What does the saying "We always hurt the ones we love." mean to you?

Question

I need some help understanding what the saying "We always hurt the ones we love." means for a research paper. Honestly, I'm totally clueless as to what it could mean. Can anyone help me out?

Answer 1

The people we love are the people we also assume that love us back and as they love us back we also expect them to know us the best, know what can hurt us, know what can annoy us, know what makes us happy, know when to offer help and when not to.

Unfortunately, this does not happen as even if one loves someone it is impossible to know everything that could hurt them or evrything that could make them happy. We go by by assuming we know.

Sometimes our assumptions are wrong and we end up hurting someone we love by doing or saying the wrong thing. It is innevitable sometimes to say something that one thinks as harmless while the other sees as an attack. And when such "attack" comes from someone we know that loves us the pain is even greater as we never expect to be hurt by someone near and dear.

We expect to be hurt by strangers, by enemies. Yet, most of us get hurt deeply by the ones closests to us. It is an uninevitable tragedy.

Answer 2

this quote means that we take special rights towards our loving ones. we think that, we know them and they know us; so nothing that we do will be taken in the wrong sense. with such mentality we end up hurting them.  but if you analyse, you will find, that hurt would be on behalf of you , not on your loved one's behalf. they are hurt because they care for you.

Answer 3

We hurt them because we end up taking them for granted.

Answer 4

Those who live with you are (your family, who you love, presumably), are the people who are around when you are in a bad mood, when you are sick, when you're tired.  People tend not to be so polite to their near and dear, but will express themselves more openly.  Also, people we love are in more of a position to be hurt, since they tend to care more about how we respond to them.

For a research paper, you can talk about the types of abuse that go on (child abuse, spousal abuse, sibling bullying, and so on).  This happens in all walks of society.