What if i WANT a baby?

Question

im 15, and people keep sayin stuff like we shouldnt have babys, but wat if me and my bfriend WANT a baby. i dont think there should be nything stoping us. wat do you think?

Answer 1

you got a job to pay for it?

Answer 2

I don't think a 15 year old is mature enough to care for and provide for a baby! It is not all fun and games. Babies take a lot of work and lots of money! You can't even drive yet! Plus I think you should enjoy your teen years and take on motherhood when you have had your fun and are ready for motherhood!

Answer 3

Who is going to support this baby financially?  It can't be you as you are only 15!  Go get and education and enjoy your life.  You have your whole life ahead of you to have a family.  Having a baby at 15 is NOT the right thing to do.  What kind of future can you give your child?  

Babies don't stay babies for long and it is a lifetime commitment.  You may think babies are cute and all that, but they are HARD work.  You will be up all night, surviving on very little sleep, and everything else that bringing up a baby entails.

The reason people tell you not to have a baby is because they are older and they know what a life changing decision it is.  It is not easy.  Yes, the rewards are fantastic, but at 15 you are TOO YOUNG and you should wait.

Where are your parents in all of this?

Answer 4

Do you have a job?

Insurance?

House?

Car?

Money?

Family that will support that decision?

Daycare?

Answer 5

I think that if you've both finished high school, neither live with your parents and at least one of you has a CAREER not just a job, then go for it.

Answer 6

nooo you guys are wayyyyyy to YOUNG!

first off you both dont have good jobs right? you guys are probly still in school. you should want to finish school, get into college or get a good job and after that if your and ur bf are still together, talk about marriage then plan to have kids.  you guys dont want to be struggling parents your whole life. you guys will be up all hours of the night. you should wait to have kids you both are so young, why rush it? and why put a baby into that situation? dont you want your baby to have everything it needs? and who knows your bf probly cant handle it and he will leave you it happens all the time.  they may be cute and little but they grow fast and it gets harder and harder.

Answer 7

Trust me, you don't really want a baby, you're just bored.

If you really do want a baby, then GET MARRIED for the sake of the child. Make the important decision first, make him your hsuband, not your bf. Ever think about wanting that?

Answer 8

well i WANT  pony but i cant afford to look after one.

So i am not getting one.

15 you cant get a job at minimum wage. Shops wont take under 16's.

So if you have a baby what can you offer the baby?

You wont be able to afford every thing

Cot

Pram

Car seat

Nappie

Clothes

Toys

Stair guards

bottles

bowls

serilizing equipment

milk

food

spoons

wipes

powders

shampoos

creams

travel cot

many many more things and you WILL NOT be able to afford it.

Also if you have a baby now you have no chance getting a decent job in the future.

No gcses? did you think of that?

what happens if you and your boyfriend fall out?

single parent which is even harder. If you have a baby its YOUR responsibility. Not your mums or dads YOURS.

think everything your parents have done and do for you, you will have to do for this baby BIG responsibility at your age dont you think?

wait until your older in a year or two you and your bf could go different ways. It wont be fair for your baby.

You have to put the baby before yourself.

its only fair to wait until your in a stable relationship which a steady income a place of your own and the maturity to raise a baby.

Answer 9

You guys have jobs to plan on supporting the baby?  You like living on minimum wage for the rest of your life?

I don't care how old you are - if 2 people are in love and committed to eachother, committed to raising a baby, and have secure jobs and will not be living off their parents or the state, then by all means, go have a baby.

If you can accomplish that, then I'll be impressed.  Otherwise, you are just being very selfish and immature.

Answer 10

I think you need to ask yourself - what can I OFFER a baby? Would a child choose ME as a parent?

Having a child isn't about what you want, it's about a human life. And if you're going to love your future children, you surely must want to provide the best start in life for them. Can you honestly claim that a 15 year old mother with no money or house of her own would be the best start for a child?

Answer 11

Fine by me as long as I as a tax payer do not have to support any of you ever.

Answer 12

I think that at that age you are too young and probably trying to fill a void like a lot of other girls.  There was a young girl I used to work with who always wanted a baby, cuz she missed not having a bf and had low self esteem to begin with, and thought a baby to love her would be the answer.  Then I thought that's silly, cuz eventually babies grow up and don't need you that much anymore like they do at first, so you'd just be back to square one again.  I think you should concentrate on making a life for yourself outside of having a child.  Go have fun, get a career you love, and build a life of your own first before giving a life to someone else.  Be selfish while you can.  If you are bored and looking for a change, there are many other things you can do other than have a baby.

Answer 13

yer still a kid yourself...you dont need a baby

Answer 14

Ok, first off, its not really our business to tell you yes or no.

I got pregnant at 16 yrs old. my bf left me. And I had my daughter when i was 17. It wasnt easy at all. Infact I dropped out of school to finish school at a school for young mothers. i had to work 2 jobs as the father left and didnt knoww here he went. i worked one job for daycare and one job to support us. I didnt collect welfare or support. I made it! It was hard.

I cant tell you to not have a child. All I can do is encourage you to wait till your older. becuz I missed out on going to partys, haning out with friends and so much more. trust me you should wait until your older.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 15

your 15 do you have a job and a way to support the baby? you have to finish school, that means daycare, usually 500 a month  you have diaper wich if you use disposables it ccan be around 50-100 a month formula (if you don't breastfeed wich you can't full-time and go to school) is around 200 a month. and thats for the cheap stuff. wipes is 20-50 a month, plus clothes every 3 months (thats how quick they grow out of them) wich even thrift stores is about 200 every 3 months, plus the prenatal care labor and delivery wich for healthy pregnancy is at least 2500-5000 and for a high risk (wich mine was) is 10,00 -20,000. And at 15 it is HARD TO GET HEALTH AND WELFARE., So if you can do all that WITHOUT your parents doing it for you then by all means have a baby but if not wait a few years untill you can.

Answer 16

I think that people don't always get everything they want.

I think that just because you WANT something doesn't mean it's a good idea for you to have it. I mean ... hey .. I WANT to eat chocolate cake for dinner every night.  Does that mean it's good for me?  

Think about the baby ...  what kind of life will a baby have if it's born to a mother with no education, no career prospects, no income, and no future?

Answer 17

wait untill your atleast 18-19 15 is too young

Answer 18

Then I hope you don't plan on asking for government assistance.   Start thinking now how you are going to provide for your child, feed and cloth her or him, provide insurance, go to school so you don't end up with little or no education, don't plan on asking for help from your parents.  It is selfish and irresponsible to expect everyone else to take care of a baby you PLANNED on having and then realize you can't provide for it.

Answer 19

Your too d**n young for a baby...plus, you're still a kid yourself...