What gives people a reason to do wrong

Question

When someone has wronged you in the past or maybe you had a tough life growing up does that give you a reason to be rude, nasty, or spiteful?

When is it ok for an adult (someone who should know right from wrong), to be mean or rude? is it ever ok the reason I ask is I know someone who is not always pleasant to be around. He's always complaining about life and putting everyone around him down and hes always using the "i've been rejected my entire life" or "you wouldn't understand i've been through h**l" and that's suppose to make it ok.

I understand that our experiences in life shape who we are, but if you know something is wrong and you know you shouldn't do it, but you do it anyway because its been done to you is that person wrong or is that person a victim...

For example johns girlfriend jane cheated on him and it hurt him alot. So now john cheats on every girlfriend he has. Is john being vindictive or is he a victim because he was hurts so much he's trying to protect himeself, and in that case is it ok?

Is it ever ok to do something you know is wrong but because of past experiences you do it anyway?

I think thats the difference between the weak and the strong. The weak give up after something bad happens or they let it take over there life, while the strong rise above it. Well me and that friend I was talking about debated this for a very long time tell me what do you think.

Answer 1

No one has the right to do wrong.

Your friend doesn't sound like he's happy with himself, so he puts down other people.   The way we treat the people around us is the way we feel about ourselves!  Observe how you behave when you're angry as opposed to when you're feeling happy.

The whole complaining about life characteristic is the classic example of someone who is attached to playing the part of a victim.  It's probably second nature to him by now.  By letting you know how much he's been hurt in the past and all of the rejection, how could you or anyone else not feel badly for him?  Now, doesn't that allow him to get away with behaviors that if he hadn't been hurt and rejected in the past, wouldn't be acceptable?  If others don't buy his manipulation of playing the lifelong victim, then at least he can convince himself that his behavior is okay.  He is allowing himself to behave unkindly by simply voicing out loud how awful his life has been.

Your friend needs to let go of the past, detach himself and move forward.  The past is good to explore to know the REASON why we do things, but it is not to be used as a source for an EXCUSE for how we are in the present.

Answer 2

I dont think it's ever ok to do something you know is wrong.  I think a lot of society is so far from God, that we (as a nation) have lost our morals.  We have no ultimate consequences if we don't beleive in God.  (I by the way am a Christian, and by "we" I just mean a lot of America)  So with no ultimate consequence, or judgement, we basically can do whatever we want, and thus become morally corrupt

Answer 3

Tell your friend just because someone was an *** to him in the past does not give him a right to be that way toward everyone else in his life. Tell him to step up-Break the cycle..be the better person...If you live in your past...you become the past....and carry on future agony to others as well as yourself. You are the only person that can decide HOW YOU LIVE AND WHAT YOU WILL BE OR HOW YOU WILL BE!!

Be an indivdual not a past cleque!!!!!!Be an individual not a continuier...

BE A WINNER NOT A WHINER!

Answer 4

excuse me, jen, but you do not have to believe in god to have good morals and be a good person. god is abstract, and the bible is a book.

Answer 5

Sounds like your friend needs some therapy and to realise that you are you, and you cant use excuses to be horrible to other people.

Some people's past experiences can leave them bitter and wary of others but this is why they need to deal with their past,to understand that there are over 6 billion people on the planet and the majority are nice not horrible!

Answer 6

I agree with your points

Justin