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Question

I'm a 27-year-old woman.I never want to depend on my boyfriend.Instead I want him to depend on me.I don't want his support but I want to support him.For example,I don't need his shoulder to cry on,but I'm more than ready to lend him my shoulder to cry on.I'm not attracted to the so-called "macho" type men.I'm attracted to tender male beauty.Why do I feel this way?

Answer 1

HI Rose,

seems you have the need to be needed. that is you are satisfied only when everyone around you is in constant need of you. you want to be the provider. You may also observe that the kind of friends you make are also the ones who are emotionally down or need some sort of help. This is a good thing in a way coz you can help a lot of people. i am sure you go out of your way to do that, however, your tendency may make you choose wrong sort of people for you. you know how much people can lie and hurt you once they get what they need from you. You may think you are strong but you are most gullible, only a few tears from someone will melt you down and you will want to help them out of your way.

so please try to understand that, we all need each other to survive. no one is a super hero, you will need to ask and take help sometime in your life. so let your boy friend be the shoulder you want to cry on, nothing wrong in that. just tell yourself that you will ask him for help. there is nothing wrong in wanting to help, but you be extra careful when you choose to help someone, make sure they deserve your help. good luck.

Answer 2

u have less feminine qualities

Answer 3

I am similar to you. I enjoy it when my gf or women depend on me for things.

We are like this because we enjoy the power it gives us. It makes you feel powerful when you know someone is happy because you make them that way. It is not necessarily a moral/ethical way to think, but nonetheless, it grants you power.

Answer 4

Complex. Need to know more about your environment growing up. What were your parents like, etc.

Answer 5

You sound like you are a dominant woman. You like to feel like you are in control and strong. You don't want to have to feel dependent on anyone, but like the idea of having someone dependent on you, almost like a mother-figure.

Have you been hurt in the past? Maybe you're trying to avoid letting that happen again.

Was your father abusive or bad to your mother? Maybe you're trying to ensure you are never in that situation.

There is nothing wrong with wanting a sensitive guy and feeling the urge to be the dominant or strong half of a relationship.

Answer 6

You didnt tell us much but from what you say it sounds like you want to be in control because it seems less likely they will leave you that way therefore you are less likely to get hurt.  

Answer 7

YOU ARE YOURSELF ALL THE BODY FUUL OF YOU

YOU LOVE YOUR CAPACITIES

YOU THINK YOU ARE NOT A WOMAN-LIKE BEING A WOMAN

ALL WOMEN THINK THE SAME WAY BEFORE MARRIAGE.

THEY WILL REALISE THE REAL WOMANLINESS AFTER MARRIAGE AND AFTER CHILDREN.

ALL YOUR STRENGTHS WILL BE CONVERTED INTO LOVE WHICH DOMINATES AND THEN APPEARS AS WEAKNESSES IN THE EYES OF THE OTHER PEOPLE.

EVEN TENDER AND GIRLISH LOOKING WOMEN ARE NEVER DEPENDENT.

THEY ARE AS STRONG AS YOU WISH TO PROJECT YOURSELF

THEY GET THEIR THINGS DONE THROUGH LOVE AND GREATER AMOUNT OF WOMANLINESS.

SO YOU ARE NOT DIFFERENT THAN THE OTHER WOMAN RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU !!!!!!!!