What exactly is it that causes YOU to make fun of or avoid someone with Tourette syndrome?

Question

a mother of a child in my son's class wants her son removed from the class because of my son's condition; so if you have concerns voice them maybe I can put them to rest

Answer 1

I don't and I would not!.

The mother who wants her son removed is a very backward thinking individual who will eventually grow up and realize that the world is full of many different types of people. Only, she won't know many of them, nor will her conditioned son as people around them will back off fast as they see they have no tolerence of disabilities.

Answer 2

wats tourette syndrome?

Answer 3

i have had this problem in daycares and birthday parties etc etc at the park etc etc my grandson is 21/2 and was born with a cleft lip and pallette ppl are cruel some have removed their kids from playing with him and we get alot of stares you know what i say to them?? go ahead and move or leave my grandson has every right to be here as much as the next and i would think the same for your son some ppl just have no manners and the sad thing is shes teaching her kid to be as rude as her! god bless your kid and you as a mom good luck and stay strong ill tell you as i tell my daughter you have to ignore the ignorant! just let your child know he is special and god made him that way for a reason thats what i tell my grandson hes beautiful and you know the funny thing the doctor told me that these types of children actual think they are the ones without the problems...lol and im a firm believer of karma life is like a echo and what you do or say negitive will be done to you or someone you love so have no fear this mother will regret this in the long run sounds mean but oh its so true!

Answer 4

How about having a little presentation for the class? You and your child can (in a kid-friendly way) what tourettes is and what it feels like for your son to not always be able to control his impulses. Have him explain how he feels when he is avoided or made fun of, and let the kids know that it's ok to ask him questions and be curious.

Answer 5

My daughter has special needs

She did not talk in three word Sentences until she was five

At three, she was maybe saying 100 words, if that much.  That included names

My daughter was in dance class.  She was the second tallest in the class.  Some of the mothers sat and made fun of my daughter because she was not talking.  When the whole group of mom's were talking about age, I said my daughter was three.  One of the mom's that was making fun of my child, said, (O, we thought she was four).  As if that made it better

I think the mother is wrong.  The school should not change the classes, and she will have to grow up

I think you can ask it the teacher if you can explain tourette syndrome to the class, so they understand it more

I think some parents are awful, and should be force into taking classes about special needs children

I am sorry that you have to deal with dumb parents

Some people parents never taught them, for the grace of god go me.

What if it was her child?

Answer 6

Its hard because he can't control it. If he is just saying silly things with out thinking/control they could see it as disrupting the class. If he is saying bad words like F*** then i side with them because they don't want there kids to begin to copy. As for making fun, when ever you are in school, they will make fun of the slightest imperfection. His can't be hidden so he is a target. I would tell the school and other parents that this is a disease like any other, and the school needs to teach tolerance of others rather then exiling "the different"

Answer 7

does your son have the vocal tics that can be swear words or other rude, vulgar things? that could be the situation, and they don't want thier kids to hear the colorful language. As long as his tics are not physically putting other children in danger, maybe they just need some basic education on the condition. maybe you could see if the teacher or administrator could invite the parents and kids to a Q&A session so they can ask intellegent questions, and have thier fears laid to rest.

Answer 8

wow.  i'd be mad, too.  

maybe she's concerned about distraction or disruption to the other students (if he has vocal tics)? i'm not excusing her ... but maybe educating her about the condition and getting the teacher to reassure her that the other kids are still able to focus just fine might help.

i have a good family friend with tourettes and the brother of one of my kids' friends has it, too.  i'd neither make fun nor avoid.  but people tend to be worried about what they don't know much about.  i think education is the best defense.

on the positive side, maybe this means you won't have to deal with this annoying woman at class parties.  ;-)

Answer 9

Children are mean, and they dont always know when to stop teasing. Maybe they want him removed for his own sake, so he dont get made fun of.

I dont make fun of it and I wouldn't avoid it.

EDIT Sorry I read that wrong, maybe the mother is just mean. I cant really see why she would want him removed. Some moms just dont want thier kids around it, maybe because they dont know how to answer questions that would come along.

Good luck.

Answer 10

From what I understand about people with Tourettes, they can't control their impulse to speak when it is not appropriate and sometimes they curse a lot. Maybe the mother is afraid her child will be exposed to profanity. You should ask the mother, IF you can do it nicely out of a sincere desire to know. You are both doing what you think is the best thing for your own child, not trying to harm someone else.

Answer 11

I would never make fun of ANY child, and I'm an adult so I wouldn't avoid anyone with Tourette's.  But children don't always understand these conditions, so it makes them uncomfortable.   If your son has very pronounced symptoms of Tourette's, her son might be feeling distracted by the tics or embarrassed by the language.  Obviously she should be educating her child about this, but depending on the ages of the kids, it might be a big leap of understanding at this point.

Answer 12

I think people really don't understand the syndrome.  I had a student with Tourette's in my class and he and his mom used to have a talk with the class at the start of the school year to explain what it was, his behavior etc.  It helped a lot.

Also, from the other parent's side - depending on your child's specific behaviors/tics and the other child's learning style, it may be hard for the other student to pay attention when in class with your son.  Again, the student I had could be quite disruptive...not his fault...but it was loud (vocalization plus drumming, tapping, etc.) It was clear that some kids could just sort of block it out, while others seemed to have a hard time with it.  Certain kids NEED a really quiet and predictible space in which to learn - others can go with the flow.  So, maybe this is a case where you have to be as respectful of the other child's learning style/needs as you would like others to be of your son's...it may not be the case, but it's very possible.

I would ask someone at the school to arrange a meeting with you and the mother - get your frustration out on the table...just because they aren't in the same class doesn't mean they can't be friends or play together - maybe in a less structured situation they might be able to spend time together.

Also - in the bigger picture - it's totally inappropriate for parents to make these kinds of requests in such a public way that you would be aware of it.  If it is to accomodate the other child's learning style, that's a private matter between the parents and the school.

Answer 13

Maybe she felt like her child was teasing your child. I would feel bad if my child was teasing and I wasn't there to take care of it appropriately. I do not make fun of any type of illness, as there are illnesses in my family, however I try to teach my children that it is not appropriate and not to stare, point, etc.