What does my dream mean? I was sitting in my office...?

Question

I was sitting in my office and working on my pc when my ex-boyfriend and his colleague came in. I said hello to both of them and I noticed that my ex was wearing a wedding ring and on one of the fingers of the other hand another big, strange, ring. He looked a little bit unusual, his hair was longer, we was wearing an unusual suit.. but he was absolutely adorable. I said to him that I've noticed his wedding ring and congradulate him wishing him all the best, and I hear his voice saying - the same to you. Then he take my laptop saying that he has to surf the net and look for some underwear as a present for his wife.

p.s. when we broke up, a few his things he left to my house and he hasn't taken it yet. I was thinking to call him and remind him for his staff. Please tell me is it ok to call him? I'm affraid that it will happen the same as in my dream. He, wedding ring... Thank you

Answer 1

this suggests that you are seeking for reassuring and nurturing aspects of a relationship. This is not to imply that you want you ex-boyfriend back.

Answer 2

Your dream suggests that while you care a great deal about this fellow he's behaved in hurtful and somewhat selfish ways in your mutual past.

His appearance in the dream is cordial enough - and his attire / change - and 'strange ring' suggest success along rather audacious lines - something you may have subconsciously seen in him as something probably to come.

But he didn't share that with you - he moved on and is now otherwise attached.  You feel OK toward him but a little hurt - you still care enough to truly wish him well, even if hurting a bit.  His co-worker lends an air of cavalierness toward you and your feelings.  

Perhaps it's just 'his way' and not intentional - all these little things that can sting a bit.  That he grabs your PC and does such an audacious search right before your eyes only underscores a callousness in this fellow.  Even so, he wishes you well - at least in words...

But he's careless in ways - and at least a bit unfeeling in that he left reminders in your home as he did.  You should get those things out of your house, don't need to be ugly about it - but also do not need to call him if you really don't want the contact.  Is there a neutral third party - a friend of his who might hold a few boxes of the stuff for him if you hand it off?  

Think about that - if so, you could carefully box it all up and take it there.  Add a nice note - wish him well.  You don't have to explain why you used the neutral party.  In doing this you can both dispose of his remaining presence and move on without the baggage or potential affront at learning things that would hurt your feelings.  Just know that you may eventually learn of such things as his marrying another, etc. but do not need to face it in this last parting if you don't feel well about it.

Of course you will have to decide how these points may fit the context you know and how you should handle his things, but they are suggested by the dream and as a practical way to rid yourself of the physical reminders of his past presence with the least confrontation and hurt to yourself.  

Let any unwanted news come as it may later - deal with it then.  Until then live each day with the baggage gone and it may be easier if that day comes when such information does come your way.  After that you can continue to move on as well.  Surely others worthwhile will come your way - you demonstrate a kind and attractive spirit.

All the very best to you for disposal of the dreams and his stuff - and for happier days and dreams to come.