What else can i do for my son?

Question

my son has cirrhosis, but that is not the biggest problem. he has been in and out of rehab, jail, emergency rooms, and hospital stays.

he abuses pain meds no matter what. sometimes he even injects them. i have done everything about getting him help. he goes in and they let him too soon everytime. his stay is not ever over 2 weeks.

do i need to constantly intervene or accept it is his chosen path. help?

Answer 1

I have experience with this. My son is now 42 and has been clean for about nine years. He has a good job as a tradesman and is highly respected in his field. I truly do not believe this could have taken place in his life without the intervention of God. For years I tried to help him help himself, but he did not want to help himself. When I gave up and "let God", he went his way living on the street. I would not let him come back. But, eight years later he did come back and he needed help big time. He was in excruciating pain with a bone infection in his spine. He ended up in the hospital after long days and nights of trying to convince the hospital that he was not just lookiing for a way to get drugs. A doctor finally examined him and that was the beginning of healing in every area. He was on antibiotics administered every hour by a computer he wore. During that year, he began to remember the things about God that he'd been taught in his youth and, before you knew it, he was a new man. He is sober, he is working, he owns things, he drives a pretty good car, he lives in a nicely furnished apartment and he praises God every day for life - spiritual and physical. All I can say, is give up and give the problem to your son and to God. Pray every day, and if it is to be, he will find life. God bless you both.

Answer 2

The only other thing I could tell you to do is pray for him Richie. Sometimes us humans need help from the Lord above,yet we refuse too see it.I do not know if you believe in God,but it sounds like you could sure use his help when it comes to your son. Just ask God into your life,and ask Gods favor and help with your son Richie.Ask God to help your son lose the need for the drugs,and too help him cope with his problems in life in a more positive manner. There are some ways you can help in this process. First when he his sobered up,take him to a children's hospital so he can see that down deep inside he has every reason to live,there he will learn what real pain is,especially when he sees parents crying,just hoping there child will get a chance to live. Then from there I want you  to take him to work serving the homeless. He will learn to be grateful for having you to give him a place too stay,that is safe when he decides to get high. Then I want you to take him to a morgue,and explain to him that this is not how things should be,you do not want him to end up there before you do.Explain to him that life is a gift,and is not met to be wasted,and that God can help him only if he will allow him too. Ask him to invite god into his life, so things can start getting better straight away. In other words Richie give him a dose of tough love. I wish you and your son the very best,Good Luck and God Bless You both.  

Answer 3

It's going to be hard but you're going to have to accept the path hes chosen. As a parent I think you must do everything in your power to get your kid out of harms way. But then there will be a point where you have to realize you've done every possible thing but will never be enough. Like that movie Blow where Johnny Depp's father just accepted his son is happy being a drug lord and he has to step out of the way because there's nothing he can do.