What happens when you come out of the mysterious closet?

Question

Like once you pass the doors do they magically erase your memory of the times in the closet?

I ask this because it seems that a lot of g**s have forgotten how its not always a choice to "be yourself". I say this because I asked a question about "discreet" pride stuff. And instead of getting answers I was told to be my self and talk to my parents. Uhh do they not think I would if it wouldn't change anything? Oh thanks Alex for the awesome answer I am definitely getting that ring.

Answer 1

We all have to make our own decisions.  Personally I'm a bi bloke, and I'm open and positive about that with "most" people - its not unusual that a curious question will be greeted with an answer that goes a little too far...   But, I have a younger brother who is very anti and parents who while thinking they understand, like to lump all "alternative" sexualities together, and so I've not "come out" to these as it's more trouble than its worth.  Ok so, my parents probably think I'm g*y, and for them I think that's easier than explaining that I'm bi, my brother is probably too thick to put 2 & 2 together, and if he did it'd probably end in a fight.  Being "in the closet" with this limited sub-group is just how my life is, it doesn't worry me, if I thought being totally open would be a better policy then I'd do it.  Being Bi is just a part of my life, it doesn't define my life or my outlook half as much as say my taste in say music does!  I suppose that's a bit of tribalism, and in my "tribe" (I'm a goth) positive & active bi-sexuality is common but with a lesser degree of "pride activity" than in the more general LGBT community.

Answer 2

The first thing you should consider is protecting yourself. If you could come dancing out of the closet you would. The memories collected in the closet will remain with you but one day will not have such a profound effect on you.

You more than anyone know that you cannot discuss this subject with your parents and therefor you should not. It's not the time for it. Later in life you may feel different and should only do it when you are comfortable in doing so. There is no cookie cutter method for coming out of the closet and therefor each individual should judge for themselves the best time and the best way to do it.

If you foresee a painful event being caused by opening up that door then avoid doing so until you are in a position of safety. In a word, follow your heart and conscience. Your sexuality is a very personal aspect of who you are and should be treated delicately.

Carry on with your discreet pride until you can more openly express it.

Hope this has helped.

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