What in the world is wrong with me?

Question

I'm 15 year old girl and I'm VERY obsessed with the way look. Sometimes I'll think I look okay, and then other times I'll think I'm so ugly that I just want to kill myself. It's been really bad lately and nobody that I've talked to seems to understand. There's no way I would be allowed to go to a therapist.I can't take it anymore...please help me!

Answer 1

Maybe you are depressed or just have a really poor self image...but if you say it is impossible to see a therapist there are other options. Every school has a social worker at the school. These people are trained to do many things but I am positive they can help you out and talk to you about what is going on. Just ask a teacher you trust or one of the office staff who the social worker is and that you would like to talk to them. If you want to keep it more private just say that you are interested in that career field and would like to talk to them about that. Okay? Hope that helps.

Answer 2

i know exactly how u feel i think omg i look hot then the next day i feel so ugly i wanna just die right there

mssg me maybe we can talk

i used 2 be very unpopular but then 1 day i just started talking to every1 and that makes u feel beautiful

ohh and when i couldnt get a boyfriend i was very upset

but i gave myself a makeover and i get asked out all the time and i even became a model

there r many ways 2 turn this all around

go up to ur mirror yell the u r beautiful tell urself that u r perfect get into a sport or a club get lots of friends find the real u and u will get over it =)

Answer 3

Don't be afraid most girls your age are.  You have to learn to love yourself.  Try looking at  yourself in the mirror and telling yourself you are beautiful and then believe it.  You will eventually stop having those thoughts.

Answer 4

Oh, do I remember being a teen-ager like it was yesterday!

You are so normal my dear.

You, like I do/did, have low self-esteem. Tons of people, more than you know have the same issue.

At 15, you are at your peak of insecurity. You just want to fit in, be popular, be liked, asked out. This will change as you grow.

Remember this always- You are a one-of-a-kind, unique individual. There`s no one else on this earth that`s just like you. You are smart, pretty, kind hearted, wonderful, awesome person. It`s okay not to be perfect, soon enough you will see, nobody ever is!

I remember this incident in my life.

I was maybe 25, had always had self esteem issues. I was in the bathroom mirror, putting mascara on, and my best friend, who was this drop-dead, gorgeous, could have been a top model, tan, ideal s**y body, tiny, big b***s, perfect teeth, hair, even her voice was beautiful. She got next to me in the mirror and started looking at herself. She started making comments about how this was wrong with her face, she wished she could look like me, "look at you how pretty you are, your skin, your eyes, you`re perfect".

Let me tell you I could NOT believe the things she said. Was she crazy??!! Oh, what I would give to look like her!

I have thought about that time over the years and have learned the very important lesson. It`s not what you see that others see. You see what you feel inside.

Have you ever seen someone that was so pretty, but not really all that? It`s the way they put themselves out there. Confidence is pretty. Self-esteem is pretty. Be sure of yourself. You are ALL THAT.

You`re just young and unsure. You will gain strength as you grow and mature. A big hug, cuz I`ve been there.

Answer 5

Put all the mirrors away and find something else to distract yourself with Looks are not the only thing in the world there is to be concerned about . try to volunteer at your local hospital or humane society .

have a good heart to heart talk with your mom or aunt or a close adult you trust that may be able to convince your mother to allow you to get atthe very leats a mental evaluation.you may need medication to help control your obsesive thoughts .

have your mom take you to your regular family dr then ask to talk to him/her alone and explain your feelings  you will be referred and your parents told of the seriousness of your obsessions.

Good luck ,

best wishes

Answer 6

Please Carrie, realise that your physical appearance is but a mere part of U! Granted it is the first thing most people notice, but still just a facet of what U are. I was blessed with an alright looking body and face, but all are not so fortunate. U are only 15 and have the rest of your life ahead of U. I suspect U are a pretty young lady, and there are many parts of your being that U could accent 2 your advantage. I do wish that U had posted a pic of yourself. Dun sweat it miss.  It will likely get better.

I sincerely hope U find the glow within and tap in 2 it. Let your inner light shine brightly Carrie!!

Timothy

:o)

Answer 7

It's very normal at your age to be rather consumed by the way you look. The reason others around you don't get it is, because image is a very personal thing. People your own age won't really think this is a problem, because they experience it themselves and people who are older will just tell you that you will grow out of it.

I think that fact that you acknowledge it here says alot about your character! :) I think it's great that you are seeing it and trying to nip the problem now. But, it just means that you will not become maniacal about ti later.

Good Luck

Answer 8

you have problems with your self image, when your old enough to go to the doctors on your own you can get a referral from them but until then you will just have to stick it out  

Answer 9

you have body dysmorphic disorder (BDD)

how can this possibly be a bad thing? i have it too.. but i'm personally GLAD (im 16).

after all, its better to actually give a c**p on how you look so you'll  be motivated to take care of yourself even after teen years, instead of eventually becoming leniant/less-caring or lazier (especially after high school when this becomes quite common).

ignore all this "inner beauty" sh*t b/c if you're NOT pretty then you'll find just how FRUSTRATING, IRRITATING, or totally GUILTY of a  feeling you'd have walking in public caused by outer ugliness (despite being falsely depicted as "good-hearted" stereotype)....it is NOT a pleasant feeling; just b/c i have infinite ugly features, DOES NOT mean im kind-hearted & caring

but BDD has not let me give up & now i found a secret solution for myself (& thats NOT inner-beauty related)

i know, ill prob. get lots of thumbs-down, but who cares. this is the truth for me at least. just last year i was suicidal too & hostaged (sent away) twice, but this finally STOPPED at last, b/c i kept researching...

PS you dont need a therapist!! i tried one once & she had the nerve to criticize my looks on why i wasnt comforming to this BS social norms & latest fashions (such as perfect stick-straight hair & stupid trendy doll clothes...must i be a clone to be accepted?) & she blamed me for my own mental issues (depression etc)

YOU'RE BETTER OFF HELPING YOURSELF b/c it'll really save you the heartache & inferiority complexes (like what i got from counceling)....

f*ck the councelors, they DID NOT WORK FOR ME, i repeat, so what are the odds of them helping you properly?

people here on Y!A who say inner beauty is more important...if that really were true then why is outer beauty valued so much? why do guys in reality typically go for looks? these people here are altruists who are only trying to make you feel better in hopes of being chosen as having the 'best answer'

.....this is my 2 cents