What duties would be good for an 12 year old boy to do as party of the wedding? He is my soon to be stepson

Question

and he wants to be part of the wedding, because my son who is 17 is going to be an groomsmen, and my bf's son feels left out.(my son is a last minute stand in, cuz the original guy backed out and our wedding is in 3 wks and the girl he is walking with is just a year older than him) We both feel that he is too young to walk with this girl, and too old to be the ring bearer, and we can't get a junior bridesmaid this late in the game. So, other than passing out the bubbles, what can he do to feel like he is part of our wedding?

Answer 1

he can had out the programs of the wedding and he will be greeting the guest. he can also help seat the guest.

Answer 2

IDK

Answer 3

Groomsman.

Usher.

Answer 4

He can be a junior groomsman, and you do NOT have to have a balanced number in the wedding party, or a junior bridesmaid to "balance" him.  In fact, I wouldn't exclude him just because you don't.  If your son is a groomsman, then I would think it would be simply cruel to exclude your stepson as a (junior) groomsman.  And at 12 he's very sensitive.

A wedding isn't a pageant or a show, it's a formal, sacred ceremony that is, in this case, bringing a new family together.  I would encourage you not to make the mistake of leaving your stepson out of the wedding party if everyone else will be in it.  I have a son and I know this would have been a blow to him at that age, although he likely never would've shown it.

Answer 5

when i got married i asked my son to give me away n my other to hold the rings , they both enjoyed the day /

Answer 6

have him escort his grandma (the groom's mom) down the aisle.

have him be the groomsman instead of your son, and have your son "give you away"

Answer 7

You NEED to put your stepson in the Wedding! He is a bit old to be a ring bearer, but not by much.  I would put him him a suit or tuxedo to match the Wedding party and have him walk down the isle caring a decorative box with the 2 rings inside of it.   He can walk down right before the flower girls and bridesmaids.  He can either stand next to the men during the ceremony or take a seat in the front row, and get up when it's time for the rings.  He would be so proud to walk up with the box, open it, and present the rings to the 2 of you. You should also consider a trinket for all the children involved in this union.  Perhaps gold coins for the boys (even the 17 year old) and gold chains if there are any girls.  They need to feel part of this union since it will be a "family" after the I do's.  Children should always be included in their parents wedding, it helps with the transition.

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Answer 8

He could stand in as a second groomsmen, or another best man. Just a thought. But I would find something for him.....Best of luck and best wishes!

Answer 9

Usher. It will make him part of the action and make him feel important. Be sure he understands why your son is a groomsman.

Answer 10

Since the convenience of having the brides maids and the grooms men paired has nothing to do with wedding traditions (the groups are supposed to support their party to the wedding and defend against misbehavior by the people on the other side), it seems to me that you can simply add him.  Since it might be intimidating to put him centered in front, put him centered in back behind the two columns of people and have him step off to the side with the men.

   Having him participate seems important even though I find expensive  and complicated weddings absurd.

Answer 11

Well, he could do a reading, or you could just have him walk down the aisle alone, or just have him stand at the front with your fiance and not walk down at all.

There is always the old stand-by of guest book attendant or something like that, but I think he is far too important for that kind of role.

I'm sure you will find a place for him, I personally think he is old enough to be a groomsman, but it's your choice, I'm sure you will find a way.

Answer 12

Is there something he could read during the ceremony? If this is in a church most times a scripture or something is read. He can assist the ushers taking people to their seats also. He can also walk with his Father (and grandmother) down the aisle and as your (father) presents you to your groom he can present his father to you, he needs to be in the wedding party as a sign of families uniting not just a couple....Make a special part for him you still have 3 weeks.  Good luck and enjoy your special day.

Answer 13

He can be the flower girl

Answer 14

Remember that it's your wedding so he can do anything that you allow him to do.  If he wants to be the ringbearer so be it.  Also what is the reason that someone can't walk down the aisle because of the age difference.  If he's going to be a part of your family, you don't need to start hostile feelings now.  Have your son and step-son walk the girl down the aisle side by side.  You need to find him a place in the wedding party and not passing out bubbles either.  He's 12 years old and he'll bring it up again with his feelings about it and I'm afraid it won't be pretty.

Answer 15

have him be an usher

thats what i get to be...fuuuunn..

well an usherett ahha cuz ima girl

but thats a big part in the wedding

everyones gotta know where to sit

good luck

and hope u have a wonderful wedding

lovelovelove

Audrey

=)

Answer 16

Well, if you are playing music you can give him that duty especially because that is such a big part, he can help walk people to their seats

Answer 17

A groomsman. He is definitely not too young to do that.  We are having my fiancee's 9 and 10 year old nephews as groomsmen.  It will probably mean the world to him.

Answer 18

My best friend's step son was around that age when she married his father, and she had him act as a Junior Groomsmen. It is customary, and there is rarely a junior bridesmaid to accompany them, because of their age. So don't feel like it's odd for him to walk to the altar by himself, it happens all of the time! But don't exclude him from the bridal/Groom's party, because it isn't fair that your son be a part of it and not this young man. But if you absolutely have to have a balance, give him the all-significant Usher duty. He will feel important walking people to their seats in a nice suit, and make sure that he has a front row seat!