What hapens at the hosp with adoption infant?

Question

Were adopting a baby boy due end of this month.I was wondering what takes place at the hosp after the baby is born?

Answer 1

whoever said that birthparents do not get to sign the original birth certificate is wrong. i signed my son's birth certificate along with his birthfather. for the first 4 days of his life, my son had my last name. then, when i went to court to sign the parental termination papers, his parents signed a new birth certificate from their state (i'm nd, their mn). i have a copy of the original birth certificate.

depending on what kind of adoption process you go through, it varies. i had an open adoption, so my family came to the hospital and my son's parent's family came to the hospital. we dpent the two days i was there getting to know each more. in the hospital, i was considered the legal guardian, so i  as well as the parents, got a wrist band to go into the nursery. i also got to make medical decisions, i.e. circumsized...but i always asked his parents what they would like me to do. i fed my son and changed his diaper and one night the nurses let him sleep in my room. i never had any intention of not going through with the adoption even the 4 days i waited before signing the papers was one of the best weekends of my entire life. i can't wait until i graduate from college, get married, and share that wonderful experience again.

Answer 2

What we did was inform the hospital that we were going to be the parents not the yung lady giving Birth and they loved on us like it wa s me on the table we even took this lady home form the hospital

Answer 3

Kind of depends on what sort of adoption you are doing. I had a hospital bracelet and my baby boy too as well as the birth mother. The baby had one to match either of ours and I was allowed to be there during the birth and for hospital for visits. Ask your adoption case worker

Answer 4

I just gave a newborn up in March 2006 so I can tell you my experience and what happen to me. I worked with an agency but it was an open adoption and me and the adoptive mom spent every chance we got together and talked about eveything.

We discussed what I expected from her at the hospital to what she expected from me.

I went into the hospital the night before and she was there the next morning I was induced and later that morning he was born she cut the cord and held him first these were things we talked about before we went to the hospital so there was no stress about question we knew would come up. After the birth I was giving a braclet and so was she so we both were able to see the baby and talk with the pediatrician. I signed a third party release that allowed her to leave the hospital with the baby when he was released. That night after the baby was born she wanted to stay with me and I was fine with that but the second night I request to be alone so I could say goodbye. The next day we all left the hospital together and went to the agency so she could fill out the rest of the papers putting the baby in her care. Later that same day I signed my my parental right away and the adoption had offically for me taking place. I live in Texas so once I signed those papers that was it for me no turning back. Six months later and she is offical his mom. We talked ever week the first year now we talk every two week and I should say we e-mail and send pic and updates we haven't talked or seen each other more my choice then hers.

On a birth moms point of view if you are asking what your birth mom is expecting. She will probably need comfort and support. Don't forget about her after the baby is born. Keep her involved while in the hospital, take pictures of all of you together not just for her but for your newborn. Ask her to write the baby a letter telling him about herself and why she choosed to do this in her own words. Don't be scared to be happy or show excitement she will want to see that. Ask her how she is dealing and coping and be interested in what she is saying even if you don't know what to say to her a hug and a statement of happiness for what she did will make a difference in the long run when she looks back on the day. Try not to leave her by herself the first day especially after the birth make sure someone either from your family or hers stays with her so she doesn't feel forgot about and check on her as often as you can that first day talk to her about the baby. In short treat her like family because she just gave you yours and make sure she is ok.

I'm not sure that was what you were asking but I hope it helped....Good Luck & God Bless

Answer 5

It varies greatly. Are you going through an agency? If so, they will usually work with the birth mother on a birth plan and plan for you to meet the baby and take custody, and discuss arrangements with hospital staff based on those discussions. Sometimes adoptive parents are asked to be there during delivery, sometimes they aren't asked to come until after the birth mother has been discharged, and some are in between.

Adoptive parents do NOT get to sign the original birth certificate. You will have a new one issued after finalization.

Answer 6

it depends on what the birthmother wants and what you have arranged. Some birthmothers want or allow the adoptive mother or parents to be in the birthng room when the baby is being born. Others will allow you to wait in the waiting room and come and be with the baby immediately following the birth. Others will call you when the baby is born and you can come to the hosptial right away. You should be able to find out what to expect. Are you waiting for a particular baby to be born right now or have you just been told that you will have a baby available for you to adopt by the end of the month? That will obviously change how much info you will have as well. Or are you just asking what actually happens to the baby at the hostpital if it is expected to be placed for adoption? Most birthmothers are encouraged (as they absolutely should be) to spend time with their baby after birth. Most birthmothers (depending on how the delivery went) are ready to leave the hospital one or two days after the baby is born. The baby is usually ready to leave the hospital at that point too. Some babies will be brought to a foster home temporarily until you can adopt them -- the laws are very different from state to state. Other babies can go home directly with their new adoptive families. The baby should be treated just as any other baby is while in the hospital. The birthmother can be with the baby as much as she chooses to be. The staff at the hospital will treat and take care of the baby just like they do all the other babies.

