What happens when a non-married couple gets pregnant"?

Question

who gets to decide what they do?

Does the guy have any say at all? or does he?

Does the woman have all the power? or no?

What if they are living together?

Answer 1

Well the guy gets an opinion as to whether or not he wants to keep the baby but when it comes down to it, the mother has the final say. It's her body. It doesn't matter if they're living together. My ex wanted me to get an abortion but there was no way in h*ll I was going to- his choice was to be involved or not but he didn't get to decide whether or not I aborted my son.

Answer 2

are you are together then what ever but if not dont put a child trough pain becuase its not there fault but i can say a mother and fathers job is to love a child and both have the right to take care of that child.i am not married and have a child but my child lives with me because her father works alot and we both love her no matter what but it depends on the parents not the child

Answer 3

It so much depends on the dynamic of the couple...religious and political views...and also the level of committment. Is this someone you see being with in the long term? Is now a good time for you to have a child? Is it too early? Do you believe in abortion? Does he? Marriage is not a prerequisite for having children (people reproduce outside of wedlock all the time)--the important question is what will work best for BOTH parties and is this a good time to bring a child into the world? A support system is important if so--if not--then that's a decision you will need to make. Essentially, the child will be growing in your body--therefore I feel that yours is the ultimate decision--however there is no harm in advising the father regardless. (I think its a courtesy).

Answer 4

Legally, unfortunately a women has ALL of the power... she can even go as far as deciding that she doesn't want the father to know he has a kid....

Morally, this should be a "group" decision... meaning between both parents regardless of the living arrangements.

Answer 5

well discuss it if the man wants to abort but the woman wants to keep then she should keep it.

the guy doesnt have a major say in the termination because it is her body and if she wants the baby then its her choice and she'll bring up the baby with or without the man and if theyre living together then he/she will have to move out if they both disagree over the baby but if the man wants the baby and the woman dont then they should discuss it even more.

Answer 6

I'm pregnant and in a non-married relationship. I live with my partner. We both share the responsibility of making decisions. I have made most of the decisions regarding the baby so far (what obgyn, what crib, stuff like that), but I don't think that has anything to do with being unmarried, because it's usually the "mom" makes those decisions anyway. If my partner said, "Oh I hate that crib" then we would compromise and find a crib we both like, lol. We are no different than any married couple, except we don't depend on a piece of paper to hold us together.

Usually you don't enter a long term relationship with someone that you don't share at least some of the most basic beliefs with, so no problems there either.

By the way, you said an unmarried COUPLE so hypothetically that couple would still be together. If my partner and I decided to end it down the road, it would be just like if a married couple got a divorce- child support, visitation, custody, etc. Just like in a marriage, however, you can never plan on divorce and seperation, you just pray and work hard so that it doesn't happen.

And why the heck wouldn't we keep our baby?

Answer 7

I have been there... I had wanted a baby for years when we got pregnant 3 months after we met. I simply told him that his choice was wether he was going to be an active father. he was not going to be allowed to be in and out of my life and the baby's. he didn't speak to me for about 3 days, then he decided he wanted to be there...that was 13 years and 3 kids ago. we have lived together since the day the test came out positive. it has not always been easy, but it has been done.

he had told me like 2 weeks before that if I got pregnant my options were abortion or adoption because HE wasn't ready to be a dad. No one has a right to tell me what to do in that situation. what if your dad had told your mom she had to get an abortion? you might not exist. if you don't want kids YOU need to make sure you don't make any...not tell the woman she has to kill or give hers away.

Answer 8

the man has no as at all.. you have all the power.. unless you guys go to court and he takes a dna test

Answer 9

The father has just as much rights to the child as the mother.  Doesn't matter if they are married or not.  The courts are looking for the welfare of the child.

Answer 10

the man has no authority unless his name is on the birth certificate, in which case, he can take the baby through help with the courts.

Answer 11

according to your name, you shouldn't be asking

Answer 12

The woman gets to decide if she wants to keep the baby.  The man has to pay child support, and is entitled to see the baby/participate in parenting and decisionmaking.

Answer 13

No one can make yo terminate your child if you don't want to. Why wouldn't you guys be happy? you're already living together. The father also has as much of a say as the mother