What gives someone the right to ask if someone is pregnant?

Question

Especially if it's not an obvious thing. It doens't really matter if it is a man or woman asking, I just think it's plain rude. Even if someone were pregnant, it's there business to tell someone if they wanted to, not for people to assume. I'm not claiming myself to be fat, however, I'm not thin either. I'm right at that comfortable state. I don't have a flat stomach, no, but in no way can it be mistaken for a pregnant belly. Why do people think that it's okay to ask someone, just because they have somewhat of a stomach, that they are pregnant? What's going through their mind? I think that could quite possibly be the biggest insult to a woman. I had someone ask me this today, and I was okay at first, because he gave off the vibe that maybe he thought I had told him I was, but when I shook my head no, he gasped at me and said "You must be putting on weight!" Considering I've only known him for a few weeks or so, where is he to say something like that? What are your opinions on this?

Answer 1

People have asked if I was pregnant and I say..."No, I'm just fat, but thanks for asking."  If they have any sense at all they will know that they are stupid and should learn not to say that to anyone again.

Classy Chick...you should change your ID because you're not classy at all...your comment was rude and STOOPID!

Answer 2

Of course they can ask you if you're pregnant. People can ask anything they want. How you respond is another story. It doesn't sound like this guy knows how to talk to ladies. I'd just shake my head in this case, feel sorry for the person, and say, "this is just a suggestion but if you ever want to find yourself a girlfriend or a wife, I suggest you begin by not insulting her weight." Then walk away with your head held high, not giving him a chance to respond (because you know it will either be an apology or he will put his foot in his mouth again).

Answer 3

I'm obese. I'm a woman. my fat goes to my stomach, thighs, arms, and back. I know what I look like so I wear SPANX to bring my stomach in. I know people could think I'm pregnant, but since my belly button doesn't protrude that would be a dumb ASSumption.

If someone asks you if you're pregnant tell them no, are you? It will be especailly insulting if you say this to a man.

Yes it is rude to ask someone that. A friend of mine looked pregnant and I was about to ask, but I didn't. Then the following day she revealed to me that she's 4 months along. Wow.

Answer 4

It is never ever ok to ask someone if they are pregnant. and its never ok to make a weight comment either unless its "oh you have lost weight." even that is kind of sketchy.

He is an idiot who couldn't get laid if he was the last guy on earth. ignore him. and avoid him.

Answer 5

In some cultures the question isn't considered inappropriate.  Don't know for sure where you live but in places with a lot of diff people from diff places, people just plain don't have a clue when it's ok and when it isn't.

I notice though that men are the biggest perpetrators.  Rarely hear women asking that question.  I say next time, tell him his viagara shipment's been delayed but the case'll be arriving shortly.

Answer 6

Nothing. It is just rudeness.

Answer 7

i think it was SO rude of this guy to say that to you. ive never asked a guy with a pot belly if he is pregnant!

I am pregnant at the moment, 4 1/2 months along, and at the is she, isnt she stage, so when some complete stranger asked me y/day when am i due, i was shocked, because what if i wasnt pregnant? anyway to make a point i have decided that the next person (or more if i feel like it) ask me, then i will look at them blankly and say huh i just ate a big meal...that should teach them! Maybe im just hormonal lol!

Anyways, the same thing happened to my sister and she was really upset. So what, us woman carry some extra weight on our bellies, its rude to assume your pregnant.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Because people are by nature inquisitive.

Certainly a pregnancy does not present in the same way as weight gain, and so if the question is ever asked it is from ignorance.

And as for the comment after you denied pregnancy, that was just inexcusably rude.  I think he's probably just messing with you.  Don't bother giving him the time of day if you can reasonably avoid doing so.