What has happened to you personally that has made you so adamant in your belief that feminism is evil?

Question

Please name a specific incident where it directly affected you that makes you anti-feminism. Thank you.

Answer 1

Ok, ok.  It doesn't directly affect me, but the feminist that goes by the name of "The Biting Beaver" online is the reason that I decided feminism is, now and forever, a force of evil.  Just an excerp from one of her blogs, entitled "My Son".  Tell me that it doesn't turn your stomach, or at least deeply effect you.

"I have three boys. One of them is lost to me and as a mother and a radical womyn this breaks my heart in a way I can scarcely express. I don’t know if it says something terrible about me, but you know what haunts me late at night? More than anything else? I know, in my heart of hearts that, knowing what I know now, if I had it to do over again I would have had that abortion."

I can understand being disgusted with your child's consumption of pornography, but to go so far as to say you wish you would have aborted them?  Cripes.  Glad she's not my mother.  I was "in to" p**n for awhile when I was younger, but it didn't destroy my moral fiber, or cause me to treat women badly.  In fact, my fiancee says I'm the most supportive, loving person she's ever been in a relationship with.

As I said, this incident didn't affect me in a physical proximity, but as a male, and having been raised by my single mother, I feel very troubled.  I'm guessing that just about all men would feel troubled by this.

EDITED TO ADD: I don't deny your claim, Eternal Swimmer.  I am a man, and I tell EVERYBODY exactly that when I'm asked what my stance on abortion is.  I have zero opinion on the issue, and I don't think that as a person incapable of carrying a living being in my body, that I am equipped to take a stand on either side of the issue.  However, the question realistically has nothing to do with being pro-life, or pro-choice.  It has everything to do with human rights, and the psychophants that are active members of the current permutation of the feminist movement.

Answer 2

growing up hearing that i was the bad gender and learning later on that it was untrue and that men and women are equally capable of doing wrong. i know a radical well. ive lived in a number of countries one of them is a feminised pc country and it really put me off. my personal experiences with family law in a feminised country. learning about the methods used to slander men and create fear and anger in women. seeing many feminists sneering attitude towards mens rights on this board.

i support equality, i object to feminism.

Answer 3

I have nothing but respect and admiration for 1st and 2nd wave feminists. 3rd wave feminism has lost the true path and is suffering from a megalomanic disposition fueled by radicals.

There have been two specific events that lead to my distrust of feminsm and women in general.

1. When I was 20(11 yrs ago) working as a assistant manager in a grocery store a 16 yr old girl had a crush on me and despite her attempts to flirt and come on to me I politely reminded her that we were co-workers and that I was overage. My fault was I didn't mention this to my manager(a woman in her mid 40's) because I had thought that this teenager had respected my stance on our relationship. Ends up she had made a false allegation of me groping her puting on the tears for everyone in the front offices. Since I was clueless to what was going on my manager confronted me with two police officers who came and got me from the back storage room. I wasn't asked for my story, or perspective. I was immediately hand-cuffed and taken away and fired infront of my peers and onlookers.

I stayed in jail for about 10hours until the jailer came and let me out. The manager who I had worked for a year and a half, who had awarded me the position of assistant manager, who I thought had some faith in me atleast to ask for my story ended up coming to get me from jail after interrogating the teenager that made false allegations of me. She tried to offer my job back and the sincerest of apologies but...I couldn't do it. The damage was done. Some people say that I should of been the bigger man and accepted her apology and returned to my job. My trust in her was absolutely annhilated. Why go back? So my other female co-workers could look at me with suspicion with the slightest glance? This is why my distrust of VAWA is so rancid. Men can be hauled away with a mere string of syllables and an act..are we just supposed to "get over it?"

2. The woman who I thought loved me for 3yrs left me while I was dying in the hospital from a life threatning accident from a 18 wheeler. Sure we had been fighting prior however, I had been suspicious of her fidelity in recent weeks before the accident. Ends up my suspicions were true. After a year and a half of physical therapy one of her friends had the gaul to contact me and tell me how happy she was doing with her new doctor husband, who she will probably leave or divorce when the times get tough.

