no one else and I thanked him for thinking I still look good after having a son with him. But I still didn't understand why he will think this way. So I asked the question and he said because he is too ugly and overweight and wouldn't want a man like that. Girl did I get up and hugged him I told him he was my one and only and even if he got bald and uglier I will still love him. Reassure him that he is the one for you. But he also has to understand that this jealous reaction will play a big part in the relationship that will probably cause a separation in your relationship. Talk an open subject with him about any feelings you guys have and it will fix your problem.

Answer 3

I think a little Jealousy shows they care but too much shows they don't trust you!

Answer 4

Obviously you are a whole lot mature than you bf.  Jealousy is not healthy.  If you are confident in your relationship then there is no need for it.  Now at times you may feel it a tad bit but it depends on how you react to situations. As long as you handle with tact in those small cases it's ok.

Answer 5

in love there is always this jealousy, it helps sometimes a person to love more, it improves relationship. it is a natural thg among lovers

Answer 6

you are he is just making up things to make you  feel bad but really it means no trust

Answer 7

jealousy means insecurity. he needs to figure out why he is so insecure.

Answer 8

run far far away

jealousy is a controlling mechanism to control you and make you a virtual slave  

Answer 9

You are right, he is wrong.  Jealousy is about insecurity and control.  Get some books for your partner so he can learn.