What if you wanted to become a foster parent and your spouse didn't? Would they still allow you to be a foster

Question

parent or not?

Answer 1

No, you wouldn't pass the homestudy part.  A foster child needs the support from everyone in the family.  Maybe once things calm down in you and your husband's life, he will reconsider.  Until then, perhaps you could be a CASA worker.  

Answer 2

Since everyone in the household is evaluated during the process, I highly doubt that any reputable agency would allow your family to adopt.  They're obligation is to the child, and no child should be placed in a family where one of the parents does not want them there.  It would be unfair to the child as well as your other children.

Good luck to you.  

Answer 3

No you both have to go through the classes for foster care and both have to sign off on the paper work. All adults in  the home must.

Even if you could it would not be a wise choice as other have stated

Answer 4

Well, both my parents are foster parents, my mom is the main foster parent being that she is the one that get paid as my father main job is being a priest.

However, my parents both have to undergo all the processes it took to become foster parents, even once I turned 19 I had to under criminal record checks and so forth.

Both parents have to agree cause if not it would not be a good environment for any child.  

Answer 5

Bad decision.You do NOT force children on someone who does not want them.they will resent it and the children will suffer.

Answer 6

guess you have to leave him in order to be a foster mom, some people really only want to take care of their own family i guess they are selfish who really knows we aren't all saints just human.

Answer 7

In order to become a foster parent you have to go through countless hours of paperwork, and interviews, home visits, etc. If your husband is not willing to cooperate, I don't see how it would work for you. Good Luck!!

Answer 8

I would suspect the rules for that would be the same as adoption...all parties have to be in agreement, or they will not allow it.

Answer 9

I highly doubt it.

Besides, why would you want to bring another child into the house when you know your husband doesn't want it?  I understand your desire to want to help out foster children, but it is a big change and a big commitment for the entire family.

Answer 10

I really doubt that any reputable agency would.  It's not an individual process.  Spouses and all children are "interviewed" and you get approved to foster as a family Unit.  I have heard of cases where everyone wanted to except for one child in the family who made her feelings known to the worker doing the home study and that was the end of that.  They were not approved.

Answer 11

Would they allow it?  Yes, depends on the way it is disclosed.  Should they allow it?  NO.  Not in a child's best interest!

Answer 12

I doubt it would be possible. Every adult in the home would have to go through the process of checks and training to make sure they were not a danger to the children in your care, and if your husband was not willing to cooperate, it seems like it would be completely impossible.

Even if it was possible, I don't think it would be a good idea. Foster children need a lot of love and support, and can be a great deal of work. It's a lot for one person to do, and it's a huge change and adjustment for the entire family. I also think it could be very damaging to the children to know that only one parent in the house wants them around, and the other wishes they weren't in your home. Foster children have been through enough stress and trauma without subjecting them to more of it. It's not healthy for any child to be torn between two parents, but knowingly bringing children into a foster home where they're the source of marital conflict seems unwise to the point of being unkind. There's also the concern of your husband resenting them. I just think it would unfairly put the kids in the middle of an incredibly awkward family disagreement, when they are the ones who need to be helped.

You could still do other things to help children in need. You could mentor or tutor an at risk child, volunteer for Big Brothers/Big Sisters or another child-related organization, or if your husband was more on board if it was very temporary, look into providing respite care for children whose fosters parents need a short break.

Without your husband's support, I just don't think foster parenting is going to work.