I haven't heard from her since, and quite honestly, don't care to.

I was bitter and suicidal for a long time because I thought I would never walk again and was having trouble just accepting the pain both physically and emotionally when my "so-called" friends came around since hearing of my insurance settlement. They didn't come to see me in the hospital or when I was in physical therapy. They only showed up when they thought they could get a free hand out because I came into all this money which I could only spend on the numerous amount of surgeries I had to endure.

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Yea I know the 2nd reason sounds more personal but it just compounds my lack of faith in women and their issues and just people in general. I'll  be straight honest,  I used to lean heavily toward mysoginistic tendencies. Some are still evident but, holding onto the bitterness is too stressful, and the more perspectives I see/hear from moderate women who want "equal opportunity instead of equal outcome" the more my faith slowly rekindles.

It takes time though, but for now I will remain vigilant, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

Answer 4

When family life started to suffer as a result of women joining in the workforce. Feminism resulted in more women gaining education, which is a great thing. But, instead of recognizing the one God-given unique ability to be a caring, doting, Mother, feminism pressured women to either a) have babies then go back to work immediately, or b) not have babies.

Answer 5

Before I studied it at university I supported feminism. However after studying two gender modules I was shocked at how false the 'facts' and statistics generated by the feminist movement are.

I don't need to be put in jail on false charges of domestic violence, or have my child aborted without my consent, or to be fired from my job on a false sexual harrassment charge to know that feminism is a rotten little cancer eating at the heart of society. If anyone still thinks that feminism is about equality, I say go and study it and then see what you think.

Edit

Take for example the false stats on rape that my questions and answer have been deleted on over the weekend. The feminist movement has been guilty of many lies, not least that '1 in 4 women are raped'. However the Independent Women's Forum points out the root of this myth: "based on a fallacious feminist study commissioned by Ms. magazine. The researcher, Mary Koss, hand-picked by hard-line feminist Gloria Steinem, acknowledges that 73 percent of the young women she counted as rape victims were not aware they had been raped. Forty-three percent of them were dating their 'attacker' again" http://www.massnews.com/2003_Editions/5_...

The general tactic has been to expand definitions  - in this case rape - in order to make something appear a bigger problem than it is: "…even verbal coercion or manipulation constitutes rape” (Roiphe, 1993, pp. 66–67) and “with such a sweeping definition of rape, I wonder how many people there are, male or female, who haven’t been date-raped at one point or another” (Roiphe, 1993, p. 79). Source: Roiphe, K. (1993). The morning after: s*x, fear and feminism on campus. Boston: Little, Brown.

Incredibly, when one feminist spokeswoman was challenged on the '1 in 4' statistic, she responded: "The statistics don't really matter... We're just trying to focus on the real issue here... not bicker about numbers" http://www.deltabravo.net/files/ifmenhav...

This is only the tip of the very nasty iceberg that is feminist 'research' and 'fact'. Do I need to say more about why I don't like feminism? If it were about equality I'd be all for it, but clearly equality is very far from the feminist agenda.

Answer 6

It's a silly question, likely asked by a feminist who presumes that one MUST have a "negative experience" in order to be "against" feminism.  To see this, it would be like asking:

"What has happened to you personally that has made you so adamant in your belief that cannibilism (or human sacfrices, burning witches, etc) is evil?"

Uhhhhh... nothing in particular. Some things can be judged evil without any direct experience. I didn't need to grow up under Nazism to judge it as an evil system.  I didn't need to know Stalin personally to assess his evil ways. Likewise, I have never had a significant personal experience with feminism to become anti-feminist...I merely studied it and observed its outcomes.

I learned very quickly that feminism wasn't about liberating PEOPLE from their previously too restrictive roles which were assigned to them based on the plumbing they displayed at birth, but rather was founded on a number of absolute falsehoods which had nothing to do with freedom, equality, or fairness. The fundamental premise that men had MORE power, not just a different kind of power and in a different area of society as a whole, but MORE power in a complete and absolute sense was something that I vehemently disagreed with.  I could come up with thousands of examples of circumstances in which women had more power than men did.  And in every example they gave of where men did have any power,  I could easily point out the uneven distribution of power among men, and how a few men at the top of the wealth/influence pyramid had a lot of power, but that the vast majority of men had very little.

