What excuse to make as to why I don't want to get married yet?

Question

I am 27 and I am in love with a girl who is 30. We both believe in no s*x before marriage so are both virgins. She used to be married and has 2 children.

She wants to get married. I want to marry her aswell but when I'm 30. The reason is that I want to spend the next 3 years training to become a super athlete. I basically want to train 9 hours a day everyday. I don't want the hassle of a wife and kids just yet, she wants them.

If I were to marry now and be out all day everyday I dont think I'd be fulfilling her rights. What can I say to put the marriage off.

Should I say that I have cancer and after 3 years it will heal? Sorry to be so unromantic but I really want to do this you know. After 3 years I will give her myself 100%, ok 80% of the time the other 20% I will be out doing sports

Answer 1

the first paragaph made me laugh . she used to be married and has 2 children . she is a virgin ? wow i didnt know anybody like that until now

Answer 2

"We both believe in no s*x before marriage so both are virgins."

"She used to be married and has 2 children."

CLEARLY, she isn't a virgin....

And, just in looking at your question, being that you need an excuse to not marry her.... CLEARLY you're not ready. That is clear as a sunny day. Suck up some gut, and heck, grow some... and just tell her you're not ready to get married.

Do her the FAVOR so she isn't stuck with someone who doesn't want to be in a marriage in the first place.

Answer 3

LOL she has kids and is still a virgin? LOL

I would say do not get married until you are less naive. :)

Answer 4

i think you should end it instead of leading her on your obviously not ready for a relationship let alone marriage  lying is a bad start to marriage anyway i think you owe it to her and yourself just to leave it be so she can find someone that wants to give her 100% and you can have all the time in the world for yourself.

Answer 5

If this is the best answer you can come up with than I strongly doubt you are ready for marriage for more reasons than becoming an athlete. How about the truth..."I'm not ready for marriage, I'm planning on marriage at 30." Then be prepared for her to walk away and find someone else if she doesn't want to wait. However, make sure you are planning on actually marrying her at 30 and not just leading her on for another 3 years.  

Answer 6

Why would you want to start out on a lie?  Grow up.

Answer 7

sounds like you are arrogant and unable to commit. how is she a virgin if she has 2 kids from a previous marriage? if you two are wanting two different things, go your seperate ways. lots of things can happen in 3 years. you may find sombody you actually love and she'll probably realize you're an idiot and move on with her life.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I would give this woman the opportunity of leaving you right now. If she knew what you were planning to say to her about cancer she would not approve I am sure.

To many people die of this disease, my dad one of them, and to think that you would lightly use this as an excuse is beyond contempt.

If you are so far up your own backside in wanting to be a super athlete then I would let her go and find someone she can be happy with.

No wonder you are still at virgin at 27 and FYI she has had 2 kids so is NOT a virgin.

Get a life.

Answer 10

How is she a virgin if she was married before and has 3 kids??? Moron. It sounds like you need to end it with her. You aren't man enough for the responsibility of a wife and step children if you are worried about training. Besides aren't you a little old to be training to become a super athlete? What makes you think she would want to wait 3 years for you anyway?  

Answer 11

How about the truth?  If it doesn't work, you'll know upfront that you can't deal in truth.  If it does work, you'll have a way better shot at having chosen the right partener!!

PS  SHE'S not a virgin w/ a previous marriage and 2 children.  What's her hurry?  She's been there and back already.

Be honest. You won't be 'fulfilling YOUR rights" by marrying her now....not 'her rights.'  

Answer 12

first of all, genius, if she has 2 kids, she is not a virgin. not even close. second, if you feel a wife is a "hassle" then you haven't met the right person yet and you are not in love. be a man, tell her the truth.you are a self-absorbed man who will probably never change. tell he the truth so she can find someone who deserves her. you don't.

Answer 13

You are an unusual couple. She is a virgin mother, and you think you're going to be a super athlete at the age of 30.

You need to wake up and realise that both of these statements are EXTREMELY unlikely.

If you are prepared to tell her ridiculous lies, then let's hope she is stupid enough to believe you.

Answer 14

You sound ridiculous. How are you both virgins but she has kids??? DO you know something i dont? You sound selfish! Tell her the truth dont lie about something stupid like cancer. KARMA-what goes around comes around