What if parents disagree on male circumcision?

Question

just curious.

like...what if the mom didnt want her baby to get circumcised? but the dad did? does one parent have more right than another? or do they have to work it out?

Answer 1

Kelle - Do some research for gods sake!  They do not "often have hygiene problems", and they wont be embarrassed because the rates of circ/uncirc are 50/50 now.

Anyway, it would come down to the moms decision.  Why?  The baby comes out of the mom, they know it's hers.  She's the patient, she has the say in whatever is done to her and what comes out of her.

Answer 2

They would just have to work it out between themselves.

Answer 3

You have to work it out.

Uncircumcised  males often have hygiene problems  and are embarrassed in communal school showers.

Answer 4

I would think that NOT having unnecessary surgery would win out in any situation.  You can't undo a circumcision if it turns out to be the wrong decision. My son is intact because I chose to do the research, and he was not born needing it done.

Answer 5

it can get tricky, there was a court case where a divorced couple differed on a 12 year old boy, it went years before the courts even considered asking the boy what he wanted which is very disgusting.

sadly it only takes one parent to get it done, both parents do not have to consent, so either parent can just walk in and get it done

this is going by past medical reasoning, and is based on that most surgeries are needed, however circumcision being a surgery that never "needs" done. If a doctor know that the other parent does not want it done they should not do it ethically, but legally they still can

hospitals like the money from circumcisions, baby boys are more profit generators then baby girls, it's sad but the hospitals want to make money

Answer 6

It's something the parents should work out. It might be a little different if the parents aren't together and the mother is going to be the sole provider of the child. But I still think in that case it should at least be discussed first.  

Answer 7

If it comes down to it, the mother has the final say because she is the only one they KNOW is the child's real parent.  The mother is the one asked to sign the consent form.

It's nice if both parents agree, but for me protecting my son was more important.  Luckily my husband agrees with me, and our son is intact.

Answer 8

I'd say you guys need to come to some sort of agreement or compromise. My husband isn't cirumsized and has never had hygeine probs before and he didn't want our son to be circumsized, in the end we had it done and it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. We both got stay with him during the procedure and it only took 3 days to heal. I'm glad I did it now because it is easier to clean when he has a huge blow out and not that any male genitals are that good looking but it does look a little nicer. Well good luck and congrats on the baby boy!

Answer 9

They have to work it out

Answer 10

i think they would have to come to agree i do not think it would be only one parent..if i was in that situation i would talk to his doctor and do plenty of research to figure out what is best and then write down the pros and cons and after that talk and see what we came down with.but that is just my opinion some might disagree

Answer 11

I wanted to get my son cut and my husband didn't, i did lots of research & in the end, i agreed with him, partly because the only pro i see is 'easier to clean' & because i don't have a p***s, so i figured this decision was hubby's to make.

I am glad we didn't get it done. I now know that this procedure is painful, unecessary & outdated. I did tell my husband that he was to teach our son to properly clean it =]

Answer 12

If the parents were still together then they'd just have to work it out, I presume. If the baby lives with one or the other then I would imagine the primary carer would get to make the decision if it came to it. If two parents were still together and literally could not make this decision then perhaps they should have thought twice before having children.

Oh and Kelle or whatever your name is - do your homework hun. I live in Britain where circumcision is very rare, the only guys I've ever heard of having it done over here are Jewish guys who are pretty few and far between, I know a lot of guys and I don't know anybody who is circumcised, nor do I know anyone who has 'hygeine problems' in that department. If someone has genital hygeine problems, it suggests that they're too lazy to keep themselves properly clean, it is NOT as a result of a lack of circumcision. Get your facts straight hun.

Answer 13

well basically whoever agrees on getting the circumcision is smart because it is best to get it while they are young because they will give the baby the shot that will make them not feel the pain and after that its over but if not and they got to get it when they older then its going to hurt them for awhile and I dont think its right I have a son when I was atb the hospital they did it there the 2 day and it was done in less then 5 minutes and then brought him back in the room and he was sound asleep...

Answer 14

They would have to come to an agreement for the surgury to happen. It would be medically unethical for a doctor to perform a surgury on a newborn without the consent of both parents especially when it's not a necessary surgury. If one parent has an objection to it, they can't do it unless the surgury was medically necessary, which circumcision is not.  

Answer 15

the mother always has more say over the child than the father does, unless they are married or if the child lives with the father. if you dont want your child circumsized just tell the baby's father that and if he disagrees then try talk it out. make a list of pros and cons to haviung the procedure done. if that still doesnt work flip a coin.