What if you found out that your dad is unfaithful to your mom?

Question

help me! i wanna help my bestfriend! she found out that her dad has relationship with another woman. this wasn't the first time though...her dad even had a child before (and her mom knows this but just let it go to give him a second chance)...now my friend found about this..and she's d**n depressed! she cried the whole day! even his younger brother did out of disappointment.. their mom still doesn't know about this. should they tell it to their mom? but she's afraid that their family would get ruined...help me...i really pity her...she was always cheerful and all, and her brother is one of the kindest highschool freshmen i've ever met in our school......errrrrrr...i wish i could help..she's asking for an advice..what should i tell?

Answer 1

the mother needs to know the truth, she's been in the dark long enough.

Answer 2

Is there a trusted adult she can talk to? Someone needs to sit down with the Dad and let him know just how much pain he is causing his daughter. Tell her to talk to a counselor at school or her youth pastor.

Answer 3

comfort her, you, your friend, and your mom should all talk. maybe have a girls night-watch crappy movies and eat ice cream! :)    but seriously she needs to talk to her mom because that's not fair to her.

Answer 4

This is an awful lot for a young person to handle.  Be kind to your friend and stand with her while this works out.  

There is no way she is hurting her family.  Her father is being immature and unfaithful and he is hurting the family.

Is there another adult like your own mom, or a school counselor, or a pastor, or a relative, who can be with her when she lets her mom know.  Maybe it should just be another adult who passes on the word about this.  

What your friend's mom decides to do is really for her to decide.  But she should have all the information possible so she can understand her real situation and not be living a life based on lies and fantasy.  

Answer 5

Some people would say stay out of it.  But he's had unprotected s*x before with the result of a child.  Hopefully next time it's not HIV or another STD.  For the reason of your friend's health and safety, I would have the eldest child (your friend or her brother?) tell the mother in a gentle way.  She needs to know.

I know that if my child found out about something like that, I would feel terrible if they kept it to themselves.

Answer 6

there is no easy way but if I was them  I would tell their mom and sooner or later she is going to find out maybe if they talk to your parents about this this is really bad and I wish people would get divorced before they do this to their family this is going to hurt either way