When I got to the hospital to meet my baby, he was one hour old. I needed identification with me to allow me to be with him, and the hospital was familiar with the situation. This particular hospital had specific policies (like being very strict about insisting on identification before I could spend time with my baby) and they were very familiar with adoption procedures. You could find out what hospital your baby will be born in and ask what to expect. If you don't ahve contact with the birth mother, the agency should still be able to tell you what will take place at the hospital. If you do have contact with the birthmother, ask her how she wants to handle the time in the hospital. Please encourage her to meet her baby and spend time with her baby. If the two of you can spend time together in the hospital with the baby that is also to be encouraged. And remember, it is her baby until she chooses to give her baby to you. I know that may sound harsh if you have been waiting forever to adopt a baby but, that really is how it is.

Good luck and I hope you have your baby soon!

Answer 7

Totally depends on what the agency and birthmother have agreed is best for her.  Usually, the adoptive family goes to the hospital and is present for the birth, either in the delivery room or outside in the waiting room -  or comes to the hospital after the delivery.  Also depends on whether everyone is local, etc.  But the baby will either be shown to the birthmother and everything is then handled just like any other birth, or, if you are present, and she requests it, the baby may be handed to you, if you are in the delivery room.

After the baby is cleaned, weighed, etc. it will be put in the nursery for a couple of hours, usually.  Then, depending agian on the arrangements made with the agency and birthmother, you may go into her room to visit with her, and see the baby.  Or, you may go to a private visiting area to spend time alone with the baby, if you are not invited into her room.  Many birth and adoptive families spend a lot of time in her room, all together, after the dlivery.  One ot two days!  It is a great time to share, take photos, cry, laugh, oooh and aaaah.  

She may keep the baby in her room at night or not -- her choice.  Same thing for the next day or so.

When it is time for her to either discharge (usually 48 hours) or sign her Relinqishment (varies state to state, but usually 24-36 hours after delivery), if she is still there at the hospital, you should disappear, and not be present (for your legal protection and her privacy).  Once she signs, you can go back in, hug her, etc.  

When the baby is ready to be d/c'd, everyone is discharged, either seperately or together.  Again, depends on the agreement or arrangment.

In some cases, she stays at the hospital and the baby leaves.  In other cases, she leaves and the baby stays for another day or so.  Also depends on each patient's health, etc.

Plan on -- lots of chaos, lots of stress, no sleep, some ignorant and rude people (including nurses!), some supportive people (hopefully!), lots of tears and lots of tip toeing.  Be sure to express yourself well to the birthmother at this time!  Hugs.  Tears.  We love you's.  We will always take good care of the baby, etc.   And even a small sweet gift like beautiful (not cheap!) flowers, or a care bag of candy/gum, or a sweet necklace that symbolizes love.  (No $1000 jewelry here, just a nice token of remembrance).   This may be your only chance to bond with your child's  birthmother!  (Things happen)  Treasure this time.  Treasure her.  Treasure your baby!

Hope this helps!!

Answer 8

I'm not saying this to be mean, or even to be a party pooper.  What happens after a baby is born at the hospital when there is an adoption plan in place is a really delicate time.  This woman who is giving birth is going to become a mother.  All decisions about adoption get made after birth, not before.  So, knowing that this is the time when she becomes a mother, if you are asked to attend the birth realize that you are a guest.  This is not your child yet.  Let her hold her baby.  Let her take in the moment.  She will get all of 48 hours to be a full out uncontested mother before all of that will be legally yanked away from her.  (Sure it is her choice, but I'm saying that the consequences to that choice are emotionally harsh.)

Answer 9

Each situation is different.  Each birthparent is different.  So a lot will depend on her wishes, the laws, and the hospital protocol.

However, in both of our situations this is what happened in our very open adoption of two children:

Birthmom was induced both times.  We drove her to the hospital.  Labors were relatively short.  After the birth, the birthmother is still in control of the entire situation.  If she needed time alone with the babies, she got it.

Since our agency had faxed the adoption plan to the hospital beforehand, they knew that two adoptive parents would be present.  The staff was great both times.  Completely non-judgmental and treated us as future parents of the babies.

I stayed with her the entire time, upon her request, and we helped each other care for the babies.  It was a great bonding moment for us and the birthmom.

When it was time for birthmom to be released from the hospital, she had time alone with the babies.  Her counselor then took her home.

In our state, birthmom's name goes on the birth certificate.  Our names are not added until the finalization which is 6 months after placement.  Five days after the birth, she signs her termination of parental rights.  She then has a 10-day revocation period during which she could change her mind.

