What? im i still marreid? help from muslims?

Question

my husband and i are not talkin to each other...

i dont want him and he dont want me...

i have'nt seen him for one year... not seen,no takin no s*x with him.

DOES THIS MEAN IM DIVORCE???

but are we still marreid???

do i STILL have to go to the iman to get divorce

PLEASE HELP...

Answer 1

where do you live? ask the Imam in your local Mosque. he should be able to know the laws.  

Answer 2

No, divorce doesn't work like that.you are VERY MUCH MARRIED with out any IOTA of doubt.

you or him could divorce each other,if things are beyond repair.

either of you MUST call it a day,try to reconcile,well if not then just divorce him or he should divorce you,and get along with your lives.

think rationally and realistically,over and above hatred,and bad feelings for each other,try to think about his good qualities and bad,he should do the same,realistically examine where lie the fault,both of you keep your head cool.what happened in the past is gone ,it can never come back,therefore he said she said will lead you no where,don't argue   who said what.think ahead.

measure pros and cons,wisely,see if both of you were better without each other or not,if you have kids cautiously think about them,will YOUR kids be better of if you two were divorced.dont let emotions run over sanity

Remember Allah Allmighty abundantly,Allah Allmighty can do any thing.just need CERTAINITY.

Answer 3

Your husband should "visit" you once in the at least every 4 months. Otherwise he is sinning. If he can't visit you he should give you thalaaq in a respectfull way. So you will be able to keep your honour straight.

My suggestion is you should find him, and ask him for thalaaq.

Bring this situation by your two witneses that where present during the aqd. And the Imam or your waliy. They are all quilty if they don't help you to locate him and ask him for a solution.

If he doesn't want or you can't find him, go to the islamic court (or a local shaikh) with your witnesess, asking for thalaaq.

Insha Allaah You will receive a thalaaq in writen. Keep this for your next marriage, if he (your ex husband) comes to make trouble.

You should do some certain things but they apply to you when the thalaaq is finished. And your mahram/ waliy or the 2 witnesess should inform you about that.

My advise; tell everyone (your local imam, shaikh, ummah, mahram, family in law etc..) about your sitaution. Everyone that doesn't take your situation seriously is joking with something hat Allaah has maded lawfull (i.e. marriage).. Everyone that hears about this, should try his best to help you out by receiving your rights.

Good luck, may Allaah help you. Ameen

Do this, because your next marriage isn't valid if you don't receive thalaaq

  

Answer 4

The Qur'an says of Talaq - divorce:

"Those who forswear their wives must wait four month...

Women shall wait keeping themselves apart, three (monthly) courses.

(The Cow-II-226-228)

There are three types of divorce:

: Raja'ie (Revocable)

: Bayin (Nikah breaker)

: Mughallizah (Unwholesome-irrevocable)

According to Sunni the husband says to his wife: "You are Talaq" and the divorce takes place.

These words said either in privacy or in public.

Authority of divorce is in the hands of the husband, but if the husband delegates authority to his wife to divorce him, then she can give the divorce.

For the procedure of your Talaq - divorce, contact a Maulana at the Masjid - Mosque.

Under Islamic law, at the moment, you are not divorced!

Answer 5

Separation does not mean automatic divorce in any Law.

You should see an Imam about this.  

Answer 6

Shave your beard  , he may prefer you then --also shave your minge--although if hes a Muslim man he will prefer you if you grow a white c*ck.

Answer 7

No, you are still married to him.

Contact an Imam if u have more questions.

Answer 8

yup, your still married, go and see your nearest imam, and he will be able to help you.

Answer 9

You will be divorced only when you get divorce.

Answer 10

Divorce is meant to be done after 3 periods and I guess this is to ascertain that the woman has not been touched by her husband and therefore has had no s*x with him.

You claim that you have not had s*x with your husband for 1 year and you have both been separated and you don't want each other and this is sufficient grounds to claim a complete divorce.

I believe that in the Quran there is a classic example of this type of divorce when the prophet wanted his adopted son and his wife to continue to live as a married couple and Allah revealed to the prophet that they both wanted to separate, or to divorce as you put it, and Allah permitted that they be divorced.

No Imam should refuse you the right to a divorce in this matter.

You should be free and divorced.

Answer 11

You are still married until a pronouncement of divorce is made. Ie I divorce you or etc. Sleeping together or not sleeping together does not make a difference although it does have a root in Indian culture but not Muslim.

Yes you either need to get him to say you are divorced or you can return the wedding gift from him to you or the value of it and get seperation. Its up to you, good luck.