What has happened to me ?

Question

I seem to be losing interest in everything I do since I transferred school (a girls' school). Studying, exercising, reading and writing used to be things I felt were good and beneficial for me. I would enjoy doing them because of that.

In social gatherings, I was always the one to be the most sociable and talkative but now, I just don't give a care . I don't feel like doing anything now. I dislike socialising and doing homework, even writing a simple reflection in school puts me off. I used to love travelling and going to places such as restaurants and buying clothes. Now that my mom's teaching job is earning her alot, she buys us things she didn't use to and takes us to many restaurants and places that I would say are not affordable. In the past I would be extremely grateful and would obey my mom for everything but now, though I still appreciate what she's doing, I don't seem to be excited anymore.

I have no idea what has happened to me. My new school is very different from my old one as it is way more competitive and gives me alot of stress. (for girls) I even missed my period for 2 weeks, which is not normal for me. I think I'm turning into a zombie, just like people in my school . I am emotionless and have no thinking . I used to get As in everything but now, I'm getting Cs . I also seem to cry alot, which I have hardly done before, mainly because of my socialising problem . You see, my sister has alot of enemies in my school (she is in my school too), and this has affected me greatly because apparently me and my sister seem to be the same person . Because they hate my sister, they hate me too. I also have to back my sister up as she gets called names at due to the horrible attitude she has. Because of this I have no friends in class or in my CCA . They used to like me and I had friends, until my sister came along . Now, I don't know how to explain the situation to them as they dislike me already . I don't want to embarass myself either as I don't know if that is the real reason they ignore me by talking to them . At the heat of the moment when defending my sister, I get so caught I'm in it it seems that I like my sister when I don't . She makes everyone irritated, including my mom and me . She always makes me cry when I scold her for doing something wrong, and then she calls me names and tells me I'm a 'loner', which is a fact.

If this goes on any further, I am truly living the most upseting time of my life . Plus I'm only 14 ! I thought secondary school life was to be the best time of your life, not your worst ...

Somebody help me, please !

Answer 1

It sounds like you might have depression. talk to your parents and have them schedule a doctor's appointment, and ask your doctor for a referral to a psychiatrist. They are better equipped to deal with emotional issues than a regular MD. I really hope you'll do this and that you come through it well. Peace, and all my hopes.

Answer 2

Sound like depression and I know it well.  Get ahold of a parent that you trust, or a school guidence counselor.  They can help a lot.  Gives you someone you can rant to, then they can either give you advice on just that or on other things too.  Like how to handle your sister.  Good luck dear  You can email me if you want.  Oh, and as for secondary school being the best time of your life..that was a lie.  Very few people enjoy it, I know I didnt. But it gives you college to look forward to, which should be much better.  High school drama hurts, but youll get through it.  

Answer 3

Talk to your parents or a counselor.  Those are the symptoms of depression and are easily treated.

As for secondary school being the best time of your life:  that's true for about 1% of the population.  For the rest of us it is something to be endured before real life begins.  And who wants to peak at 16?  Then you'd have nothing to look forward to.  

Good luck.

Answer 4

You sound depressed. Sweetheart, this is normal. You changed schools and you are going through a lot of changes on the inside, too. Your body is becoming a hotbed of hormones and chemical reactions. Everyone goes through this when they go through puberty, so you aren't alone.

It sounds like you and your Mom are pretty close, so I would talk to her about these feelings.

As for helping your depression, I know it might be easier to mope around, but get some exercise and get out in the sun more! Vitamin D and E are good for quelling these terrible feelings in the meantime.

Keep you chin up and it will pass.

Answer 5

It sounds like you are severely depressed. You should contact a counselor and find out why.  Here is a quiz that helps diagnose depression.

http://depression.about.com/cs/diagnosis...