Just remember that even after the birth, she still has all parental rights.  Do not disrespect her by acting as if you are already the parent.  (I'm not saying you would, but I'm afraid some adoptive parents do).

I wish you all the best!

Answer 10

i am a birthmother and i had the adoptive mother with me during birth. she stayed in the room with me alot but i had her leave some during the day and did not let her stay the night so i could spend private time alone with my baby since she was only mine for 3 days. i kept the baby with me except when she left for baths and dr checkups. i felt like i deserved that time since it was all id get and her adoptive mom would have her for all of her life. my adoption was open and we all got to bond and i got to watch her interact with my baby so they would be used to each other. good luck and remember, while you are gaining the most important thing in your life, the birthmother is loosing hers. the nurses can also keep others from knowing what is going on, privacy is your right.

Answer 11

If adoptive parents are already choosen, then the bio mom  or adoptive parents decides whether the child goes directly to the new parents or to foster care as the bio parents have a time limit to be sure this is what they want. It might be 6 months in some states. Some adoptive parents prefer the child go to foster care till the waiting time is up as they don't want to get attached to the baby in case the bio mom changes her mind.

Answer 12

The same thing that happens when any baby is born.  They nurture the child, do all of the tests, apgar etc.,

Depending on the birthmothers wishes,  you may or may not be in the delivery room. If it has been agreed on already, she still may change her mind.  It will be very emotional for all parties involved.  Once she gives birth, she may want to spend time with the baby as well.  Normally, the paperwork will need to be signed prior to you taking the baby home with you. That could take up to 48 hours,then you have to wait for the birthmothers revocation period to end, varies on the state you live in.  If the birthfather is known, he needs to sign as well, or the attorney involved will need to petition the court, that could take up to 60 days if he is not "in the picture".......Good luck, to parent is truly a blessing.

Answer 13

It depends on what state you live in.  I just recently placed my baby with a couple.  In my state, the birthmother still has rights to the child for 2 days after the birth.  This is their safe period.  She will have to sign consent forms for tests (even if the baby is with the new couple in the nursery) and any other things the hospital might do.  It also depends on the hospital too.  You will get to spend time with baby(some hospitals provide sleeping quarters next to the nursery for the adoptive couple).  But I had given birth by emergency c-section, so this experience might be a little different for a natural birth.  I was in the hospital for 3 days.  Baby was able to go to her new home on day 2.

Answer 14

it depends on the state, and the birthmother's wishes.  i can only speak from experience in the state of kansas.  and it also depends on the hospital.  in our instance.  the birthmother chose a hospital near our home, she was local.  we let the hospital know in advance that this was an adoption.  i highly suggest you do the same.  we were invited by the birthmother to be present at the birth.  we were guests.  we were there for support and to witness a awesome event!  the birthmother has all the say at this point, and you must respect that and try to understand any choice she may or may not make, and be respectful of that.  she is going through one of the most diffucult and emotional times in her life then.   she loves that baby probably more than we could ever understand or she would not be making the choice she is.  after the birth of our beautiful daughter, the birthmother decided that i should be the first one to hold her, but soon she wanted some time alone with her.  respect that.  the hospital we were at was kind enough if they had an extra room to let us stay in it.  we got a room right next to our birthmother.  our birthmother signed forms and allowed us to be able to have the baby brought in and out of our room at our request, unless she was visiting with the baby, then she took precidence.  at 12 hours after birth in kansas, parental rights can be relinquished and it's as binding as if you had been in front of a judge.  but in the hospital's eyes the birthmother is who still has the say in what is done and what room the baby goes to.  but she cannot leave the hospital with the baby.  the rights then went to our attorney who got us a temporary custody order allowing our baby to be in our home until finalization.  the birthmother was allowed to take any momento's of the birth and such.  like the card on the bassinet, the footprint birth certificate, etc.....everything went as smooth as it possibly could.  

some tips........yes your birthmother could still decide to parent, right up until the state the baby is born in says she can.  understand this, and respect if she does, even though it will be devastating.  but do not allow this thought to take away from  your joy.  some hospitals do not provide a room for the adoptive parent's, but if you let them know ahead of time, arrangements usually can be made.  plus if the nursing staff knows it's an adoption it can help comments that can be hurtful to the birthmother from being made.  

plus no matter what state the baby is born in, you do not get to sign the birth certificate.  the birthmother will put whatever name she chooses to put on there and she will sign it.  you will get an amended copy of the birth certificate with your names on it and your child's name that you choose after you finalize.  

but no matter, my best to you, and hope your adoption goes as beautifully as ours did!

Answer 15

Very sad that they are allowing illiterates to adopt children.

Answer 16

You get to sign in his hospital birth certificate thereby making you the legal parents of the baby. You will also sign papers regarding confidentiality of medical records and other legal papers. You also need to talk to your lawyer regarding your plan of adoption to help you out.