What happens when she says its over?

Question

my girlfriend call to say its over and just the following day she was pleading for our comeback. my worry is actually about how she said it.

its terrible to hear, i asked her if thats what she want? and she said YES-YES and i asked her, are you sure about this? and she said YES and she cut the line on me. What i said to my self was CAN'T BELIEVE I AM THE FOOL AGAIN, I THOUGHT THIS ONE WILL NEVER END. Am not sure about if i will like us to comeback again because i she always want to have her way and thus says things to make her happy without thinking about the others feelings.

advice me on this. Love her though but am afraid to let her inn.

Answer 1

when a man says it's over, it's 60% sure plus most likely will get together later for some fun

now.. hear this..

when a woman says it's over. It's 100% over and she's thinking of dating someone else

women are crazy dude. especially american women. don't marry one.

Answer 2

Love is always a risk.  We never know what the next day will bring in our lives in love or not.  It sounds like you don't trust this girl so my advice to you would be not to go back with her because your level of trust for her is very weak and not having trust is not love.

Answer 3

Jerpox is right.  When a woman says it's over, it's 100% over.  

  I made this same mistake with my ex, when she called things off.  She kept contacting me, and I was always willing to try and make things work.  Once you're in that position, you come off as desperate and weak.  No woman, or man, respects that in a partner.  You'll be putting yourself in a subordinate position.  Love is about two people trusting in each other.  Not one person fighting for the other's trust.  

  In a nut-shell, once you hit that point of "it's over", everything beyond that point is going to come off as you trying to appease her emotions.  This goes both ways in any relationship.  The best thing you can do when you hear "it's over" is walk away without batting an eyelash, even if you're dying inside.  

  Don't play the part of the fool, like me, and so many men and woman have before us.  You have to be strong when you hear those words.  She's the one who's having commitment issues, not you.  Give her a month or two on her own.  See how much she really wants you back.  

  Breakups don't always have to cut deep.  But it sounds like she's being reckless with her emotions, and she'll definitely cut you deep if you let her.  

  The longer she has you while she's contemplating dating other people, the more time she'll get used to feeling comfortable with ditching you for something better; she'll want a new challenge.  Don't let that happen to you.  Give her some time to think about what "it's over" means.  

  Best of luck!

Answer 4

Why would you want to be with someone like that?  Best to let this one go.

Answer 5

what do you do?

well, most guys go out, get drunk, get laid, and look for a replacement

he who laughs last, laughs longest.

good luck.

PLENTY of fish in the sea, my friend..

Answer 6

YOUR RIGHT!!!!!!!!  GO WITH YOUR GUT!!!!  Trust yourself.

Answer 7

You're not a fool you just have feelings. If she says it's over have that one last cry and think to yourself her loss and attempt to move on with your life. The pain will eventually lesson and the sun will shine again.

Answer 8

It's been my experience that once either partner says it's over it usually is.  I've not seen any relationship that didn't end eventually once that was said.  Sometimes people get back together again, but I've not seen that last either.

I suggest moving on my friend.  There are lots of people out there, and the one for you is waiting.  Doing the yo-yo relationship is not healthy.

Answer 9

First of all, you first question should have been "Why?"  You did not allow her to tell you why she feels sunhappy in the relationship.  

It is time that you either do some serious communicating about expectations of each other, or you will go through this time and time again.  (If not with her, with someone else).  You can not just take someones's word for it, you need to communicate the reasons why, so that you can relate to how they feel, and work out a compromise or at least an understanding of each other.

Answer 10

Cry....And cry some more.