What happens if a Muslim guy cheats on his wife?

Question

There was a question here recently where a Muslim woman found out her husband had been cheating for 9 months and he also wasn't apologetic. What is a woman to do in those circumstances? I know she can get divorce, but do the children if they're older than an age go to the guy, even if he was a cheater? How can she support herself if she has to rely on her husband because women shouldn't work? What if he doesn't let her leave? How can she prove he cheats if her evidence isn't worth as much as a man's?

Answer 1

In all likelihood, the husband thought he could do what he pleased when he pleased, and with whomsoever he pleased, just because he's the man.  Like all that comes automatically with being a man.  The Holy Qur'an and the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace be upon him) doesn't sanction that.  

The man was wrong both for cheating on his wife and not being apologetic about it.  It was cold-blooded and callous for him to expect his wife to "get with the program", deal with it, and get over it.  If he calls himself a firm, believing man and wasn't happy in his marriage and/or if the wife wasn't behaving right, the honorable and respectable thing to do was to let his wife know, divorce her Islamically, give her what is due to her, and go on about his business and marry someone better.  Allah hates divorce; however, He also hates unsuccessful, unhappy marriages as well.

Being the maintainer and provider of the household doesn't give a man the authority and the right to do what he please when he please.  If the wife was at home full-time, she should receive alimony and child support.  He just cannot up and leave her homeless and broke.  He cannot have his cake and eat it, too.

Answer 2

muslims don't give two sh*ts about their women

Answer 3

file for divorce, get a job, re children she should have tot about it before marrying...

she has to find ppl who know who are ready to witness. may even try with pictures of the other woman, text messages, anything can be of evidence in court when divorcing... she should get maintenance if she is not at fault and he should be going to jail.. but that rarely happens...

however if she manages to prove incapability on husband

she might manage to get custody.  

tell her to get a good lawyer, since the husband is to blame for divorce he should be paying him anyway.

it however is very relative to the country... she is living in.. as not all apply the rules the same in some countries they are more leniant than others.

there is no way to get medical evidence of a cheating husband!!!! unless he has contacted some virus or illness from the extra matrimonial relationship!

in which case she would have to prove that it was not present before... as a lawyer i wouldn't go down that line it can backfire

Answer 4

If he cheats I am out of the house like a shot. I am not marired so I don't know but I guess this is what i would do.

Bless:)

Answer 5

Look honey, first of all, Muslim women can work. Why shouldn't they? Nowhere does it say in the Quran or Sunnah that they can't. Even the Prophet (P.B.U.H)'s wife, Zaynab (and Kahdija R.A too) used to earn money.

It is true that a woman's major role is the care of her kids, husband and house, but if she chooses to work, it's her choice. Though most Muslim women prefer not to take the extra burden of a job in addition to their household duties.

Secondly, the children will not be handed over to the man whose character is filthy. He can't get the custody of his kids, since he is a male prostitute.

Thirdly, a married prostitute is stoned to death. An unmarried one gets a 100 lashes, and is banned for a year from the country.

Fourth, if the medical evidence proves her to be right, no further questions raised.

Fifth, it doesn't matter whether he lets her leave or not, it's not his choice, since the court will decide in her favour.

That's all according to the Islamic laws. U don't find many countries following it. I guess she will have to rely upon the laws of her country. Man made laws.

Hope that helps...

EDIT: I mean, if he cheated her by sleeping with another woman, it can be medically proven. That's how these cases r legally confirmed nowdays. It's the court's duty to investigate into the matter and find the woman whom he slept with.

The other way is that a man or a woman who has no evidence to prove this case has to swear in court 5 times. 4 times "I swear by God that he slept with another woman". The 5th time: "If I am a liar, may Allah's curse be upon me".

After this, the couple are separated.

Answer 6

There's really only on decision to be made by this wife and it is to leave him before or after you castrate him.  Personally, I feel that if a man mis-uses that which is his wife's property in marriage, his wife has the right and obligation to take it back.

Answer 7

100 Lashes would be rewarded to that Man who cheats on his Wife

Answer 8

He can tell people she denied him his right to marry another woman, so he had no option but to cheat. He'll get away with it. A few verses directed at the woman will make her look bad enough to show it was her fault all the time.