What happens when somebody objects at a wedding?

Question

In weddings, they always asks if anybody objects but i have yet to see somebody object. what would happen if somebody does?

Answer 1

First of all, you can ask for that to be removed from, I believe, all but Catholic ceremonies and probably those as well.  

Believe it or not, relatives have used that opportunity to cough or say something and then make a joke of it. It only humiliates the bride or groom.  The inclusion of it dates back to when women were essentially owned by their father or male relative. That wasn't that long ago.

Answer 2

I'm not sure that questions is always asked, I think if you didn't want it asked, it wouldn't be necessary. I got married three weeks ago, and the pastor never talked about that in our 6 months of counseling, and he never said it at the wedding. Three other weddings I've been to didn't have that said in the ceremony either.

I think its used a lot on tv for drama. I think if people have problems with two people getting married, it should be presented before the wedding day. Doing it on the wedding day is just rude.

Answer 3

The family members promptly tackle and silence the objector.  

Answer 4

You can have them leave that part out if you're concerned.  Our officiant came up with his own stuff to say, and to our surprise and the happiness of all our guests our ceremony from start to finish took 5 minutes!  Yay!

Answer 5

Idk. But if someone objected at my wedding, I'd have them kicked out. lawlzlawlz.

I mean seriously it's my choice to get married; not theirs.

Answer 6

Good question, I'd like to be a witness to that one and take back the wedding gift I gave them and run! LOL!!

Answer 7

The standard procedure would be when someone objects, the priest takes them aside in private, and talks to them about it. If it's a reason like "I don't want them married, because I don't like the bride/groom!" The wedding continues. If it's something like "He is still married to me!" then the guests, take home their gifts, and the matter is dealt with, and if the bride and groom still want to get married, they have the wedding another time.  

Answer 8

Interesting question.

Answer 9

who ever is  holding the shot gun at the time turns it on the objector...

but you can in your ceremony get that part left out of it...

Answer 10

Normally this isn't even asked during ceremonies anymore.  If people specifically asked for it to be included I would, but I don't add it to the ceremonies I do as a regular portion of the ceremony. I can only imagine that if someone objected now they'd be removed by an usher. As has been mentioned the tradition to ask this is from a different time, and couples honestly normally aren't that attached to tradition and more couples are branching out and having unique ceremonies.

Answer 11

lmao, need3know...

the person will be heard out, then the bride and groom decides if they want to discuss it, continue, or perminently stop.

Answer 12

Comes from the old days of feuding families.  The Priest would ask to be sure everyone was happy with the 'union'!  If it's asked, it's probably just to lighten the moment by the Priest.

Answer 13

If you notice, it's very rare in a modern wedding for the priest/pastor to ask this question anymore.

I imagine, though, if it were to happen--everyone would be quite shocked and embarrassed--not only for the couple, but for the person who stood.  This "objection" really doesn't apply anymore as families and friends don't have much of a say in who we decide to marry anymore.

Now, if someone announced "I know for a fact that Tom is cheating"--the bride might flee and the reception might be canceled.

Answer 14

good question! i think he or she states why, and then the bride and groom decide if they want to continue or not.

Answer 15

they listen to the reason, and the priest would ask if they want to go on or if  they need to sort it out before continuing or potentialy if they need to call it off

Answer 16

I've always wondered this. lol I would think it would be quite an awkward moment. Judging what I've seen in movies, I think the person objecting says their piece and the bride and groom can either continue the marriage or back out. Cool question. I'm going to give you a star also lol :)

Answer 17

The question is rarely asked anymore. Our pastor asked us if we wanted him to say that, and we said no. Frankly, it's no one else's business. :)

Anyway, if someone does, they explain the reasoning. Then the bride and groom can choose to continue or not get married.