What if my mom doesnt support me?

Question

I am grateful for all of the advice everyone has given me so far, but everyone is telling me that i should tell my parents that im pregnant. problem is I don't know my dad at all or anyone from that side of my family and my on my moms side of the family all i know is my mom, i've never heard from my grandparents or any of my aunts and uncles. Mainly what im scared of is that my mom might kick me out and if she does where would i go, im not sure how she might react but if she does react like that and kick me out what would i do, what should i do?

I posted two other questions today wondering what i should do

Questions I asked Today:

first question i asked:

I think i'm in an abusive relationship?

My boyfriend and i have been in a relationship for a few months. He's 17 and i just turned 15. He's one of those guys who's always concerned about who i'm with and what i'm doing. But recently he's been getting very controlling and commanding. He hasn't really hit or punched me but he has grabbed my arm and the back of my neck a few times. It makes me feel uncomfortable when he does this. I know he doesn't really mean to hurt me or anything but i really wish he would stop. I've told him a few times to stop and he always says he's just kidding but sometimes i think he's not. I know this is bad but he does drink and smoke and sometimes gets out of control, yelling, telling me what to do and stuff like that. He does say he's sorry when he realizes how he was acting. A few of my friends tell me i should just break up with him but i can't, especially since i found out about a week ago i was pregnant. I haven't told anyone yet and im not sure how.

I love him to death and i know he loves me.

im not sure what i should do? advice?

Second question i asked:

How should i tell him im pregnant?

I posted a question about an hour ago asking whether or not i was in an abusive relationship. Everyone said I was in an abusive relationship or what was going to become an abusive relationship. Im not sure what im going to do still but i have decided that i was going to tell him that i am pregnant.

Please give me advice about how i should tell him

Answer 1

You need your mother and if you are the only family she has then she really needs you too and probably won't be able to kick you out.  She is going to find out anyways when you start showing so you might as well be upfront about it.

Get away from your boyfriend, dump him leave him whatever it takes.  You don't want to be bringing up a baby at your age with that kind of influence around.  And he will only get worse as he gets older.  Don't even tell him about the baby.  

Answer 2

Ok so here are my answers for your first question:

Personnally, i think you should break up with him if he continues to grab your arm and the back of your neck, yell at you. Tell him to stop and if it gets worse, definitively break up. Its your choice, if you love him more than anything and you dont want to break up, i'd say its a pretty risky situation you have there if you dont break up, but if you do, it's risky too cause he might not take ''no'' as an answer.

Good luck with that...

My answers to your second question:

You should tell him direclty. Stand in front of him, tell him: I'm pregnant. If you are too shy, send him an e-mail or a letter. But you should just dump him and not tell him anything about it the way he treated you. You deserve better, believe me.

And about telling your mom, don't worry, she won't kick you out of the house. But if she does, you can always go to a shelter, stay at your friend's house or any relative. If there aren't any shelters around you, go in a hospital or something, they could help you. Or you can simply stay with your boyfriend. But it would surprise me if she kicked you out.. i mean, what kind of mother would do that? She would be mad for a few days, but after, she'll calm down.

I hoped i helped.

Answer 3

Ok Hunnie,

Here's the deal...I know it's scary cz you dont have any other family but you still need to tell her, if she decides not to support you, there are plenty of organizations that will help you through this and I will be happy to support you in any way possible.  But my advice as far as telling the boyfriend that you're pregnant...well, don't. Who knows how he may react and you don't want to put you or your baby in an unsafe situation. Please IM or email me, I'd be happy to talk. But please, know that you have support.

Answer 4

well first i would tell your mom and see what happens. because if she doesn't support you but is there for you, then you should have her there when you tell your boyfriend so things don't get out of hand. If she doesn't support you, then maybe go a doctor for one thing, they could help you out and you probably should see one soon anyway. i would also maybe have him at the doctors with you. when you tell him make sure its in a public place where there are people who could help if he turns to abuse.

best wishes with your issue.

Answer 5

You need to just tell your mom! It is illegal for your to kick you out of the house. She is going to be upset at first, but she will come around. She might even surprise you! My mom and I were talking about that show "The Secret Life Of The American Teenager" and she said that she would support me through everything and would want me to come to her right away. I thought my mom would flip out at me if I told her that I was pregnant as a teenager!!!