Y'know, the feminist author Wendy Dennis came out with a book in the early 1990s called "Hot and Bothered:  s*x and love in the 90s."  Among many other astute observations in the book was that nothing was more classically typical of the state of male/female relations than the woman who complained bitterly about every aspect of men, then couldn't figure out why she couldn't get one of these awful creatures to fall madly in love with her.  I had observed the same thing so many times that I had simply concluded that such women were simply not very bright.  In stark contrast to the mythology of how socially adept women are, I was baffled that such women were so stupid that they didn't realize that no living thing will respond to such projections of distaste, contempt, and hatred with anything except return animosity. Man bashing and man hating harms women, because it makes men hate them back - eventually.  A puppy returns love for love, but if you beat it will eventually turn mean and will one day turn on you when you raise your fist or your stick (or the club of words) to hit it.  Men are no different.  When women talk about treating men like dogs, I wish they would.  It would be an improvement.  Most women treat their dogs far better than they treat their men.

Answer 7

The Take Back The Night marches in which men were told in no uncertain terms that they were unwelcome to participate.  

Also, the ridiculous assertion that women are in danger on Super Bowl Sunday.

Answer 8

I took a socio-ethnic studies class. That's when it "dinged" for me.

     Had a hard time stomaching the stuff the book was pushing so I looked stuff up for my self and became appalled at how the authors lied about everything.

      The purpose-full errors in statistics, down right lieing about the results of government studies.

       That and several statements made by the professor alarmed me enough to continue my studies into the matter outside of college

. During a debate(community college professors there have less power) she even slipped that college and the education system is for liberal indoctrination. Wish I had a mini cam that day....

Granted I never liked feminism but I never thought it would be a large enough threat to my personnel existence, happiness and freedom  that it had to be fought instead of ignored.

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But to those who say the right to abort and this and that keep in mind who gets stuck loseing half there pay for 18 years?

    When men have the right to abondonment than women should be able to have the right to abortion. The current system is so practically illegal. You could argue that roe vs wade is illegal because it clearly gives women the ability to entrap and enslave a man financially. An act akin to an indentured servant barred under the 13 Amendment.

Section 1. Neither slavery nor "involuntary servitude", except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.

Being forced by the courts to work in order to support some one elses choice is "involuntary servitude". No matter how you dice it.

Answer 9

I don't feel completely qualified to answer your question on the basis that I don't think feminism is evil; at least not the core feminist belief in equality of opportunity, Just as with religion, the core beliefs are worthwhile, but as there are wrong-headed people within the ranks of religious leaders, so are there women in the ranks of the feminist movement that allow their hatred to consume them. The funny part is, most of these women have lived under equal opportunity laws all of their lives. The feminist movement has been hijacked by these man haters. Their misandry blinds them to the fact that women commit evil also, or perhaps they believe that men are just born bad, while women are driven to it, by men. I advocate true equality where possible, split down the middle. I don't believe gov;t can allow a man to get an abortion anymore than gov't can enable women to write their name in the snow.But, if gov't can make laws giving weaker women equality in civil service and military jobs, laws can also be made giving men equality of opportunity in family and reproductive law. How could a belief in equality be evil? It's not. What is evil is the way it's carried out in Orwellian double speak that says, man bad, woman good. Let's all be equal.

Answer 10

I fully support feminism. I believe in the right to abort, because the man can have the right to not abort, when he can carry the baby. He is not the one who is shamed in public, laughed at, in pain, and can leave whenever the h**l he likes.

Answer 11

I do not think it is evil...just biased towards women.  I believe in the betterment of both women's and men's rights.

Answer 12

My first Yahoo answers account got deleted.

Answer 13

Sounds like the first couple of answers are grasping at straws.

Answer 14

Talking to an army recruiter and him telling me that women's physical standards are lower than a mans required to do the same job.

The idea that women could be in combat at all.

Third wave feminism as a whole.

Co-ed dorms.

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