What happens when you become friends with benifits and start building up feelings ?

Question

i have known this guy for over 7 years i always liked himm.and got kinda nervuse when he was around now that i am older and we start hanging out moree...we recently madeout and i have a lot of feelings for him...but i dnt think he has the same feelings for me. he just brokeup with his ex and i dnt want him to use me to get over her. i am going to see him today and i dnt know what to do. he said he would go out with me if we went to the same schools which is really stupid. help.

Answer 1

ok that's just dumb. see if your friends w/ benefits, it will no longer be friends w/ benefits if u guys start liking each other more than friends w/ benefits. must i explain friends w/ benefits to every1....

fw/b are merely s*x partners or makeout partners, if you guys start liking each other more than that it would fall apart, especally if u had feelings for him, and he didnt hav feelings for u. (or visversa) b/c then that will ruin the realtionship completely, and then u will end up worse off then u were b4. it sux i know. so my advice to u not b friends w/ benefits if u hav feelings for him. and if he tells u he "loves u" or "likes u more than a friend" then u could definatley take the chance and b his gf.

and yea i see his point on the hole not going to the same schools, its just so much easier when u guys can c each other on a regular basis.

Answer 2

If you don't think he feels the same way RUN.....

Answer 3

I have had this happen to me plenty of times before. It hasn't necessarily worked out in my favor, but I can say, the best thing to do is go forth with the relationship, it will never hurt to try something out. Obviously you guys do well as friends, and there is some sort of sexual tension between the two of you. If the relationship is meant to be, it will work out, if not, be mature about it, and stay as friends.

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Answer 4

If you see him today, and things happen, you can bet that it's only happening because he's lonely after breaking up with his girlfriend. You should back out now before you get really hurt. If you're going to continue with this though, let him know that he has to resolve his own issues before making you a part of them.

Answer 5

its ok. its not like the end of the world hun. you just so happened to have feelings for this kid. just tell him. ask him if he feels the same.  

Answer 6

I had been friends with a guy for almost 15 years when he started flirting with me.  We ended up making a deal for sexual encounters with no feelings.  This only worked for several months before he started having feelings for me.  I had started to have feelings for him too.  

Sexual encounters can become tricky.

Best of luck with this!

Answer 7

Well trust me I'm a guy, and I went through the same thing. Eventually you will want to be boyfriend and girlfriend. If you don't, he might get an offer from another girl and either say yes, or no. If he says yes, then you are out of the picture or you like a complete *** if he tries to stay with you both. If he says no, then he probably has more feelings for you.

Bottom line, ask him out, if he says no, break of the benefits thing, he is just stringing you.

Answer 8

Just think of him as a booty call and strictly that. Don't get attached because then you would be making love and he will just be having s*x. Get what I'm saying?? Don't let your heart get involved or else your just going to end up getting hurt. Like you said you don't want to be the rebound. Keep doing your thing just let him get over his feelings on his own.  

Answer 9

Unless I miss something , stupid is, stupid does!

Answer 10

Yeah my friend was the same way and they ended up falling in love and getting married. Now they have a baby and another on the way and are the happiest little family you'll ever meet.